If you could meet your younger self, what advise would you give ?

[Freshmind001]

I would tell myself to stop trying to grow up so fast and enjoy being young!

Stop eating. Being slim will make your life immeasurably better so do it at 20, not 37. And go back to London now, and don’t leave.

stay away from men.

Don't marry him.
Don't go missing.
Finish your degree sooner.
Pay into a pension sooner.
Don't deal with it that way.
Shut up sometimes

😯 oh dear!

Get on antidepressants sooner.

Made me feel a little sad...

(Hugs)

It would of been better to have the relationship with the other lady, when it was offered, after spitting from lady c.

Don't go into teaching.
Spend more time with your parents.

None of those men were worth it.

Don't fuck up your education
Don't spend everything you earn...have money saved for emergencies.
Travel while you're child free!
Don't worry about what people think of you
Look after your health so it doesn't bite you on the arse later in life.
Wait for Mr Right...
When you find Mr Right Don't let him be the one that got away.

Mid 1990s - don't come back to the UK.... You can set up a pension and have a nice overseas life!

You are right about not wanting children, and you won’t regret it. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Yes, you do want children

Don't marry Dh.

Don't waste 9 years on him. Your depression won't go away completely but your anxiety will get better the day you walk away

Look after your health/teeth
Buy property.
Invest in certain shares.
Don't go out on xyz date as you will bump into the most horrible man and be fooled by him.
Take out critical life insurance.

Don't marry him. Or him, either.

Reader, I married them.

Don't mess up your GCSEs, go to university, don't marry first DH or second DH. You are good enough. Travel. Take better care of your health.

X 100. So much pain caused by poor decisions in this area.

Say yes to having braces.

You can put off having children for another 5 years.
Use those 5 years to travel and have fun.
Take better care of your health and exercise more.
Enjoy your parents company whilst you have them.
When marriage goes bad have the courage to LTB sooner.

To my 13yo self: "I want to be you again. High-spirited, full of song and dance and with a sense of humour that makes you the toast of the school." (Well, the headmistress disapproved of me but I had friends across all year levels.) Now I'm the opposite of that kid, and I want her back.

Spend more time on a dancefloor in your 20s than worrying about being a grown up like having kids or buying a house. Yes, this absolutely, @frozendaisy. And don't stop when you turn 30, or 90. Keep on grooving. Dance is the greatest happiness-maker and stress-buster of all time.

So, so much. But then I wonder if I hadn’t had those experiences if I would be who I was today. There was so much trauma though, and I wonder if I could have managed to dodge some of it with different decisions. I think MN probably tried advising me under an old username many years ago haha I would be just as unlikely to listen to me from the future as I was from those women that tried to help back then.

You don't have to stay in boring jobs just because they are secure. There are other jobs out there that are fun and interesting.
Have more self respect in relationships.