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Lottery win (not a bad amount).

379 replies

winningballs · 08/11/2022 00:41

Name changed for this.

I have been thinking about asking this and I have spoken to f&f about it and the opinions vary.

Last Wednesday I got an urge to do the lottery, I haven't done it in ages because I just can't afford it, but I got a lucky dip and lucky it was, I got 5 matching balls plus the bonus. I won't say how much I won but it's a fair amount, enough for me to not worry about bills for the foreseeable and enough to give people 10k each.

Here's my question.

I have a list of whom I would share my winnings with stored on my phone, it's been on there for years and my ex is on there. We have been split for a year or so but I always said I would give him something if I won. I don't hate him and I really liked his children, so should I just transfer some into his account? This is not a plan to get him back as I am happily with someone else now and he has no problem with my list as he is well taken care of too.

Should I - or should I not bother?

OP posts:
Oddieconvert · 10/11/2022 07:46

My wages just covered my outgoings since all the utility increases happened which is why I've not been buying a ticket lately.

this is an op far from financially comfortable pre win

Pearls1234 · 10/11/2022 07:59

I think it’s lovely that you’re so generous OP, but I wouldn’t recommend handing out all these 10ks, especially to an ex - even if you are on good terms.
The only people I’d be telling are my husband and my mum. No friends, not the rest of our families. That’s it.
Once people know, they’ll be more inclined to ask you for things and that money could go very quickly. Look after it and use it to make your own life easier in the long term - security, retirement, etc.

Gbtch · 10/11/2022 09:28

In answer to your original question.
No!

LovelyIssues · 10/11/2022 16:42

Why would you? An ex is an ex for a reason.

TootsieChops · 10/11/2022 17:13

I'm just so pleased for you, especially when things have been tight. If you didn't split up because he was a git and you're still friends and you trust him, then I see nothing wrong with a gift to an ex.

Everyflippingusernameistaken · 10/11/2022 19:52

I wouldn't bother, especially if you did not have children with him. Plenty of other people to give to I'm sure.

Gingerz · 10/11/2022 21:03

A million is a lot of money, but that all depends on what you want to do with it. You can spend a million pounds on one single purchase if you wanted to, like a big house or a massive yacht.

I'd have a long hard think about how you want to live first. What could this money do for you? How will it support you to live your ideal life?

Then once that's kind of figured out, probably a long time in the future, then decide what to give everyone else.

I have often thought that I'd worry about winning lots of money- just for the stress of how much to give everyone. So I think it would be wise to sort your own life out first and then decide what is left to share out.

MibsXX · 10/11/2022 23:32

After having spent yet another day searching for lost coins around the house to buy a simple loaf of bread... and realising today is my sons 16th birthday ( been soo bloody stressed these past few months it completely escaped me) , and didn't even have enough to get him a card let alone a gift..... do yourself a massive favour and ensure you are never ever in such a position yourself, this is enough to secure your's and your immediate family future, splurge on a nice holiday and some treats, THEN relax into who and how much you can help, but seriously tell them it was a small inheritance. A couple thousand would take all my stress away for quite some time, I suspect some of those you wish to treat would also be in a similar position, discreetly do a little research and have some fun magicking help their way!

Oddieconvert · 11/11/2022 06:13

MibsXX · 10/11/2022 23:32

After having spent yet another day searching for lost coins around the house to buy a simple loaf of bread... and realising today is my sons 16th birthday ( been soo bloody stressed these past few months it completely escaped me) , and didn't even have enough to get him a card let alone a gift..... do yourself a massive favour and ensure you are never ever in such a position yourself, this is enough to secure your's and your immediate family future, splurge on a nice holiday and some treats, THEN relax into who and how much you can help, but seriously tell them it was a small inheritance. A couple thousand would take all my stress away for quite some time, I suspect some of those you wish to treat would also be in a similar position, discreetly do a little research and have some fun magicking help their way!

You realised at the very end of yesterday that it was your son’s 16th birthday and you had forgotten?

that is unforgivable

MibsXX · 11/11/2022 06:20

Oddieconvert · 11/11/2022 06:13

You realised at the very end of yesterday that it was your son’s 16th birthday and you had forgotten?

that is unforgivable

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Yeah thanks for making me feel soo much better.......

MrsDoyle351 · 11/11/2022 06:58

@Oddieconvert

#missingthepointofsomeonespost

RedHelenB · 11/11/2022 07:31

Some posters on mumsnet are real Scrooges . Not many people who do the lottery are able to live out the fantasy if what would I do if I won a million but you can. I'd spread the joy as you'd planned and stick to the list.

Oddieconvert · 11/11/2022 07:32

A poster on here forgot her son’s 16th birthday.

That is seriously shit. And you know it

tulips27 · 11/11/2022 07:48

@MibsXX Sorry but no, don't "splurge" on anything. That is bad advice, OP, you need to think like a better-off person and be sensible every last pound or you will have busted through the whole lot before you know it. Anyone can blow a million pounds, it's been shown time and time again.

tulips27 · 11/11/2022 07:49

sensible about *every last pound, sorry

ohforthelife · 11/11/2022 08:02

If I won a million I wouldn't tell anyone. It's not enough to give away money to all and sundry and you'd just get people thinking you hadn't given them enough.

I'd probably tell my family I'd won a fab villa holiday or something and take them all away!

MibsXX · 11/11/2022 09:10

tulips27 · 11/11/2022 07:48

@MibsXX Sorry but no, don't "splurge" on anything. That is bad advice, OP, you need to think like a better-off person and be sensible every last pound or you will have busted through the whole lot before you know it. Anyone can blow a million pounds, it's been shown time and time again.

The first part of my advice was to ensure she is never ever in a bad position , maybe I didn't write that bit so clear.. its cold here lol not easy to type!

MibsXX · 11/11/2022 09:16

Oddieconvert · 11/11/2022 07:32

A poster on here forgot her son’s 16th birthday.

That is seriously shit. And you know it

Yes, and you're seeming to enjoy beating me for it,. For a little context, my mum was the one who kept everyone organised and reminded us about family events, I have always been a little scatter-brained with dates etc, but she died a year ago. Three bouts of covid have shredded what was left of my ability to function well, and now frequent days of no power, no food and being cold all the time is making even the simplest of things not only more immediately urgent but also harder to manage anything beyond day to day existing. I am truly thankful that my son is kinder hearted than some people.

Oddieconvert · 11/11/2022 09:20

Your 16 year old DS. His mother forgot his birthday and didn’t even get him a card.

do you live with him?

i know I being harsh but this has really saddened me imagining him

Oddieconvert · 11/11/2022 09:22

there is absolutely no “enjoyment” I get from this btw

MibsXX · 11/11/2022 09:38

One more hour of power left, so I need to bow out and write emails now. My apologies for not being a perfect human being, OP my apologies for derailing, CONGRATS and enjoy, and thank you for sharing your good news, it brings hope to the rest of us! :-)

MrsMontyD · 11/11/2022 09:44

ScrambledOrPoached · 08/11/2022 07:24

A million isn’t a lot of money. I wouldn’t give anyone anything just yet.

On what planet is a million not a lot of money?

I agree its easily blown if you go crazy and start living a millionaire lifestyle, but it's still a lot of money.

CambsAlways · 11/11/2022 10:05

At the moment I’d be grateful for Winning a tenner! You are a lucky lucky lady congrats to you! Spend it exactly how you wish to op! And as for people saying one million won’t last that long and not that much money, they must really earn some serious money to actually think that one million is not a lot! But hey each to their own and I’m so happy for you love. You sound a very caring and kind hearted person. Every happiness to you and your family

Chocomarsh · 11/11/2022 10:48

@MibsXX ignore OddieConvert.

They enjoy going around mumsnet making people feel rotten, you're not the first and you won't be the last.

They are clearly so sad with their own life that they go around trying to make others feel bad too.

They also use a range of usernames so I'm sure that someone else will magically be here to back them very shortly.

ShiningStarQueen · 11/11/2022 10:52

No point being shy about what you won, I just looked it up. Weren’t you a bit miffed you didn’t get all the numbers 😆