What is one of the worst and best decisions you've ever made?

[JamSandle]

One of my best: travelling for a year in my twenties and then doing a WHV. Still some of my favourite memories and almost feel like magical times.

One of my worst: staying stagnant in a job for two and a half years (not that long admittedly and it was alright money with good leave but looking back I'd have jumped sooner.)

Want to share some of yours?

Best: Leaving my job to be a SAHM
Worst: Not leaving soon enough and struggling to balance raising my kids with work. DD spent too long being raised by her nursery staff and childminder

Worst decision was getting together with my ex in the first place, best decision was leaving him.

That aside best decision was probably taking out a critical illness insurance as a few years later I got a serious illness and the money paid off my mortgage. Worst decision was then buying the house I now have as it has so many problems I didn’t know about it’s too overwhelming and expensive to fix, but at least I have a roof over my head and no mortgage.

Could I ask what medication it is? I know different people need different meds but my son suffers from depression but is too nervous to take meds in case it messes him up more.

Best: marrying my DH. Having my DS.

Worst: Staying in a shitty job where my hard work went completely unappreciated for 9 years....

Best: Travelling a lot before I got on the property ladder. I took a couple of gap years plus lots of other short and medium length trips. I loved every second of it, met some amazing people who are life-long friends now, saw amazing sights, experienced different cultures, learned bits of various languages, etc, generally felt free to go wherever I wanted and do whatever I wanted. Since buying a property I've been financially restricted and tied to the bills and payments. Still a privilege to own something but definitely a financial tie.

Worst: Blaming myself for something that I didn't have any control over and wasn't my fault, but living with the misplaced guilt for a very long time.

Going for another best: Getting a dog! Pure love from a furry being who I completely adore in return. Unlike other humans, he never annoys me, irritates me, argues with me, etc, he just completely loves me and is perfect in every way. It's the happiest relationship of my life.

Best: getting an autism assessment / diagnosis at age 34 after seeing myself in the assessment for my then 12yo.

Worst: allowing myself to belive I'm not enough for most of my adult life and bending over backwards just to prove I'm enough. I now cut ties with anyone who makes me feel like I'm not enough and am so much happier for it.

@Beezknees mine is almost identical to you!

Having my DD young give me grit without which I wouldn’t have 2 degrees or the job I have now. Or potentially the husband I have now!

Worst - Everything about University. I had acceptances to some good universities, but instead I followed my friend to a place that wasn't right for me, thinking we would have a great time together. She settled in straight away, became friends with a group from her course and I barely saw her after freshers week. I ended up being bullied, nearly failing and getting seriously depressed. I graduated, but I just wish I'd had a bit more confidence and thought it through a bit better.

Best - Working abroad for a year in my 20s. It developed my self confidence, made for an eye-catching CV and some fantastic memories. It helped mitigate the damage caused by a bad uni experience! It was like giving myself a second chance at that part of life.

Best - finally realising I'd had enough of DH and his games and filing for divorce
Worst - not making the most of university.

SchrodingersKettle - how awful for you, so sorry to read this.

FearofQueefing - Oh dear it's hard isn't it. 13 years in the same job for me. I think I got too scared to move. Imposter syndrome maybe. Currently looking for a new job. Finally got a manager who will support me in this.

Best: going ahead with IVF after much soul-searching, thank god it was successful.

Worst: doing a vocational degree at 18. I was academic and should have done a humanities degree but I studied to be an allied health professional because I wanted a guaranteed job at the end. I was far too young and immature, I really struggled and I absolutely hated it. I never practiced, it took years for my confidence to recover and it was so hard to get an alternative career off the ground.

@Ladyof2022 he didn't happen to be Belgian with a French accent by any chance? I am sorry that happened to you but pleased you had the strength to pick yourself up and turn it around.

Best: Moving to London from Somerset when I was 21. I still love it and I feel that my life began when I got here.

Worst: Not buying a house as soon as I moved to London. I worked for bank and they wouldn't give a single woman a mortgage until 24 (?) so I waited. The prices shot up in-between and I lost a lot. I won't mention the man who got away.

No he is 100% English.
Xx.

Worst - Marrying young to an asshole 11 years older.

Best - Divorce, having my children and making a much better life for us.