Does everyone just put up with a Christmas day they don't want?

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Apparently this is what my OH thinks. Does everyone just put up with difficult relatives?

DH's DM doesn't want to have her Dsis because she is tedious and bad company. It would "spoil Christmas". Her other siblings and wider family have never asked.

Obviously we do not have to ask this person. DH will though. I have never had a Christmas day I want. I feel sorry for our DC. It is a shit situation, we will make the most of it.

We will have a lovely Christmas Eve and Boxing Day instead.

FFS. Zombie.

I haven’t seen the film, but ‘Failure to Launch’ sounds like a good description! Might go looking for the film now 🙂

Nope. Decided when my kids were toddlers that we weren't going to shlep 200 miles down the motorway for Christmas. We've spent the last 20 Christmases just us, our family of five. That's it. My family are a 3 hour drive away and rarely come to visit us, so we've stopped feeling the guilt altogether.

No - very lucky with family. DM & DF can’t come to us anymore as DM isn’t very mobile & it’s too much for them to have us there all day so last year we popped over in the morning to exchange presents then had dinner at home just the 3 of us. It was lovely. DD14 never usually eats with us but she stayed at the table for quite a while & we had a real laugh together.

No, haven’t for years. You shouldn’t, either.

I stopped all this nonsense by blaming the kids and downsizing so there are no spare bedrooms. 😁

"DC prefers to be at home with his presents. DC gets overwhelmed at Christmas"

That's what kids are for. 😂

Otherwise we were chasing our tails to visit 4 sets up grandparents (all divorced and remarried!) and we literally spent one Christmas in the car travelling up and down the motorways. Not anymore, motherfuckers!

When I was a kid we never saw Grandparents on Christmas Day and neither did DH! so why our parents assume we'll see them ON Christmas Day is beyond me.....

Enough is enough. have the Christmas you want! After all - it's YOUR annual leave!

Oh no! this is a zombie thread! where do they come from? I probably posted on this thread last year as well 😂

It’s not a great film but the concept is interesting.

Yes me.

Does it matter? It's just a conversation about Christmas. The op might be long gone but the chat is still quite interesting.

My take home from this is that you shouldn't expect to be invited to family Christmases if you're a rude misery, however old you are.

I think this must have popped up on similar threads list?

Of course Christmas is about guilt and obligation. A lot of people feel ok about leaving relatives alone on any given Sunday. Christmas Day is different.

My DH is a lot nicer than me. That is a fact.

This year we are going to ILs and taking aunt with us for Christmas Day. I am making lots of plans to see my family and friends on the days before and after 25th.

My DC are not made to sit at the table longer than they wish to. If we want to watch a Christmas special or film, aunt needs to hop on board the being a good guest bus and get on with it. Or have a nap.

I don't do Xmas. Haven't done it for years! It's fabulous. No buying for anyone since we all agreed it's nonsense!