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Friend has Covid - WWYD?

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ImSoCold · 27/10/2022 18:46

Sorry it’s another covid one.

I was due to meet a friend in London tomorrow for the weekend. We have a hotel booked, theatre tickets etc. She’s texted me just now to say she has just tested positive for covid. She is still planning on going and ‘wearing a mask’ but assumes I won’t because I have children, although I know she would like me to go but doesn’t want to pressure me.

I barely leave my house or do much socialising so I am not sure what is normal any more. I feel like it would be mad to meet up with her knowing she has covid but am I still living in 2020 and things have moved on now? I don’t know whether it’s advised now to just carry on regardless.

I honestly don’t know what to do. I suppose this is a WWYD really.

For info I have just had my 4th vaccine and my children have had 2.

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dementedpixie · 27/10/2022 18:47

She shouldnt really be going if she's going to sit in a theatre with hundreds of other people. I wouldn't feel right going along with her tbh

TeenDivided · 27/10/2022 18:48

I'd suggest she stays home and not spread covid unnecessarily, and you go on the trip, finding someone to fill in if you can.

Chewbecca · 27/10/2022 18:50

She needs to do the cancelling.

Can you find someone else to go with you?

Any chance either of you have annual travel insurance, perhaps with your bank accounts?

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CheezePleeze · 27/10/2022 18:50

I'd go but then I've had Covid twice and both times it was like having a cold.

But that's me, I don't really think anyone here can answer this for you.

JustBkind · 27/10/2022 18:50

When did she actually test positive? Today, yesterday? You are highly contagious in the days before you even know you have it which is why it spreads so quickly. So it could be that you went before she tested positive and you were as at much risk then than knowing about it now; at least now she can wear a mask and distance. There are no rules now, it’s to be treated like a cold. However, I couldn’t knowingly go out if I KNEW I had it, that just doesn’t sit well with me. It’s personal preference I’m afraid which doesn’t make the decision any easier!

TiredButAlive · 27/10/2022 18:51

Uh sorry? She knows she has Covid but is just going to spread it? Does she not appreciate there are people who are clinically vulnerable and people who cannot be immunised (or generate a decent immune response to the vaccine). This virus is still killing people.

irrrannuu · 27/10/2022 18:51

I'd go if she felt well and wore a mask when we were indoors anywhere.

WingingItSince1973 · 27/10/2022 18:52

Surely it's her that needs to cancel and you still go? A bit weird she thinks the other way around.

Ridingthegravytrain · 27/10/2022 18:52

I just don't understand why people are testing if the result has no bearing on what they do. Makes no sense to me

MarieJ1987 · 27/10/2022 18:54

I'd still go, there will be others that have covid and no longer test. I wouldn't isolate myself, did that enough during lockdown

martha4clark · 27/10/2022 18:54

I would still go. There are probably going to be a few unsuspecting people in the audience that have it as well. You've been vaccinated; there's a good chance you won't catch it, and if you do, it will probably be very mild

Onegingerhead · 27/10/2022 18:55

I’d go. Done so many times already. Covid is to stay.

CheezePleeze · 27/10/2022 18:56

Ridingthegravytrain · 27/10/2022 18:52

I just don't understand why people are testing if the result has no bearing on what they do. Makes no sense to me

Yes, I don't get this either?

fernz · 27/10/2022 18:59

Would you go if she had another contagious virus?

How inconvenient would it be for you if you caught it from her and were then ill for a week yourself? (I know so many people who've had covid recently and were pretty unwell for a week or so at least.)

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ImSoCold · 27/10/2022 18:59

Yes I was a bit surprised she said that she was still going, so I didn’t expect to have this decision to make. If she had said she didn’t feel right knowingly spreading it and was staying home then this would be a lot easier. I wouldn’t go if it was me.

She tested positive today. Her adult daughter had it earlier in the week and didn’t isolate so I saw this coming really.

I have had covid once but apart from a sore throat it didn’t really affect me. It’s not myself I’m worried about.

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Jewel1968 · 27/10/2022 19:00

Would you meet up with a friend who has a bad flu. I probably would not buy I am an asthmatic and colds and flu can knock me. I currently have covid. It's a strange one. In some ways like flu or cold but in others ways weird e.g. chest pain and upset stomach and a really painful cough. I have been very tired too. In bed most of the time.

Up to you really but why knowingly expose yourself to any illness?

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ImSoCold · 27/10/2022 19:01

I suspect she only tested for my ‘benefit’. We FaceTimed earlier and she was coughing, plus I knew about her daughter having it.

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Judystilldreamsofhorses · 27/10/2022 19:04

I wouldn’t go in her shoes, or yours. I’ve had Covid twice (had three jabs) and while the second time was a non-event, the first properly floored me.

Fladdermus · 27/10/2022 19:06

A couple of weeks ago I'd have said just go, no big deal. I've had covid twice and it was no worse than a mild cold.

But today I'd say, what the fuck is she thinking. She needs to stay home and not go merrily spreading it to all and sundry. Because I've got it again and this time it's properly kicking the shit out of me. Monday was the illest I've ever been in my life. I felt like I was drowning and I came very close to calling am ambulance.

Covid may now be much less of a threat than before but it can still be an absolute bastard.

NeverDrinkingAgainUntilNextTime · 27/10/2022 19:06

It may be that she feels "OK" at the moment, but not so much tomorrow?
I had it beginning of September and after the 1st day it completely floored me, I couldn't get out of bed, had the most horrendous cough and bad stomach. Its different for people I know.
I think if she is planning on going, then it has to be down to you to say yes or no. It really sucks that she's put you in this position x

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 27/10/2022 19:07

Could it be she made it up because she doesn't want to go?

FairyLightAddict · 27/10/2022 19:08

I really don't get why she's tested if she's going to ignore the result. Let's hope she's not sitting near someone vulnerable 🙄

toomuchlaundry · 27/10/2022 19:09

I would feel very self conscious sitting next to someone coughing away, especially if you knew they had COVID. I wouldn’t want to go with her but I would be expecting her to cancel not you. I wouldn’t go to the theatre with COVID like I wouldn’t go if I had flu

Shiningstarr · 27/10/2022 19:09

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 27/10/2022 19:07

Could it be she made it up because she doesn't want to go?

Eh??
She fully intends on still going, if your read the opening post properly.

Shiningstarr · 27/10/2022 19:11

It seems unfair, but we are in the 'learning to live with covid' phase now. We no longer have have to isolate if we test positive. It doesn't seem right, but it is what it is.

If my DH tests positive he is still expected to attend work.