Do you want a place to vent without being offered any solutions? Come here.

[Lentilweaver]

I feel I need to start this. I have so many gripes at the moment, and I just want to moan without the pressure of having to move on to solutions. I am trying to solve them too, but sometimes they can't be easily solved.

Here's my current one: I hate cooking for the family and the mental load that comes with it. Yes, they cook for themselves sometimes, yes, I batch cook sometimes, yes I don't put up with fussiness, yes we do simple meals sometimes, yes yes yes to all of that. But sometimes I still hate it! And I want to be able to moan! Also takeaways have got so expensive and we can't have as many as we used to, so cooking at home all the time.

I hate going back to 1938 or similar in regards heating, lighting and so on. MIL at weekend was saying I should put my clothes airer in front of the log burner at the weekend and that was the last straw.
I don't want to have semi dry clothes in front of the log burner like I'm in Little House on the Prairie.
Also it's so much more work and time consuming than bunging everything in the dryer. Turning lights off and being careful with the food shopping all the time it's so wearing.

I have one year old twins (+ an older kid) and I’m so fed up of feeling like I’m running with my legs tied together. Leaving the house - takes twice as long, higher chance of someone kicking off/pooing. Tidying - twice as long. Nappies x2. Weaning is absolute carnage. Sleep - much higher chance of someone waking someone at some ungodly hour. Planning to go anywhere - entails in depth research into whether my (narrowest on the market, £££££) pram will fit through the fucking door. 2x chance of someone kicking off / needing a change / needing a feed while we’re out, in which case we need to go because I can’t leave the other one unattended. I’m just done with it all.

My ideal job has come up and at any other time in the past 5 years I'd have gone for it. But I'm going through massive upheaval in my personal life right now and I just can't face adding a new job into the mix. Current work have been really sympathetic and flexible and I don't want to lose that. Just really fed up about the timing!

Grrr! I had a really trivial, annoying thing I thought of this morning that's totally suited to this thread but now I forgotten it!

Maybe ranting about my poor memory would be better? 🤔

One of my neighbours clomps round her house all day long in what sounds like high heels and it drives me nuts. It's a minor thing but I just want to buy her some slippers, especially when she clip clops in the bedroom and upstairs corridor while I'm in bed.

She (or one of the other women in the house) also goes out the front to make phone calls at about 11pm which are then conducted on loudspeaker. To be fair, she's not shouty or anything but I like my window open and all I can hear is her chatting away with the person on the other end of the line. I can't even be nosy and listen to their conversation as it's conducted in a different language 😉

To some of my colleagues - read the f*cking memo!

Yes I know the memo is metaphorical and might have been a conversation weeks ago, or an online chat; but everybody else seems to be aware of the change / calendar, what's your excuse? The change was designed to help you, not undermine you!!! But if you weren't useless at your role, you'd recognise that and try to learn that skill. God only knows why they keep you on ....

Gosh. That was cathartic.

Why don't you just get someone else to fix your car?

@OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside because it's undriveable, a normal garage would charge 3 times more and this is the second garage I've taken it to.
... I'm not daft, I've exhausted my options at this point

No, no, no solutions allowed here:) Just ranting.

Some of you have really big problems and I am sorry. But all problems allowed.

Today I am venting at my house being too small for both of us to WFH. This I really can't change at the moment given London prices. Damn the pandemic. And still sick of family cooking. ( Tried Gousto and similar: not keen for various reasons).

Mil has a relative visiting from abroad this week. DH and I know the relative well so last night we went round there to see here and we all had a takeaway. On Thursday there’s an arrangement to go out for dinner. All fine.

Chatting to mil last night and she asked about the shifts DH and I are working over the next few days. I assumed it was just chit chat but then she said in front of relative, ‘oh, so you’re finishing work at lunchtime on both weekend days? Great, Relative wants to take us all out for lunch on Sunday and on Saturday I’ve decided to have a few people round so you can come along.’

Fucking LIVID! I’ve had a really busy week and was looking forward to a couple of lazy weekend afternoons but now I’m going to have to stand in a room of strangers for one day and eat shit pub food the next. DH wasn’t impressed either and we both tried to say that we didn’t know what time we’d be available yet but she just got all arsey and kept saying that if we don’t finish till 3 or 4 we can go then. FFS. So annoyed that she blindsided me in front of the relative while DH was out of the room.

My relationship with mil is somewhat strained anyway, she’s overbearing, rude and belligerant and while we are civil, I avoid spending too much time with her because I find her hard work. Now I’m having to spend time with her on four separate occasions. AAAARGHH!!

Why the actual fuck does school on this island start at 7.50?WE ARE NOT MORNING PEOPLE AND I AM SICK OF DRAGGING KIDS INTO CLOTHES AND HAVING THEM FED AND OUT THE DOOR BY 7.20 TO GET THERE ON TIME SO THE TEACHERS CAN PISS ABOUT DRINKING COFFEE IN THE PLAYGROUND FOR ANOTHER 30 MINUTES.

That's it for now.

I am so sick of working cleaning, cooking, meal planning, cleaning some more, school runs, shopping trips, ironing, cleaning and more pissing cleaning!
I feel like I'm barely staying afloat. My dh works away from home and with 3dc I feel like it's a losing battle.
Also sick of the "I don't know how you do it" comments, I know they're well meaning but they make me feel like crying because I barely am "doing it" I'm so burnt out it's now worrying. And the only advice I get from my well meaning dh is to "take a break, I'm sure it's not that bad".
Makes me want to tell him he's being a condescending cock who has no idea what it's like to use up every shred of energy and see no results from it at the end of the day.

I'm currently in initial training for my third job this year. I started the year in a job I loved but was made redundant. I mis that job and would have stayed indefinitely. Nothing is measuring up and I feel down & angry about how it ended. This position doesn't exist elsewhere. It was a great balance of money, flexibility and enjoyment.
I have other interviews lined up and just want something I enjoy. My CV is going to look terrible.

I’ve got cancer and have had enough of treatments that make me feel permanently ill. Thought I was through the worst of it but have just found out I have to have another type of chemotherapy for at least 6 months. I really wanted to get on with my life and make plans for holidays, fun nights out, etc. And I’m scared that I might never get better

@GettingMarriedAgain That's really put all my woes into perspective:( Hope you feel better soon. And get support.

The freezer is falling apart and we can't afford a new one right now. So every time I open it a packet or two flies out at me.

@GettingMarriedAgain Sorry you're dealing with that. Sounds so tough.

@Lentilweaver Sorry! I didn’t mean to make you feel like that! It’s just I don’t want to tell those close to me how scared or fed up I am. It’s like if you have cancer you just have to be grateful that all these treatments are available. And obviously I am but I’m also human and have feelings that other people can’t solve. People keep telling me I’m brave and I’m really not!

I've had a proper shit year and I'm sick of it. Chronic shoulder pain which after 3 proceedures is coming back, my mum died and I had to sell her house through the most shit solicitors I've ever used in my life. Covid twice and now I've done my back in and can barely move. My house is at' hoarders' levels of messy/unclean rather than day to day crap, my teenagers are useless and I'm sick of it!

I am sick of meal planning for two adults who are both fussy . I will shop and cook if necessary but please tell me WTF to make for you .

Sick of begging tradesmen to come for exoboriant fees. I understand the car dilemma @tiredmumma93 , sunken costs now as who else will do it and how do you get it there ? And no pressure on him , God forbid.

Pissed off that I am old , trapped by responsibilities and financially screwed by my lying , cheating Ex.

I hate the fucking leaf blowers!!!!!

Fucking anxiety. Something happened recently which I thought might be positive but of course it's already gone to shit and made me even more anxious.

People keep telling me I’m brave and I’m really not!

OH YES YOU FUCKING ARE!!!!

Nobody but me brings the empty toilet rolls down to the recycling. I have been on strike for that job for several weeks. So far they have somehow made it out of the bathroom and onto the landing but not as far as the recycling. I fear we will one day be trapped upstairs by an ever growing mountain of toilet roll innards.