Petty things that annoy you on Mumsnet.

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What little things on MN annoy you more than they should?

People responding to others on a thread but not quoting them so I have to scroll back pages and hunt for the comment that they were responding to.

People referring to 3 and 4 year olds as toddlers.

If someone's posts annoy me and their name involves something that I love, then that bothers me even more.

The one poster who always responds to a "What's your favourite episode of a show? or What's your favourite dish from the Chinese takeaway?or similar threads by informing us how much they hate takeaways or wouldn't watch said show if they had a gun held to their head.

The phrase "Give your head a wobble." It's utterly infuriating.

People pleasers are real, though, and they're usually right when they describe themselves as one. The mistake they make is thinking that it's a good thing. There's a reason they're always posting to ask why nobody likes them for themselves.

Dthis, Dthat, Dtheother. Annoying and makes long posts very difficult to read.

"Sorry but"

"Just posting for traffic"

"I've NC for this"

Use of childish words like holibobs and hubby

Constant reference to their own lives/situation which doesn't help posters.

"Naice" - what does that even mean?

The general constant oneupmanship

The vitriol directed at Jack Monroe - when the same posters are on other threads preaching about being kind...

I could go on but I think I'll just log off.

15 posters who all come on to give the same ‘advice’ (usually a sneery criticism).
The ceaseless ‘innocent’ OPs about Kate , Meghan or Harry and a couple of other regurgitated bitchfests - when it’s just an excuse to be cruel.

The competitiveness of some users on the forum.

It always seems to be a battle who of why can eat the least, spend the least, put the heating on the least, give the least Christmas presents, etc.

People who are in genuine dire straits don’t tend to talk about their own situations in the same manner that these posters do. So it ends up, in my opinion, with a bunch of decently well off middle class women having a competition with each other over who can be most miserable.

Leading on from that, the regular shopping threads where users proudly proclaim that they can “feed” a family of 8 on £15 a month and the infamous Mumsnet chicken which lasts for at least 4 meals. It’s obviously bullshit with lots of very important details omitted. All it does is make posters who haven’t realised it’s bullshit feel awful about themselves.

Brought a house.
Loose a purse.

And I know outwith is used in Scotland but it just looks wrong.

I am weak and have capitulated, but I agree on the DH, DD, DM etc.

Several of them are ambiguous anyway - is DS son or sister; is DD daughter or dad; is DP partner or parent(s); is DF friend or father; is DGD granddaughter, goddaughter or grandad?!

Autocorrect (or fat fingers) frequently changes DD/dd to 'dad' anyway, so you read about people taking their dad to school and worrying about crossing the busy roads or their dad being desperate for a Barbie castle for Christmas!

Yes, I remember a post not too long about that exact scenario.

They seem to assume that being amazingly lovely to every person they encounter should equate to a huge friend group. When in reality most normal folk like other normal folk with raw feelings and emotions.

No one wants to be friends with someone who tries their hardest to be perfect all the time. It just reads as fake, or patronising.

I'm a bit taken aback at the sheer strength of feelings that some people have on royal matters. The raaage they feel when royal X is perceived to have slighted royal Y. More fervour than the most devoted K Pop fans. It's all very weird.

The people who post on AIBU and then argue they weren't being unreasonable when everyone tells them they were.

People who say "myself" several times in a post. It really shouldn't bother me as much as it does.

The people who keep telling posters they are tone deaf because "most people" are struggling to feed their families. I'm not, most of my friends aren't either. It's not tone deaf to talk about spending money on something that isn't heating or food.

It just annoys me. It’s petty, it’s irrational, it’s totally a ‘me’ problem. I don’t doubt there’s plenty I do that annoys other people, both in and off the Internet.

I'm a bit taken aback at the sheer strength of feelings that some people have on royal matters. The raaage they feel when royal X is perceived to have slighted royal Y. More fervour than the most devoted K Pop fans. It's all very weird.

Same here - I really don't see what great importance they have in people's lives to make them so fiercely opinionated about them. It's never even about the King or Queen, who might arguably have more impact in ordinary folk's lives.

It's like getting furious about the fact that Mavis Cobblebottom who lives in a village 83 miles away, and whom you've never met, has switched her weekly shop to Asda after the trolley collector at Tesco made a potentially rude comment about her driving once!

People who start twinkly little innocent threads about meghan markle as bait to lure in all the swivel-eyed loons who love castigating her. Who are these people? They seem able to write screeds and screeds at a time and hang off the woman's every word or move. If I was meghan I'd have left the country too!

When parents say their 2 year old has undiagnosed ASD/ADHD and that’s why they can’t sit nicely in a restaurant/don’t wait patiently at the GP/won’t obediently put their coat on when asked and throws a tantrum about zipping it up. I’m not saying their child doesn’t have ASD/ADHD but none of those are symptoms, that is totally normal 2 year old behaviour.

Oh and all babies seem to be diagnosed as having a dairy allergy/silent reflux/both. Again, I’m not saying they don’t have it but sometimes babies do just cry a lot and keep you up all night, it’s totally normal baby behaviour. That’s why having a baby is known to be life changing and hard!

The people who keep telling posters they are tone deaf because "most people" are struggling to feed their families. I'm not, most of my friends aren't either. It's not tone deaf to talk about spending money on something that isn't heating or food.

Ha, yes.

OP: what is a good, large family car to buy? (Subject matter obvious from title)

Poster: you do realise that some are struggling to pay for x, y or z? How insensitive are you for talking about buying a big car?
🙄

When people say "It makes my teeth itch".
Fanny gallops🤮

People posting topic specific threads in AIBU or chat.

Also, how around 75% (it seems)of people have emetophobia. I had never heard of this before I saw it on MN. I'm sure some do, but most of us surely just find vomit a bit smelly and gross?

"Fanny gallops" is absolutely repulsive. So course.

That people can’t ever just be complete arseholes or children can’t just be badly behaved brats with lack of/weak parenting, they always must have [insert condition here]

Sometimes people are just nasty and some kids are just really badly behaved. It does actually happen.

Posting in the wrong section

Filling every post with * bolds and* strike through

Starting a post with "am I the only one who..." always about something so mainstream

Posters who come onto these threads and tell posters how wrong their views are.

Forgot one.

I'm putting the kettle on - what does everyone want

Followed by lots of "oooh I'll have a hob nob please". "Ooh milk and two sugars please"

Threads titled "What temperature is your house?"

What can possibly be gained from this?

If I say that my house is 17 degrees how useful is that?
If I say that my house is at 24 degrees how useful is that?
If I say that my house is at 9 degrees how useful is that?

You can either afford to have the heating on or you can't.
All houses are different.
Everyone has a different tolerance for cold.
It very much depends if you are just sitting watching TV or have been out sweeping leaves (other activities are available).

Nothing wrong with the threads with useful tips for saving energy/coping with the cold, but just asking "what temperature is your house" is (IMO) pointless.

As someone else said upthread saying that you are toasty and warm will be jumped on as being "tone deaf" so not many replies will say that and people then get a skewed view of what is "normal".

I've never seen this.

Must happen on a corner of MN I don't frequent.

I was just about to post the affectation of writing a sentence then using strike through on part of it. Since there is still no edit function on MN, the strike through will have been added at the point of initial posting.

Why do posters do this?

Is it to indicate that they think their opinion might be considered unreasonable or risible, or otherwise subject to being challenged? Or is it intended to indicate irony?

I'm putting the kettle on - what does everyone want

I've never seen this.
Must happen on a corner of MN I don't frequent.

I've seen it a lot in Chat - this or 'I'm going to McDonald's, what does everybody want?'

I presume it's just people who want a bit of interaction but can't really think of an actual topic to discuss. Doesn't interest me in the least, but I just scroll on by and leave those whom it does interest to have a good old blether and all the best to them.