If you could meet your younger self, what advise would you give ?

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I would tell myself to stop trying to grow up so fast and enjoy being young!

Don't worry so much and always appreciate the simple things in life.

Do not get back into contact with that ex. Leave well alone for your own sanity.

I would repeat my late mother’s advice to me “if something isn’t making you feel nice stop doing it”.

l would also add your body is a temple, respect it and be proud of it.

You are not fat.
Do not buy a house where your DH wants to live, move home to your family.
As a SAHM do not rely on your DH’s pension like he told you, get your own.
Do not make your life all about your kids, they will leave one day.

I regret not doing it too.

You are fat. Move a little more and eat a little less and make it a habit.

Do something you like. You spend a lot of time at work

Having a husband does not validate you - stop wishing and crying and hoping for one.
Go out and follow purists you love.

Buy that bitcoin you ummed about after you first heard a news story about it, sat on your sofa, on a Friday not. Not I remember or anything!!

OMG so much advice, I have so many regrets in life…
• try harder to pass your maths GCSE, it will hold you back in life if you don’t.
•Be brave, go to uni, get a good career!
•learn to drive while your young
• Make more effort to date, socialise, and just be young in your 20’s, you won’t get this time back
•don’t lose contact with your friends
•don’t let anxiety hold you back
•speak up in social situations, be brave, people will like you if you give them chance.
• Give the guy a chance who you’re going to meet in a few years. He’s a bit boring but he really is a good man, and you will find out in a few years time how rare genuinely good men are (at least the ones not taken). Settle down with him, have a beautiful wedding, have children while your still young enough to…
•Don’t get into relationships that you know have no future, your wasting precious time.
•Don’t let anxiety get the better of you

Actually I think if I could go back and meet my younger self, I would give her a really big hug too, she needs it…

Another for me is to spend more time with your mum, she will be gone sooner than you think.

Do not get involved with men who don’t deserve or respect you

dont waste time trying to please everyone.

try and save money

Wow I could relate to soooo many, it's quite gut wrenching. I wish I could hug my younger self, I have so many regrets!

Don’t worry so much about other peoples opinions.

Do not make your life all about your kids, they will leave one day.
So so much this.

Concentrate on your career rather than piss-arsing about all through your twenties.

It will be all right in the end and if it's not alright it's not the end yet !

Get a retainer to wear at night to maintain those lovely straight white teeth. Can't believe how much they've shifted and twisted over the years.

Things are never as bad as you think they are.

You’ll never be able to please everyone.

The only person worried about how much you weigh is you.

and a fave from my Nan that I wish I’d listened to “never a borrower nor a lender be”

Break up with someone the first time they cheat on you. They never learn and you can't 'fix' them.

You are not fat.
You are beautiful.
Do not listen to ANY of the family insults and try and undo the toxic programming sooner.
Buy a home.
Stay at the first school.
You are not a horrible person.
Don't have relationships with those awful men or marry any of them.
Don't have children with them, get more dogs.
Being kind and caring is not a weakness.

I could go on. I would love to go back and give myself a hug. Tell myself to take any and all opportunities to get out. So many missed opportunities, what a wasted life.

Avoid the rum punch and Piña coladas on your honeymoon coz you'll be busy 9 months later !.

There is plenty of time for babies, going home after uni would not have been the end of the world...it may even have offered more opportunities!

Don't settle. (I settled and now I'm stuck)

It feels wasted but hindsight is a wonderful thing and if I did things differently who's to say things would have been better, maybe just different.

Don't have children. You are not and never will be maternal. You will not be a 'good' parent.

Find something that fires your enthusiasm and stick with it, be it hobbies or a job.

If you want a comfortable lifestyle, dont get together with a poor man.

Oh, and travel when you get the opportunity.

Don’t take physics and chemistry GCSE’s - you aren’t any good at sciences.
Dance with that boy who asked you to.
Stay away from that older man - he’s bad news.
Tell your parents you love them every chance you get.
Go on that gap year.

Don't settle!