What is one of the worst and best decisions you've ever made?

[JamSandle]

One of my best: travelling for a year in my twenties and then doing a WHV. Still some of my favourite memories and almost feel like magical times.

One of my worst: staying stagnant in a job for two and a half years (not that long admittedly and it was alright money with good leave but looking back I'd have jumped sooner.)

Want to share some of yours?

Best - Leaving a shitty, abusive marriage
Worst - not prioritising early enough in life that i wanted children and now resenting that i feel its been taken from me

Congratulations on leaving the abusive marriage.

I'm so sorry you weren't able to have children when it was something you wanted. I won't give any trite advice or comments but here if you need a shoulder.

Worst - dating my ex.
Best - dumping that abusive controlling ass.

Best - moving back home straight after uni and saving for a house, then jumping on the ladder. It might sound like a dream to some but it that was really tough for me. I was a hedonsitic party gal and all my friends were having the time of their lives in house shares in big cities or travelling round the globe. But I knew it was the right idea and so glad I sacrificed those last few years of youth.

worst - not buying crypto when all my peers did a decade ago in uni.

Best - early retirement.

Worst - I cant really think of anything major. Possibly deciding to not have more children.

Best: choosing my now husband to date rather than the bad boy that was also chasing me. We’ve been married 11 years now with 2 beautiful children.

Worst: Not pushing myself in school and to go to uni. I didn’t do well in my A Levels and gave up after 1 uni interview to be a midwife.

Worst: giving up work to be a student-then-SAHM and not thinking of the long term consequences - financial independence, ten years out of the workforce, tiny pension

Best: ‘leaning in’ to rebuild career post-divorce from zero at 43; seven years later I am CEO of a small but important organisation in my sector.

@SarahDippity wow. Absolute hats-off to you for that amazing journey.

I've just plodded along in a mediocre life and can't even answer these questions!

Best: Preparing ‘inside out’ for a job interview when I was down on my luck with just £400 left in the bank.

Worst: Trusting a builder, our family friend.

Missing out on the prospect of a relationship with an older lady when it was offered.
wish I had been more of a social butterfly at university
Studied better than I did for my studies

Worst , sending my son to boarding school
Best, having a wonderful son who is able to forgive my poor decision.

I'm a very firm believer in us humans only being able to make decisions on what we think to be the best thing at the time, based on what information we have in that moment, even if it later turns out not to have been the best decision.

Best - Moving to Shropshire last year from a busy, congested, dirty city that I hated.

Worst - Marrying my first husband (but then I wouldnt have had my lovely DC).

Best: Moving to a cottage in the countryside even though it needs work.
Worst: Buying a no!no!, I still can't believe I fell for their rubbish marketing. I've made other poor decisions but it just irritates me that I wasted so much money on such rubbish.

Best: buying my first flat as soon as humanly possible - I worked three, sometimes four jobs to save up for it and got my mortgage approved the day I started my grad training scheme. It was a large ex-LA maisonette in a then unfashionable bit of Zone 2… you can guess the rest. I even got a discount on it!

Worst: Not realising sooner that I didn’t have to “lean in” to my shit relationship with my parents. God, the times I forced myself to ring my mum every week before realising that I just didn’t have to listen to her shite. Years of my life.

Worst, not travelling in Asia in my early 20s because my friend pulled out.
Best, travelling alone in North and South America a few years later even though my friend pulled out. ( different friend)

Worst: staying in a mind numbingly boring job for years because I didn't have enough confidence to apply for other things.
Best: moving to the countryside

Best: choosing to settle and have children with my then boyfriend. Turns out he is the love of my life.

Worst: getting involved in someone who was not interested in me nor available

@Squiff70 that is true , we thought that we were giving our son a wonderful opportunity in what is though to be one of the best schools in the world.

The guilt we live with is no more than we deserve.We will live with it for the rest of our lives.

Having a baby when I was 18 is both the worst and best decision I ever made. Worst, because obviously I was not emotionally ready or financially stable and of course the relationship didn't last and his dad is shit so it's been years of being reliant on top up benefits because I haven't been able to earn enough money on my own to support us both.

But still, it was the best thing I've ever done because I have a wonderful DS who is a teenager now and I love him more than life itself. I wouldn't change it. But I also wouldn't advocate having babies at 18 to other young girls.

Best was not waiting for my DH to leave the military before we had kids (21 years later he's still in).

Worst was having kids with a dad who's never here.

Best: Marrying my gorgeous husband. I was 36 and had given up.

Worst: not getting help early enough for my depression .. the medication changed my life!

Best - leaving my partner of 7 years because he didn't want children and had strung me along

Worst - not moving into HE lecturing earlier in my career.

Best: finally realising that my "ok" relationship wasn't enough and that the reason we weren't progressing to the things I wanted (house, marriage, kids) was the fact he didn't want too. Despite him paying lip service to it.

Worst: not having the confidence to end thar relationship earlier. It was crap for my self esteem.

In fact, thinking back, most of my bad/worst decisions are related to my lacking confidence. There's a lesson there...