How many of you are still with your first boyfriend from school or Uni? How common is it?

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Just wondering, no one of my friends pulled it off.

None of my school friends are with their boyfriends from then. Two of them made sure they went to the same university as their boys, and ended up splitting up within the first term.

One of my university friends is still with his girlfriend from that time.

I can’t imagine it, personally. My grown up self is very different from my teenage or student self, and even my early 20s self. None of my early boyfriends would have been long term prospects for me, but I had a very fun time experiencing lots of things and people, finding out who I was, who they were, and what I wanted from my life and partner 😁

I met DH in my late 20s and we’ve been together 25 years, very happily.

Very much not my first boyf though.

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Been with Dh since uni, but he was my fifth boyfriend so I guess that isn’t what you mean.

Three of my closest friends are married to their first boyfriends, who they met either first term of university or just before. One other set of friends met in sixth form and are still together. So oddly common among my cohort! And this is all well travelled, highly educated people with multiple PhDs between them, not people who never left home. We’re all just turning 40.

DH and I got together when we were 18, I was in upper 6th he was on his gap year. He wasn’t my first boyfriend, but from pretty early on it was more serious. He’d not really had a proper girlfriend before.
That was 14 years ago, we married after 7 years once I graduated. We both have changed a lot but were fortunate that we changed together iyswim in ways which complimented each other.
A handful of uni friends recently married their first university partners - couples who met very early on at uni, though I’m sure they’d all had relationships of some sort while at school. They’ve mostly been together 12 or so years. I do wonder if we have a particularly settled friendship group!

Well thats a huge generalisation ,relationships will either work or they wont ,i didnt meet my dh untill was 31 we have been together 17 years i would say we have a fairly strong relationshop ,despite not being together from school or whatever

I had a boyfriend for a bit as a teenager but DH is my first serious relationship from uni and we're still together 17 years later.

My good friend is still happily married to her first serious boyfriend she met at uni.

Also my parents have been together since DM was 15 and still happily married 44 years later!

I met DH my first night at uni. We moved in together 3 days later, married when I qualified as a doctor, and were together until his untimely death at the age of 36. I never remarried and still love and miss him 31 years later.

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Yep, i suspect its not that common.

Yes me. Been with my husband since we were 20. Been together 13 years and it is our sixth wedding anniversary today.

Posters who are saying that they were different people when they were 15/18/21 than they are now - yes, so was I and so was DH. The point being that we grew and developed together, so sort of grew around each other. I can imagine that if one partner develops in a way that's radically different from the other, then the relationship isn't going to thrive

My cousin and his wife have been together since 14/15 and couple kids later are still together , must be about 25/26 years they have been together now

I met my DP at a school disco when we were 14 and had a snog. Hooked up again at 17 for a ONS. And then he tapped me up through Facebook when it first came on the scene, we were in our early 30s. We've been together for 17 years with 2 DCs. We share exactly the same birthday too and were born in the same hospital.

He wasn’t my first boyfriend but I was 19 at university when I met my husband. Got married three years later. Still happily married 20 years.

I am. I was 16 when I met my DH, became a couple when I was 17, he was 22. I know few couples from school or uni. I just counted 10 and would most likely be able to think of another 5 or 6.

My stepson has just welcomed his first child with the woman he started dating in sixth form. They are early 30s now. They got married about 4 years ago.

I met my husband at university and we’ve been together since. Now late 30s. I used to think “hmm maybe I should have played the field a bit more”… now i see the state of the field and thank god I trusted my gut and stayed with him. Truly the best/most important decision of my life. He is a wonderful man.

DH was my first proper boyfriend and I was at uni. That was half my lifetime ago. We took things slowly. I moved in after 2 years, marriage was at 8 years, children after.

I've got a school friend still going with the boyfriend now husband that she met when finishing GCSEs 25 years ago.

I can think of a couple of relationships from pre-25 that are still going, but most long term marriages (at least a decade) were formed at 25+

@lunathestral my cousin still enjoyed being young , they had girls / lads holidays , went out with mates . Still did everything every other young person was just not the meeting people in pubs / clubs so it can be fine , and they have grown together and still have a loving great relationship and are best friends

Me! Married this year and together for 14 beforehand, met at school.

I know two couples who met first term of Uni.

One now been married for coming up 40yrs. The other 25yrs.

But considering all the other relationships and break-ups that happened at Uni this is rare!

I know quite a few. My DSis and BIL were together from when they were 15. Two of my university housemates (though we lived together in different houses) are married to their boyfriends from back then. One of my current work colleagues is married to his high school girlfriend. Another family member married her university boyfriend, although there were a couple of others beforehand, so not her first relationship.