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Friend has Covid - WWYD?

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ImSoCold · 27/10/2022 18:46

Sorry it’s another covid one.

I was due to meet a friend in London tomorrow for the weekend. We have a hotel booked, theatre tickets etc. She’s texted me just now to say she has just tested positive for covid. She is still planning on going and ‘wearing a mask’ but assumes I won’t because I have children, although I know she would like me to go but doesn’t want to pressure me.

I barely leave my house or do much socialising so I am not sure what is normal any more. I feel like it would be mad to meet up with her knowing she has covid but am I still living in 2020 and things have moved on now? I don’t know whether it’s advised now to just carry on regardless.

I honestly don’t know what to do. I suppose this is a WWYD really.

For info I have just had my 4th vaccine and my children have had 2.

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wtfisgoingonhere21 · 27/10/2022 19:11

@ImSoCold

I e just got over covid and it was dreadful

It could have been a lot worse don't get me wrong but I couldn't stay on my feet for more than ten mins for the first four days and the headache and joint pain was horrendous so if your going to be ok taking the risk and having young kids to look after with it then go for it but if not I'd think carefully.

My dc are teenagers but washing still needed doing and dishwasher and dogs feeding etc etc and I had to continually wipe everything down after being in a room so we could keep it away from them as they have lots at school and college going on.

Luckily the dc didn't catch it from us but it was bloody hard work and just because they've been vaccinated doesn't mean they won't catch it from you.

GrumpyPanda · 27/10/2022 19:14

She shouldn't go, how incredibly self-centered. Personally I would tell her to stay home and go by myself, but since that's not for you why don't you just cancel. Hope you're getting some or all of your payment back?

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ImSoCold · 27/10/2022 19:17

Some really good points made here, thank you.

I don’t think I would enjoy the weekend if I went with her now anyway. The guilt and paranoia would be too much. I’m less worried about getting covid than I am about one of my kids getting it, and if that happened I would feel absolutely awful knowing it was me that knowingly brought it into the house.

I will lose money on the theatre and train I think, but can hopefully cancel the hotel and get my money back.

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Nandocushion · 27/10/2022 19:19

If I was sick and felt awful, covid or not covid I would stay home. If I had a sniffle but was otherwise okay, covid or not covid I would still do what I was planning to do, but with a mask on. It's not clear from your posts what situation she is in though. She's still planning to go, so can't be all that sick? But she's coughing? I mean - I probably wouldn't go to the theatre if I was coughing, just because it's disruptive.

SaintVitasShagulaitas · 27/10/2022 19:19

If she has Covid, or any contagious illness, a theatre is the very last place she should be going to.

Echobelly · 27/10/2022 19:21

She should be cancelling. There's nothing actually stopping her going out, but it's still the wrong thing to do if you know you've got it.

onlythreenow · 27/10/2022 19:22

I just don't understand why people are testing if the result has no bearing on what they do. Makes no sense to me

Me neither. Where I live we still have to isolate if we have covid, so are still testing, but why do people bother if they are just going to continue as normal?

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ImSoCold · 27/10/2022 19:22

Yes at the moment she just has a cough which was noticeable when we talked earlier. I don’t believe she has any other symptoms but it’s still early days. Her daughter (who she lives with) only tested positive on Monday.

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WakingUpDistress · 27/10/2022 19:22

Assuming you are sharing a room in a hotel, You should be going and your friend should stay at home. Not sure why she assumed you’d be the one to not go tbh.

As for meeting people with covid, I’d say there are many many around us. Because people didn’t test. Because they don’t care anymore (like your friend). Because tests seem to give a lot if false negative results too. So if you are really worried about catching covid, then the London trip isn’t a good idea

lannistunut · 27/10/2022 19:23

She's being pretty unreasonable going to the theatre. Will she really go on the trip without you? That's odd.
I wouldn't want to catch it if I could avoid it.

WakingUpDistress · 27/10/2022 19:23

onlythreenow · 27/10/2022 19:22

I just don't understand why people are testing if the result has no bearing on what they do. Makes no sense to me

Me neither. Where I live we still have to isolate if we have covid, so are still testing, but why do people bother if they are just going to continue as normal?

TBH most people don’t. They act as if covid is gone and doesn’t exist anymore, despite the 800 ish people dying each week.
that’s also why it’s spreading like wildfire atm.

notangelinajolie · 27/10/2022 19:26

She should be the one cancelling.

I wonder is the reason she is suggesting you don’t go because she wants to go with her daughter instead?

It is very selfish of her and I hope she wears a mask.

Sorry your weekend has been ruined 💐

theshadeofgreen · 27/10/2022 19:28

If you've booked with Trainline you can get a refund, less 10% admin fee I think...

Grumpsy · 27/10/2022 19:28

Irresponsible of her to go in my opinion, but then I’ve got covid at the moment and feel like I’ve been under a steam roller, and I’m young, healthy and fully vaccinated.

Fladdermus · 27/10/2022 19:29

Covid aside, who the hell goes to a theatre knowing they'll be coughing through the entire performance?

PurplePixies · 27/10/2022 19:29

Fuck me! She's tested positive but still intending to travel in the city and go to the theatre.
Has she always been such a selfish knob?
🤦🏻‍♀️

AlwaysLatte · 27/10/2022 19:30

It really is bad of her to go out like that knowing she has Covid. You should be going +1 and she should be staying home!!

AlwaysLatte · 27/10/2022 19:31

I'd still go, there will be others that have covid and no longer test. I wouldn't isolate myself, did that enough during lockdown
Nice.

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ImSoCold · 27/10/2022 19:33

She’s been very blasé throughout covid if I am honest. I think the test she did tonight is the very first one she has done, it just hasn’t touched their household prior to now. Her DH now works in a carehome so I just hope he doesn’t have it. Sadly I don’t think my friend is unusual in her attitude to it.

I think going to London and walking around knowing someone else in the cafe or whatever might have covid is a very different thing to knowingly sharing a room with and sitting next to someone who definitely has covid. I don’t think I can do it in good conscience. It’s a shame she doesn’t have one.

She will definitely go alone, she has wanted to see the show for ages (fortunately I am less bothered about it).

I feel more outraged the more I think of it.

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Tara336 · 27/10/2022 19:36

I currently have COVID. I'm clinically vulnerable, wear a mask when out, somehow I have still caught it. I suspect at work where some customers came in unmasked before I got the chance to ask them not too. I am now unable to go on holiday next week as I need to provide a negative test. Last time I caught it it took 5 months for me to fully recover. It's selfish to go out knowing you have it but I guess we live in a selfish society now.

BarrelOfOtters · 27/10/2022 19:37

I’ve got it at the moment and it’s kicked the shit out of me. But I was due a booster. You could catch it off anyone in London, I did, and at least you know to stay away from her….apart from in the theatre.

suzyscat · 27/10/2022 19:38

Fladdermus · 27/10/2022 19:29

Covid aside, who the hell goes to a theatre knowing they'll be coughing through the entire performance?

The theatre is a rare treat for lots of people and booked months in advance. You can't know in June you'll have a cough in October.

I'd still quarantine with covid, but I get why people with a cold don't want to lose out on expensive seats.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 27/10/2022 19:43

It's really up to you. I wouldn't. Because I want to avoid it if I can. I don't want to get ill and spread it to my family. I don't want to take a chance by spending a prolonged period of time with someone who has contagious disease, if I can avoid it.

RG24 · 27/10/2022 19:55

She shouldn't really be going knowingly having covid!
My sister is highly vulnerable and caught it in March this year... she now needs to be connected to a constant oxygen supply because it did so much damage... she might feel its mild symptoms but can pass it on to someone who's life could change forever....

FlowerBrooch · 27/10/2022 20:01

I wouldn’t because I could not go along knowingly with someone who may pass it on to a vulnerable person.

I am sure many people do things with zero symptoms or not knowing they have it and as much as the outcome would be the same to knowingly not give a crap about anyone else is just selfish.

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