Did covid screw anyone else's life up?

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Interested to hear on this as I have been reading a thread where people loved the solidarity of it all. For me it was redundancy, house lost, business lost and savings...

How Chris Whitty can sleep at night with what he has put our young people through I really don't know. God knows. And all those politicians, statisticians, Twitterati twits calling for longer lockdowns. I could scream with rage.

It’s left me with awful anxiety. I wasn’t even worried about covid itself, but the lockdowns and restrictions have shattered my mental health and have made me so anxious.

Hear Hear Speakingofart

@speakingofart couldn’t agree more

I had a total mental breakdown during the first lockdown, almost killed myself and ended up in a psych hospital.

Then my brother got Covid and died not long after.

I’m now watching my alcoholic mum slowly drink herself to death. My brother’s death hasn’t helped.

Covid has definitely screwed quite a few things up!

Yes, my son has chronic social anxiety. He won't go out at all. I support him because even talking to the benefits advisor is too much. Tough love doesn't work, suicidal means you cannot push it at all.

Before covid was very shy and quiet but nowhere like now

I have a few friends whose parents are still relatively young (early 60s) who are still isolating un-necessarily, still disinfecting their (delivered) supermarket shop and still not going out AT ALL or letting anyone in. Literally refusing to let much loved grandchildren over the threshold. They have become institutionalised and filled with fear. My best friend is trying to persuade her parents to spend Christmas with them and the grandchildren, but they are refusing saying she is being 'irresponsible and putting them at risk' despite them both being physically completely healthy. It's heartbreaking

That's quite sad really as when you think about it without sounding harsh they could drop dead any day so really wasting what little life they have left.

It fucked mine up, it has left me with long covid.

I lost a lot of friends. During lock down I messaged/rang friends, checking on them. I asked if they were okay and to let me know if they needed anything. They kind of ignored me and I've never bothered with them since. I was quite shocked that none of them checked in on me, nor did they keep in touch. These were people, I messaged and socialised with pre covid. Some I had known for over 30 years.

It has not affected me as I enjoyed being at home and none of the pressures associated with normal everyday life but I feel my kids have been affected. they were all late teens/ early twenties. Eldest missed out a lot during Uni years, dd barely goes out, missed school proms, end of year events, never got to say goodbye to a lot of school mates that went off to different school / colleges.

That is very sad that you argued with people and fell out with your own parents because you didn’t have the empathy to see things from some body else’s perspective. This is another thing I hated so much about the lockdowns. People judging other without a clue of their own struggles.

I think most people suffered a lot. Seems strange looking back though how most of MN were having the time of their lives baking bread, sunbathing and enjoying the slower pace of life.

My business and income fell apart because being an autistic single parent I just didn’t have the head space to home school SEN children AND think.

my health investigations disappeared into the ether and only last month did I finally receive a diagnosis - after a particularly nasty health episode which could’ve been avoided had I not been ignored since March 20. Ironically the diagnosis puts me in the CEV category.

my NDN was an absolute cunt who just about broke me with her loud music.

my mum was buried the week before lockdown and my dad had to stay home alone.

I was fortunate my job was safe, I kept working throughout at home, didn’t enjoy the isolation of it but no lasting effects

Some post viral fatigue....finally gone ....started in Feb....lots of acupuncture helped....friends have fallen out with other friends over vaccine etc....i refused to share my thoughts with anyone....never responded to some of the mad questions....china should compensate those who lost money etc.

I was living alone, no partner, no pets, no family and WFH. I was also doing a job analysing data, which I am not temperamentally suited to. The combo of isolation at home and no human contact in the job led to a breakdown and my resignation.
Now I have a WFH job dealing with people. I enjoy it much more, but it pays far far far less. I have both won and lost.

I’m so sorry, that’s so crap.

It was very hard on my mum, and my dad by extension. They should have been enjoying their retirement, travel etc and were suddenly locked down - my mum developed Parkinsons that I am sure was partly due to the stress.

My kids have also suffered, particularly my youngest as his first year of school was spent with mask on, school unreliable. The whole year feels a bit delayed in their social skills which makes friendships etc harder.

I can't complain as I lost no one close, but some things are changed for good like my mum's health.

My life went downhill rapidly in so far as it remained exactly the same through lockdown as it was before and not one person cared.

So while society was all about looking after your neighbours, look after the person on their own I spent a whole month without speaking to another adult at one point, and the norm was to go a week or two without conversation too. I would absolutely win any solitary confinement contest so I suppose that's a win.

When everyone was celebrating the reopening of pubs and bars and getting to see people again it meant nothing to me. My mental health is awful now. I've got so used to being completely isolated i can't see a point where I'll ever have the confidence to interact with people properly again. I don't even have to see people in person for work because the drive for WFH means I don't even have to leave the house for that anymore.

Hardly affected at all - I know how lucky I am. Both of us worked from home - DH had a four day week imposed for three months but then had a bonus which paid it back so we’ve not lost financially. Both sons coped ok with online school/uni but we put a structure in place which involved me walking with DS2 then aged 12 every late afternoon and he used that time to talk to me about anything he wanted to, often about online gaming. He did most of the school work but probably missed some of the stuff he disliked such as art.
He chatted a lot to school mates and we did zoom calls with family. I did garden visits with an aunt who is on her own when they were allowed. We got through it.
However, it has devastated many families and I doubt whether society would accept another lockdown.

The vaccine triggered some sort of immune response in me that activated crippling arthritis in my ankles. I received no help from the NHS, though the did investigate why I was in pain. I was finally offered physio earlier this year, but only over the phone. Even now. Fucking useless.

I had to self fund both that physio and the removal of a cancerous growth on my face that the GP refused to re-examine because they wouldn't do F2F appts.

I spent over a year being in pain and often completely unable to walk. I had to quit my job because of it. Even now, despite physio and time it's not quite right. The immobility also caused me to gain weight on top of the lockdown weight gain, so now I feel like a disgusting whale, but exercise is completely out of the question, due to the condition.

My best friend has lost her entire life outside the home to crippling agoraphobia. She can't even collect her children from school. It's utterly heartbreaking to see, but there's nothing I can do except still be there for her without judgement. Her children are undoubtably affected by it too, and I know she feels awful about that, but it really, really isn't her fault.

It was just a load of utter shit. I don't believe lockdowns had the tiniest positive effect on health as a whole at all.

When I did get covid, I was barely ill at all. Like everyone I know. I don't know a single person hospitalised or worse by covid.

Yes it did. My beloved DS was subjected to brutal isolation in his first year at uni, leading to horrific MH problems which he is only now recovering from, despite now having a great set of uni friends and a girlfriend. He was basically in solitary confinement in halls and when he finally met a few people he was really badly bullied by them which shredded his confidence and left him dangerously fragile. That was one of the most harrowing times of my life.

meanwhile my poor dad was ion solitary in hospital, allowed no visitors, not even my mum, for months on end, and all the nurses were too busy to take the ward phoen to him and he was too ill to charge or use his mobile. He was finally moved to a nursing home which was not a pleasant place. Anmd still we could barely visit. He died thinking people no longer cared about him. It still haunts me.

Yep. Dh had a mental breakdown and may never return to his job (NHS).

I feel for every one who has suffered. We lost our house and business and are now in rented. In our late 50's and I worry every day about where we will live when we are too old to work. All our friends are starting to retire and its so hard not to feel like it's a kick in the teeth - we worked so hard but just chose the wrong type of business! 25 sodding years building it up! Am gutted and sad and cry everyday!