Is it weird for both parents to attend a kids party?!

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First kids party we've been invited to and I don't know what the done thing is, but I'm pretty pregnant and big/uncomfortable/knackered and taking my 3 year old and it's a 30 min drive each way and I'm not feeling my best so my husband is saying we'll go together so he can drive/help out if 3yo is a bit shy/clingy/upset (he can be in busy situations) Is that weird?

I think both parents are fine at that age but equally so is sending your DH and chilling at home

If it’s at a hall, totally fine. If it’s at home, I’d just send Dh. Honestly, most parents don’t want to talk to other parents so totally fine to have some general chit chat and then hover about on your phone, unless you’re close friends with others.

He should go and you should rest

It's like couples who go to the supermarket together, each to their own but not my bag!

We had several instances of 2 parents at DD’s party and other parties we went to this year. Although the majority did have a second child with them to manage.
I don’t think it’s weird.

Mostly it's only 1 parent. What sort of venue is it? Would there be room if lots of the children turned up with 2 parents?

I would just send your husband. There's really no need for both of you to go.

Its unusual for both parents to go and means more adults mulling around which can be a pain. Send your dh and rest yourself. It’s good for him to meet the other parents too.

We both go together to kids parties often.
Not weird in the slightest?
DH enjoys catching up with the dads and I enjoy catching up with the mums. We share the responsibility of keeping an eye on our little one

We’ve both gone before because the party was near B&Q and we needed to look at paint and stuff together after so it made sense. No one seemed to think it was weird. The birthday boy’s dad was relieved to have another dad there and I just chatted with the other mums. Not weird at all imo

If it's a party in their house I wouldn't have both of us go, it's a nuisance having a houseful of adults getting in the way.

If it's a play centre or somewhere similar where adults can get themselves a coffee and sit out or the way them we both might go. Weekends are the only time we get together and it's
more pleasant to share the load when kids are wild at a play centre.

About half of the guests at DD's party had both parents with them. It was in a soft play though so most sat outside the party area in the coffee bit so it made no difference to the numbers overall.

DH and I both usually go. We're like ships passing in the night during the week so don't want to miss out on half a day with him most weekends when there is a kids party.

Either don’t go at all (3YO won’t know or care) or send DH with her.

He's an adult I'm sure he can make small talk with a bunch of other people!

Both of us will go if all 3 children have been invited as DS has SEN and requires 1:1. If only 1 child has been invited only 1 of us goes and the other stays home with the 2 that arent invited.

This weekend 2 of the children have been invited to different parties and DP is working so my mum is taking 1 child and she doesnt know anybody there and im taking the other and DS will come and sit with me.

Yes it is weird

I think it's generally accepted that kids parties are a fucking nightmare that there's no point both of you suffering through.

Completely normal round here for both to go. Weekends are precious family time so why wouldn't you go together unless it stipulates 1 parent only.

I don't find it weird at all. When I take DS to parties, I'd say around 50% of the parents are there as a couple.

I genuinely enjoy taking DS to parties. I love to see him with his friends I wouldn't ordinarily see him with as they're nursery friends, so in this position, I'd still want to tag along with DP and DS, but would be expecting DP to do all of the running around in the soft play if DS wanted help.

You're overthinking this. Just send DH on his own. Good opportunity for him to get to know some of the other parents!

Yes agree😹

Some odd comments. Me and my DH always go to my sons nursery parties. We enjoy seeing him play with his friends and catching up with their parents!

Totally send him. Dd had a friend whose parents used to both turn up at parties and I did think it was weird! Why would anyone go if they didn’t have to!

Just send him. He’ll become familiar with them and can do more going forward.

Send your husband. Will be nice father-son bonding time for them and you get a rest.