If you could meet your younger self, what advise would you give ?

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I would tell myself to stop trying to grow up so fast and enjoy being young!

1. don’t let you relatives sponge off of you. They sucked every spare penny off of me. Do not feel guilty if you have a small amount of savings for a rainy day. Keep them as you will get sod all help when you are struggling to afford rent and food.
2. If your family are dysfunctional and alcoholics and drug abusers do not return to you home town even if there is plenty of employment there.
3. If you grew up in a DV household with father who abused your mother then you do need therapy as simply moving away isn’t enough as you have been conditioned over many years.
4. Before have kids talk to your DH/DP how the housework/childcare/mental load will be split and make sure they pull their weight before tou have kids. Too many men just assume the women will do everything on mat leave and then don’t improve when their wife goes back to work!

Leave him the second you find out you're pregnant, come back to the UK, and never tell him about the baby.

Play more golf.

This

And exercise

Don't drink so much alcohol

Ask for help.
Your family is not normal.

Questions like this always remind me of this video. I remember hearing it about 15 years ago and i watch it every few months.. it always stuck with me and gave me a lump in my throat 🥺

Have a bit more self respect and a bit less time for people who weren't worth it.

You’re absolutely beautiful and extremely intelligent and capable. Do not settle for less than you deserve.

Have more self respect in every area of your life. You're so much more than you're allowing yourself to be. Stop worrying what people appear to think of you.

Work harder in school and university.

He's lying to you. He will always lie to you. He is not worth a percentage of the person you left him for. Don't marry him. (But then not have the children so....)

You have so much going for you. Those mistakes that you thought were so bad - you can't even remember them now.

Don't give up dancing.

This in a nutshell 🤗

I would tell her to avoid my DH and to focus on her own life and career. To have as much fun as possible and to be self reliant.

I tell my daughters this all the time (not the bit about DH).

Jumping back into this as I've just had some news.

If you fall out with or lose contact with a friend, yet still really like that friend, try to get back in touch and resume the friendship. Some bust-ups can be repaired, some can;t. But I suspect plenty are in the first category, so please try to work it out and keep your friendship in good nick.

I lost contact with a good school friend many years ago over something stupid and trivial. But I could never stop thinking about her. I've kept her wonderful letters from the pre-internet age. Always thought I'd visit New York, look her up and try to make amends. But then I googled her last night and found she had died in October.

Please MNers, if an old friend is on your mind, look them up, call them up, write to them, send them a Facebook message. Whatever. Don't leave it until it is too late, as I have.

Travel more, do more.
Look after health and self better.
Don't fawn over every man who vaguely looks your way.
Buy the flat in your hometown/neighbouring town that was totally affordable at the time.

That sex on a first date can be a good thing.

Yes he is autistic. You are right, and they are ALL wrong. No, this is not what having a toddler is like for everyone. Please trust your instincts and get him some help.

Shag EVERYONE and EVERTHING that moves, twice and three times over (because you’ll be unintentionally celibate by 42!).
And buy the flat in Montmartre for a song.

Oh shit! Wrong thread! Take my advice anyway, OP. Shag everything! Sorry. I’ll exit out the back.

Wait a minute… I’m not on the wrong thread. But I am confused. Right. Grab my coat. Leaving.

Have a good long, hard think about what you are good at and follow that path. Don't chase others down their path because they seem to be successful. You are not them and you have your own way to find. You know more than you think you do. Be careful of what others tell you. People generally want what's best for you but if they see you struggling with a decision they will try to make it for you. Take care who you listen to. Plenty of people will influence your decision but not many will take responsibility for your mistakes.
Ignore that lad who makes fun of you, he'll ask you out when you are in your 30s!