Do you want a place to vent without being offered any solutions? Come here.

[Lentilweaver]

I feel I need to start this. I have so many gripes at the moment, and I just want to moan without the pressure of having to move on to solutions. I am trying to solve them too, but sometimes they can't be easily solved.

Here's my current one: I hate cooking for the family and the mental load that comes with it. Yes, they cook for themselves sometimes, yes, I batch cook sometimes, yes I don't put up with fussiness, yes we do simple meals sometimes, yes yes yes to all of that. But sometimes I still hate it! And I want to be able to moan! Also takeaways have got so expensive and we can't have as many as we used to, so cooking at home all the time.

@Mammma91 with some very minor tweaks i could have written your post. I am so fed up and am making quite a big change. Scary

I am mildly comforted that there's loads of us having a crap time and not just me.

Virtual hugs to all

@TheRealKatnissEverdeen

i hope whatever the change may be gives you some relief from your stresses!

sending hugs to all. It was good to have a moan and not feel shit about it. I needed it - thank you! X

I am fully aware I am out of order for thinking this and it’s the very worst forum to post it on but in my small specialised team everyone has kids but me. Colleague 1’s wife is having another baby and he’s taking shared paternity leave. Colleague 2 has two young school aged kids. Colleague 3 who has only just started has just announced a surprise pregnancy.

All very nice news but I’m so tired of covering every time they take time off. I don’t get paid any extra, I have my own workload to get through, and I can never take time off during school holidays because it’s all booked out. The one time I did manage to take a week off in October I was peer pressured into moving it (and I’m no pushover) because “Joanne can’t get childcare for that week”.

Other people’s shitty ex husbands and cancer absolutely trump that though, so I’ll have a stern word with myself.

I buy gluten free biscuits for my clients at work who are celiac but a member of staff who had decided she’s not eating gluten anymore keeps eating them - even if it’s taking the LAST ONE! they’re expensive and for my celiac clients to have with their coffee/tea. Not to mention the inconvenience of having to go to a supermarket to get more as the local corner shop doesn’t sell them. Ffs if you want a gluten free biscuit bring your own.

there that feels better.

I’ve just had a massive scream followed by a sob.

im hungry because I didn’t get chance to eat lunch (work is bonkers) I came running in the kitchen to quickly make myself a wrap (feta, rocket, avocado, and beetroot) and I drop the beetroot jar, it smashes and my trousers, socks and slippers are ruined.

so so upset
I’ve sent DH to get me a bottle of wine and he better not return without a daim bar.

It's pathetic compared to the genuinely difficult lives many of you have. I am poorly, temp is 39.5 and coughing until I'm sick. Back and chest hurt. I am freelance and really busy, can't take any time off until 21 November so I will have to soldier on. I am preparing for a project at the weekend and have spent all day struggling with it only to discover something has changed and I have to start again. I asked for this thing to be checked a week ago and nobody bothered to do it.

Feeling very sorry for myself and DH is rubbish when I am ill. Told DD I was going to bed and not to bother me, she came in later asking me to check her maths homework. She had done it wrong and shouted at me when I pointed it out.

The only way I can get out of this work is if I have covid but I'm testing negative so far. (NB I don't want covid tho.)

There are too many people in my home. It's not for much longer thankfully but it's stressful.
My home has too much clutter but I don't want to keep getting rid of things i have chosen & bought. I know this is a holdover from leaving a relationship with not a lot.
I wish DS15 would revert back to his lovely self from 8 months ago rather than the person he is lately.
This too shall pass....takes deep breathes.

I really need some washing up liquid, my Tesco express wanted £3.35!!!!! Not paying that 😲

Absolutely sick of my partner ramming things in the wrong cupboard. Pushing old produce to the back of the fridge/bottom of drawer.

Absolute pet hate, tips all the bags of crisps out of the big back and biscuits/cereal bars etc out it the boxes... literally just have piles of things in cupboards!!

When I first read this thread I was immediately put out because I am very much practical person like solutions to everything.

but then I read your open your post about cooking generally, providing for the family and my hand immediately went up, and I was like yeah me too - totally with you!

And the plastic bit on milk as well.

Wildlife in our garden. Spent summer having honey bee swarm which was terrifying..nest nearly in house. Blackbirds fledging and pidgeons so had to check garden everytime dogs wanted out. Pigeons dying and today a Dove died in garden. Dog ran round with hedgehog in gob but hedgehog was ok. Then dog grabbed a pidgeon and threw it around. I want paved garden! Also sick of meal planning. Peri menopause and anxiety and knackered.

I hated getting up today. I wished a cup of tea would just magically appear on the bedside table. I have radiation rash/burn and it is uncomfortable to move. I got up to make tea, then forgot it was brewing when watering some plants so it was too strong and my toast got cold. I made a fresh tea, and the milk was off.

Very, very trivial.... I know.

I am very practical too. But the pandemic plus cost of living plus Ukraine plus WFH for ever and ever has made me wallow a bit. DH used to cook more before; he just has a lot on at the moment.

However, I am going to think about better meal planning tomorrow. I think I need to take the mental load off and meal planning is the only way to achieve that. I know I am not doing it right.

My job is a joke
im going to be signed off sick,as they keep making me do things that I can’t physically do as I have a bad back (I’ve damaged my spine) and arthritis in my knee
they know this but have been making me bend over,run round or go upstairs even though it’s made me worse-I kept telling them but they’ve been ignoring me
I had to wait 9 hours for an ambulance today-I couldn’t get out of bed due to my bad back-I had to piss in a milk bottle as I couldn’t get out of bed to the toilet
Got home with lots of lovely painkillers and tomorrow I have to phone the doctors to be signed off and work are going to be be pissed off and when I go back,they’ll have me doing all the stuff I can’t do and make me feel shitty for it before telling me I have to and so it continues
im sick of being treated like shite and I’m good at my job-but they don’t care

I'm sick of friends who want to maintain a friendship with me so long as it never ever requires them to show any interest in or care about my life. They just want me to text me occasionally and have me text them a lot asking how they are when actually they don't care about me in any substantial way at all. And it's not just one friend it's basically everyone I've ever known.

Shoe sizes. Why is there no standardized size? I'm supposedly a 4. My size 3 shoes appear to have more room than my different branded new size 4s

I had two stage two interviews on Tuesday. They said should hear within a day. No word yet. Hate my current job immensely.

I know it's not a massive amount of time to wait in the grand scheme of things but I just want to bloody know. Heck, I don't even blame them if it's taking longer, just don't say a day if you can't guarantee a day!

Massively agree.

Why can't eating be like drinking?

You're thirsty, you drink. You stop being thirsty, and you pee out fluids you don't need.

Eating - you have to eat precise amounts of eleventy billion micronutrients or you look ugly, ill or just die. And if you eat too much, you get fat.

It's a piss take.

@Forgottenmypasswordagain it's exactly that kind of triviality that tips you over the edge though!
For me today has been a day of dropping expensive electrical items, think phone, iron, iPad, hair straighteners.
Decided to have a daytime soak (everybody out) and my phone nearly landed in the bath while I was watching old old corrie and wishing I could be five again.
I am also permanently annoyed with myself, I cannot stand up for myself. At all. Ever. In any situation.
Phew. Thanks op.

My OH and I are supposed to be losing weight together. His BMR is over 1000 calories higher than mine. It’s so unfair that he’s getting thinner and eating tons and I’m here starving and exhausted from the gym and barely losing a thing. He barely even GOES to the gym. Also I hate how LONG it takes to lose weight. Why can’t I be thin as soon as I act like it!

thanks OP - I hear you.

I hate folding the washing.

I hate meal planning and shopping too.

I hate carrying the mental load.

I’m sick sick sick of myself not just getting on with stuff. Sick of it.

I’m fed up of waking up at 4am due to the ruddy peri-menopause. I can’t take HRT.

BIL hasn’t acknowledged DS’s birthday again. The petty part of me hopes that DH forgets his DC’s birthday.

I'm sick of how often we have to eat! I feel like I've barely got over the resentment of the last meal and then it's time to do it again! I look at my clean kitchen and think ' it was only a few hours ago that I cleaned it, why the fuck do I have to get a load of food out and make it messy again!

My cat wakes me at 4am most days. Couple that with work stress and menopause related insomnia and I might kill someone. On top of that, our bathroom has been ripped out and a 2 week refit is turning in to 4 weeks and I look like shit with strip washes and occasional hair washing in the sink.

Can also really related to work pressure to be perfect that a previous poster mentioned. I am known for being very good at my job, it’s a fuck load of pressure. I work so hard and I can’t ease off, it’s not in my nature anyway but with everyone thinking I’m really good, it’s even harder🤯

Thankfully DH is now retired so he does the majority of the mental work at home.