Hatred of football

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I need some help to try and get less wound up and annoyed by football.

Having a lovely weekend both myself and DH have had time away at other activities/ hobbies. This afternoon while we had no plans he’s choosing to watch the football, all fine but he’s then in another room not watching the kids and MIA for 2 hours.

i wouldn’t mind but I have nothing similar, it’s not like I put on a 2hr movie and just ignore my family once a week or sometimes even more. We both go to gym / out for meals with friends /
cinema and I don’t mind….maybe because it’s less often?

It just seems to be on the telly all the time. If its
not cup A, then it’s cup B and so on. It turns him into a mindless drone and affects his mood.

I think I’m almost jealous of football, I feel like he would rather spend his time watching it than spending time with me….which isn’t completely true, if he have plans he’s ok not watching it but if we are just at home i swear it’s always on (or feel like it)

Not really after anything just wanting to
rant!

So is each X Factor final.

X Factor final is on at the weekend and it's not really a historical event like the World Cup is.

Ugh I feel the same but yeah, it's him not the game.

Drives me mad mine can sot and watch sport all weekend I seem to just cook and clean and don't get a rest. I ask him to entertain the kids so I can get on and do it all quicker and he just watches telly so they just get bored and moan. PISSES ME RIGHT OFF! And yes, we talk/argue about it each weekend.

Never trust a man that doesn’t like football or dogs for that matter. Wrong uns the lot of them.

It's not football that's the problem, it's your relationship. Speak to him and find a solution that works for both of you.

This.

Are you going to explain why the dc can't be in the same room ?
Or you for that matter ?

Why not?

There is no reason random football games are ‘historical events’ and the final episode of Mad Men or this year’s final of I’m a Celeb aren’t. They are all televised entertainment. If anything I’d say Mad Men was more important because that only ended once. You’re just spouting random announcements like ‘football is more important’ with absolutely nothing to back that up. It isn’t more important or worthy than any other televised entertainment.

The world cup is an event that is shown on TV. But the tournament has been around for longer than television has. I'm a Celeb or Mad Men are just shows made for entertainment, strictly for TV. I liked Mad Men but I couldn't tell you what year the final episode was. Everyone knows the year England won the World Cup, it's one of the most well known years in English history. (along with 1066 and 1215).

Which is why every episode of judge Judy is so important. We've had courts since records began super important we fail to undertake any chores whilst leaving our partners to do them , so we can take part in this long tradition!!

Ffs your arguments are stupid.

😍perhaps it was meant to be!
You can wear the blue jacket x

Cue all the "my husband doesn't like football, isn't he wonderful?" et al posts, yawn!

Mumsnet. The only place you are told to leave your other half if he likes football.

why cant you find something else to do whilst is on instead of complaining here?

That still doesn’t explain why the World Cup is a ‘once in a lifetime’ event, while the series finale of Mad Men (which actually only happened ONCE) isn’t. It doesn’t express why it’s more important than programmes that are ‘just made for TV,’ or why you feel so confident proclaiming that televised football is somehow more important than any other televised entertainment.

Nobody’s said that. They’re saying a relationship where one person opts out of parenting to stare at the telly and then gets moody about a team he isn’t even on isn’t a very good partner.

I dislike football intensely. It’s not the game as such, which is just stultifyingly boring, , but the worship of it, the endless talk about it, the seriousness it’s afforded, and the obscene amount of money thrown at men for kicking a ball around!
Not to mention, the racism and misogyny which is at the heart of mens football.
Luckily my DH feels the same! I could not be in a relationship with a man child who thinks football is the be and end all!
Heres hoping Wales and England are knocked out soon, so we dont have to listen to this football coming home shit for weeks

That still doesn’t explain why the World Cup is a ‘once in a lifetime’ event, while the series finale of Mad Men (which actually only happened ONCE) isn’t.

You are aware that each match is a different match, aren't you ? They aren't putting the same match on repeat each time........
I mean, East Enders in on 4 x a week every week. I am able to understand that something different happens in each episode, even without watching it.
Come to that, I am able to 'NOT watch' it quite easily because it doesn't appeal to me, without starting a thread every week about why there needs to be so much EastEnders on television.

The OP literally says "This afternoon while we had no plans" , so I can't see what the problem is. If my dh wants to do something I don't particularly want to do any afternoon or evening, then I am perfectly capable of doing something I want to d, whilst he does something he wants to do.

Every episode of Mad Men is also a different episode of Mad Men. The final episode was the only final episode there would ever be. Every cricket match is a different cricket match, every GBBO is a new series with new contestants. This is what I mean about people acting like football is somehow special and ‘above’ other televised entertainment, but they can never actually back that up with any reasoning. Just ‘it’s special! It’s different! Every game is different! It’s once in a lifetime!’ When those things apply to literally anything somebody enjoys.

And the OP also states in her op that he zones out and it affects his mood. I wouldn’t tolerate a partner who opted out of parenting and became moody over I’m a Celeb, so why is it tolerable over a televised sport?

Start watching tennis @Greyphoto it's great

And the OP also states in her op that he zones out and it affects his mood. I wouldn’t tolerate a partner who opted out of parenting and became moody over I’m a Celeb, so why is it tolerable over a televised sport?

Which takes us right back again to it not being football, but it being an issue with the OP's dh.

I'm watching the England match as I type this, but am still interacting with other people.

What I find incredible is that all this hoopla is about men, dressed in different coloured clothes, kicking a ball with their feet. If you really break it down, the inanity of what we have to hold sacred, because men take it so seriously, is mind blowing.

A ball. Kicked in a net by feet. Multi billion pound industry.

What could we do globally if men got behind something that actually mattered…

I dated a football fan. That was what made me decide never to do it again. All future boyfriends had no more than a vague passing interest in televised team sports.

Which I’ve said in my very first post, that this is an issue with when husband. I also find it absurd that people are acting like football is somehow any more special than literally any other thing. It isn’t.

It's the world Cup. It's a big deal for football fans so dont begrudge him that. I'm really in to football and I love it. I think it sounds a bit needy that you don't like him being absent for 2 hours. Me and DH often do our own things. I'd feel incredibly suffocated if we always had to spend every minute as a family of 4. Find your own hobbies if you're resentful.

Could be worse, at least he wasn’t watching rugby

Don't you understand the attraction with any competitive sport?

Football is entertainment. Something people watch when not working and doing more productive things. You could say the same about movies and TV. Multi billion pound industries where we watch people pretending to be people they're not.

Entertainment and down time matters. All work and no play isn't good for anyone, irrespective of what you're interested in.

Bah, zombie thread 🤦