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ExH told my 8 year old son

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pomegranatepie · 10/12/2022 21:06

That father Christmas isn't real. He is heartbroken. I asked him if he wanted to believe he was real, and if so that was all that mattered. He seems to be reasonably comforted by that, but clearly he now knows deep down that it's me. But what the hell? I'm really sad for him, and completely baffled as to why on earth exH would do that.

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Sux2buthen · 11/12/2022 18:29

TheDishElopedwiththeSpoon · 11/12/2022 13:16

I don’t think either type of parent is wrong to be honest. Some of us don’t like lying to our kids, and some parents like to let their kids believe in magic. Neither viewpoint is wrong, but they are incompatible.

But some are also just cruel and do things out of spite. Possibly to their ex

ironingboredrefusal · 11/12/2022 18:35

My knobhead ex did. I said well that's why your dad doesn't get any presents from Santa, because he doesn't believe, and that sorted it.

maryback · 11/12/2022 18:49

If you're so fussed about kids finding out, shouldn't you worry that this thread might fall into the wrong hands?
Kids might look at their parents phones and see it and then all the magic of their childhood will be gone.

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WaddleAway · 11/12/2022 18:51

maryback · 11/12/2022 18:49

Why would my 8 year old have unsupervised access to my phone? It’s pass coded.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 11/12/2022 19:58

@CombatBarbie to add to your query, I also wonder how it can be as black and white as "lying?" I really see it as a way to create some magic for children and for us adults to share in the excitement. God knows childhood ends soon enough.

IWasFunBeforeMum · 11/12/2022 20:00

What a twat.

ninjafoodienovice · 11/12/2022 20:07

What a fun sponge twat he is. DS10 is clearly working it all out right now and kinda going along with it but he absolutely did believe at ages 8&9. I'm so sad for your DS and hope karma really kicks your ex up the butt. What a sad excuse of a human being YAtotallyNU

realmsofglory · 11/12/2022 20:09

LondonWolf · 10/12/2022 21:43

Oh the annual competitive earliest non Santa believer thread with requisite implication that the younger the child stops believing, the better the parenting 🙄

No it really isn't. Once a child starts school, they will have more and more people telling them FC isn't real. I don't think a lot of parents realise their DC are humouring them. Very few KS2 kids believe, although having said that DD had a friend in Yr8 who still believed and was quite shocked and upset when she found out

IhearyouClemFandango · 11/12/2022 21:12

I'm a grown up and still get a stocking from my parents, they don't stop once you stop believing.

LBFseBrom · 11/12/2022 21:27

IhearyouClemFandango · Today 21:12
I'm a grown up and still get a stocking from my parents, they don't stop once you stop believing.
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Quite right too. I always have done a stocking for mine who has never believed in Santa. We still had fun.

I think many children pretend they believe because parents get upset if they don't (mine did, at least my mother did).

Liorae · 12/12/2022 08:04

EricNorthmanYesPlease · 10/12/2022 22:12

I'd sit and explain that the reason his Dad doesnt think FC is real, is because he never got any toys when he was little. He was too naughty.

🙄yes, pile another lie on, this one casting aspersions on the child's father.

Liorae · 12/12/2022 08:12

Isthisexpected · 11/12/2022 13:32

Mine believed until 11/12 so this is just mean.

They did yeah.

Liorae · 12/12/2022 08:14