Hatred of football

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I need some help to try and get less wound up and annoyed by football.

Having a lovely weekend both myself and DH have had time away at other activities/ hobbies. This afternoon while we had no plans he’s choosing to watch the football, all fine but he’s then in another room not watching the kids and MIA for 2 hours.

i wouldn’t mind but I have nothing similar, it’s not like I put on a 2hr movie and just ignore my family once a week or sometimes even more. We both go to gym / out for meals with friends /
cinema and I don’t mind….maybe because it’s less often?

It just seems to be on the telly all the time. If its
not cup A, then it’s cup B and so on. It turns him into a mindless drone and affects his mood.

I think I’m almost jealous of football, I feel like he would rather spend his time watching it than spending time with me….which isn’t completely true, if he have plans he’s ok not watching it but if we are just at home i swear it’s always on (or feel like it)

Not really after anything just wanting to
rant!

Why not get involved and visit him at half time with a hot dog and some pop corn!

Maybe you and the kids could surprise him with a cheerleading routine.

This is why anything more than a passing interest in football was always a deal-breaker for me in a partner.

Now I’ve left stbx there is no sport in this house ever bliss never again will I suffer any sport.

It's not football that's the problem, it's your relationship. Speak to him and find a solution that works for both of you.

This isn’t a problem with football. It’s a problem with your DH.

I love sport; watch loads of football, and successfully work & parent a baby. I don’t zone out for two hours whenever someone kicks a ball.

He chooses to be a mindless drone & let it affect his mood; or if he’s extremely unlucky and doesn’t… he chooses to still watch it knowing that will happen.

I think the key phrase here is “I have nothing similar” - what is stopping you finding something? Have you tried watching a match with him? Get the DCs watching?

And pigs might fly 😂

This seems a dramatic reaction. Why can't you have it on in the room with the kids in so you're all together. That's what we are doing.

This is what I came on here to say.

affects his mood

In what way?
I'm eternally grateful that I never have to sit through any kind of sporting event.

Why can't he watch the football with the kids? There's is a lot of football coming up in the next 4 weeks so you probably need to come to some kind of compromise.

Oh god I hate football, I hate snooker I hate the endless airtime on prime time given to men's spots.

I cant bear the crowd noise .
It's a no sport on tv house here and it often means tv isn't on because it's just everywhere.

As for your cocklodger, unless you are genuinely getting timeequal regular leisure time then I'd say he's a lazy selfish arse. He can Have the kids, do the cooking any number if multitasking things whilst watching start with cleanibgvroom tv is in. and so either he pulls his weight extra to make up for this or you dump him because ugh.

I never care about dh and then 2 ds watching football. I sit in same room reading/ scrolling and hear enough to keep me up to date When our 2 ds were teens it was a great connection point for me with them following the teams/ players. I can't watch it as too slow and boring but l totally get that they love it.
Be warned that it will be nonstop football further next month!

Yep, me too. Too many football mad relatives, didn't want to go down that route.

I used.to really not like football. Then I had 2 dcs who both play and have matches and training every week. And so since then I have grown to appreciate it. All the training they must have done. Alll the skllls. As one football manager said (I think Klopp). Winning means nothing and everything. A bit like life really.
If your dh wants to watch it so what? Unless he is being mean or nastly as a result, then let him.

How old are the dc? Mine now also love football and will watch it with dh. Gives me free time.

😂 oh to be in your mind..

It sounds like teen screen time OP. I would dump the kids on him sometimes and take the same amount out for you - doesn’t have to be special, go read a book. Figure out what uneven time you are getting and tell Him you are now evening it out, whivh may mean less football.

Is this a funny joke? She should serve him food and entertainment while he’s ignoring the family?

Anyway, the issue here isn’t football - although I do find I hear this complaint about football (and video gaming) more than anything else. It’s that he feels entitled to opt out of family life in a way that you would not be entitled to. Maybe you should just start wandering into the other room for a Harry Potter marathon or to read uninterrupted for two hours.

Yep, likewise. If I was ever single again I wouldn't consider a relationship with a sports fan (TV spectator) or something that had to go and support their team every week or so. To me it's absolutely mind numbing unless I lived in a massive house and so couldn't hear it!

Same for me to be honest.

My wife "casually" as if I liked football on our first date...
I later discovered it would probably have been a deal breaker...

And the answer was no.

😂

Why can he not watch the kids as well
as watch the football? Most people do that if they’re watching TV.

Of course my comment was a joke! 😩😂

I briefly went out with someone who held a season ticket for a premier league side ... that was my 'never again' moment!