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[Lentilweaver]

I feel I need to start this. I have so many gripes at the moment, and I just want to moan without the pressure of having to move on to solutions. I am trying to solve them too, but sometimes they can't be easily solved.

Here's my current one: I hate cooking for the family and the mental load that comes with it. Yes, they cook for themselves sometimes, yes, I batch cook sometimes, yes I don't put up with fussiness, yes we do simple meals sometimes, yes yes yes to all of that. But sometimes I still hate it! And I want to be able to moan! Also takeaways have got so expensive and we can't have as many as we used to, so cooking at home all the time.

Fed up of not having an actual role at work. Just slotting in for whoever is off. Keep being told I'm so adaptable which is nice but it would be nice to do the job I applied for. Done 4 different roles today. It's exhausting and I hate it.

I hate the education system in this country. I wish they would just collapse the whole thing and start again.

I am tired of living in the countryside with fuck all to do. DH and I are going to start looking at cities now to raise our kids with diversity and excitement. The Simple Life is expensive and tiring and a fallacy unless you have money or an extensive knowledge/background in husbandry. Trying to learn it is tedious.

Maintaining a house is absolute bollocks!

DM can stop asking me if me and DH are going to have another child every time we see each other- that's twice a week. The snarky hints wind me up no end.

I stopped meal planning/prepping etc and feel better for it. I cook what I want for the whole family and they take or leave it!

We sawpped country life for s city 8n the middle of the pandemic and are much happier for it. Ironically we spend far more time outdoors.

I’ve also swapped to city living (from the suburbs) and love it!

I am sick to fucking death of the impenetrable packaging that Wilkinson's use for their deliveries! I have a regular delivery from them,every 6 weeks,of cat food. Apart from the fact that they put it in a box that is at least double the size needed, trying to open the damn thing is like trying to get into a bloody safe! I've resorted to hacking at the box with scissors or even a Stanley knife,and I'm terrified that I'm going to end up stabbing myself in the process.

I would love to do all of your meal planning and cooking! I find it really calming!

My moan is that I've recently moved to another country, left my career and my very comfortable lifestyle, and had to spend months converting my qualification over to the new country. Its all done now, but I'm 6 months pregnant and freaking out that it's gonna be years before I'm out of the baby stage and back to work earning my own money (we plan to have 2 or 3 children fairly quickly due to my age). I'm fully supported by my DH but I feel a bit overwhelmed today about my situation and needed a place to vent! I miss my income.

I did work full time in an unrelated job for about 3 months when we moved over here initially, but the morning sickness was crippling and I ended up having to leave as it wasn't fair for me to be taking so much time off when it was such a small team.

I'm not entitled to any maternity payments despite having worked since I was 16, and I feel like a big fat failure today!

I'll start off today's rants.
Since having covid twice, the first time being a year ago, I smell & taste things differently. I even smell different - think burnt onions, even if I've showered my under arms still stink. All deodorants smell horrid & knock me sick. I'm so worried that other people can smell me. I constantly shower & now my showers leaking into the garage below, so cant use it. .so while my DB & his family are visiting my SIL family abroad in the sun for 6 weeks (don't get me started) I have to go to his to use their shower.
Foods like packet pasta n sauces, noodles etc taste rank, have trouble making them for DC let alone eating any myself.
I came out of the womb loving peanut butter & now, I can eat it but it just taste meh & I don't enjoy eating it anymore. I could cry.
Trivial rant & there are bigger things going on, even in my life but it's the little everyday things that get ya down the most.

@Longjohn21 since having had Covid last December, my sense of smell is still off. And funnily enough it's deodorant that I have the most issue with -there's a really really weird smell to them and my underarms and I've got a bit obsessive about it. I was so upset the one day that I asked DH if I smelt bad and he honestly said he couldn't smell anything and was I ok?! I can't even describe the smell but it honestly makes me feel I'm going to be sick sometimes.

You're not alone, if that helps you feel a tiny bit better and you've actually made me feel better that I'm not the only one too!!

In all this time I haven’t caught covid, to my knowledge. A relative came to stay over the weekend and half way through they informed me their work colleague (who they share a very small office with) has a really bad dose of it. But that it’s “fine” as people don’t need to self isolate any more. Yeah great, guess what I now have?! I’m really pissed off as no one knows how they’re going to react to it until they get it. Whether they’ll end up with long covid etc. Relative didn’t want to miss out on their trip though. Glad they had a great time, I now feel like crap.

Super thread…

I WFH and do a sort of 9 day fortnight, but do all cooking, cleaning, laundry, household shit, and lions share of childcare. husband says ‘mental load’ is nonsense and doesn’t see an issue.

Husband is an arsehole and much time is spent tiptoeing around his mood.

Husband is likely depressed but won’t do anything about it because of the ‘stigma’.

Frequently think about separation but when he’s on form he genuinely is lovely. And I don’t really to bother be with him.

Overweight through through lack of exercise and too much cake. Largely due to not having any time.

Desperately want a break and peace, but feel guilty for leaving kids with miserable husband

Also overworked in paid employment, entire team is the same and supportive but management is shite.

I'm tired of keeping mouth shut and politely listening while my inlaws spout sexist crap. It's affecting me so much.

@MyBuggyIsOutToGetMe totally feel your pain. We moved from our finished doer-upper to a new, bigger doer-upper at DH’s insistence. After almost a year of dust everywhere, no kitchen for 2 months etc we have no room in the house that doesn’t need something doing to it. DH is constantly whining about how messy the house is and throwing tantrums when he can’t get a piece of wood to do what he wants. I am 100% over it.

I guess that's the same bottle the hoisin comes in. I hate them. The plastic seal is so hard to take off and then you get hardly any product out! I wish all things like this came in pots where you can spoon stuff out and not waste any. Ditto for tubes of hand cream etc

God, so do I! I hear my neighbours and I can feel the rage start up in me, I have to do something else. It's a petrol one so not only the noise but the smell too :(

Just had a lovely dog walk ruined by a grumpy woman in her car. I was approaching the kerb, saw a car approaching the junction of a car park opposite me. Looked like a learner or a P plate (we get a lot there) so I stopped and watched to see which way they were indicating. They didn't but looked to be turning right, so I started to cross and they then turned left. I muttered why don't you indicate and rushed across. I could then see she was shouting in the car so I stopped, she wound down the window and was shouting at me 'what did you say?' So I said I just why didn't you indicate....and tried to finish with 'I wouldn't have started crossing the road'. But she ranted on and told me she didn't run me over or anything and to shut my fing mouth! She drove off before I could say well I hope you have a better day, but I think she might have exploded!

I'm irritated that my husband has not chased the £150 we're due from the council. I've mentioned it a load of times and he's just done fuck all. It's our money. He's 'not got around to it'.

Pull your finger out FFS.

I can't do it because it's in his name. I earn the money, he is the SAHP after he got made redundant. He has ALL FUCKING DAY to get on the phone and ask them.

JUST FUCKING DO IT.

I totally agree. The purchaser should be entitled to a full refund and also to dump the contents of the offending package over the head of whoever designed it, having stabbed the film with a knife. Or maybe just stab the designer with a knife. Twat.

I hate having to haggle with broadband providers/Sky etc. We all know that if you haggle you can get a cheaper price. Why don't they just offer services at a decent price in the first place?

Laundry.
It never ends.
never.

@Hillrunning @BitOutOfPractice that's great to know.

Which cities and with kids in tow? Education round here is quite poor (Northamptonshire)

Yes please, I'll have a rant. Sorry to all of you who are going through it at the moment.

I'm 26 weeks pregnant. Been diagnosed with PGP and am in near constant pain if I try to do anything. Which is great as we've just moved house 6 weeks ago and the place is an absolute tip. My husband is fantastic and does what he can but his best efforts just aren't what two people can do.

Been trying to arrange family and friends' visits to us for November until Christmas. We'd filled every weekend up with someone visiting and although I was stressed by the idea of hosting every weekend, I was excited to see everyone before I'm too pregnant to be arsed with hosting people all the time.

My mum caught covid and got quite ill, forcing her to cancel her visit. My sister has ME and is suffering a sudden flare-up so can't come anymore. Husband's family proceed to change the date of their visit three times, and now they aren't coming at all because they aren't all free on the same weekend and apparently everyone has to be together to make it worth the trip. Our remaining friends have cancelled on us for... reasons, I don't know. I'm autistic and the constant instability in my schedule has been agonising.

And they are ALL trying to say they want to visit in January. Uhhh no. I want some peace and quiet for the last bit of my pregnancy thanks! So now I'm trying to figure out how to set boundaries and tell people I probably won't want any whole-weekend visits until after the baby's here. Day visits aren't an option - all of our family and friends live hundreds of miles away and we cannot see anyone without someone making a long trip.

I'm feeling lonely, sad that circumstances mean I won't be seeing people before Christmas, and annoyed that my husband's family messed us around over the dates so much and we bent over backwards to try and accommodate before they cancelled on us altogether.

Oh I hate it when a ‘friend’ says they’ll do a favour and then don’t. We were all set to pay a plumber and then our so called mate said, ‘don’t worry, I’ll do that for free’ It was all confirmed after we waited a few weeks and then he cancelled but we didn’t think we could say anything as it was free. He rescheduled and then cancelled 4 times over the period of around 3 months! In that time, we still bloody well needed the job doing and kept being reassured it was ‘on his radar’.

This week, I decided ‘screw this’ and employed a plumber (like I was originally going to do) but his wait time is 3 weeks 😢 This all could have been sorted 3 bloody months ago if it wasn’t for flaky friend constantly blowing us out.

It was just so annoying as 1. He was the one that offered and we never asked and 2. Had he just said that he no longer had the time to help us, we’d have booked someone else two months ago.

Phew!! Needed to get that off my chest 😆

I’m in Chelmsford in Essex. Some great schools here (grammar and secondary). Small city so it’s got enough going on to keep us happy but not too manic. Love living here.

I am sick of mental health always doing the opposite of what I need at the time when I need it. For example, this week I've been in manic crisis and BEGGING for mood stabilizers and they're leaving me on antidepressants. Then when I'm stable and feeling better, they'll stick me on a stupidly high dose of mood stabilisers when I just want to live a medication-free life until I actually need meds again. Then I'll have to fight to get meds again.

I wish they would just catch up with their own bloody research which has been saying for over a decade that most people with bipolar disorder do not need to be on toxic medication their whole life and that we could improve the life expectancy (which is currently 63) for people with bipolar by not subjecting them to unnecessary toxic shit and by acting quicker when they are in an episode.

ARRRRRGH.

Also this.

DH thinks the world is against him. He actually gloats when he thinks he's got one up on someone or something. It makes me nauseous.