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I am just about to email to turn down a job offer for a job I actually really want. Anyone else had this occur?

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ThatBliddyWoman · 13/10/2022 06:48

I have had two interviews for the job, one just an informal meeting and the second a presentation. Both went well and I was offered the job. It was advertised as (for example) the pay starting at about 2K less than I am on now, and going up to 3 and a half thousand more.

They've offered me the very lowest end of the scale, because I don't have all of the experience they wanted.

They wanted a degree, experience in one particular field and experience in another field. I have two degrees (a Masters) and experience in one but not both of the areas so they'd start me on the lowest pay.

It's also more hours than I do now (albeit not many) some hours WFH some in the office. So I'd have to factor in petrol costs, and paying a dog walker.

I've looked at my finances over and over and I just can't do it :(

I keep re-wording the email. What I want them to do is to come back and say 'Great we'll give you more money then!' but It's not likely is it.

I have a gut feeling that they've not had many people apply. I breezed through both the interviews, I got the impression they really liked me :(

It's also in a field I really want to work in and really want to gain experience in. They'd offered to put me through a qualification I have always wanted too.

Gutted. Has anyone else had something such as this happen?

OP posts:
Feetupteashot · 19/10/2022 21:42

Don't email
Phone and say you would need better pay to consider accepting. If there is a min you can accept then be prepared to state this
See what they say
Explain you will consider and repsond promptly e.g. 2 days

RonSwansonsChair · 19/10/2022 21:58

You're absolutely right to say "You’d not be paying me too much, It’s more so that you pay your current staff too little!"
If you can, say this. Companies get away with paying as little as they can!

bewarethetides · 19/10/2022 22:01

I agree with others: you've dodged a bullet. Sounds like they're underpaying a lot of their staff as a rule, while expecting a lot for it.

You deserve better.

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RFPO77 · 20/10/2022 00:25

Negotiate, as you've said, you breezed through the interview process and they don't have many options, they want you and will probably (I am speaking from experience) throw more money at the role to make it go away and get it filled. When you find a good candidate it's much easier to give them more money than go back to square one in the recruitment process which is a pain in the rear end just when you think you've closed it 💐

Shepq · 20/10/2022 00:42

RFPO77 · 20/10/2022 00:25

Negotiate, as you've said, you breezed through the interview process and they don't have many options, they want you and will probably (I am speaking from experience) throw more money at the role to make it go away and get it filled. When you find a good candidate it's much easier to give them more money than go back to square one in the recruitment process which is a pain in the rear end just when you think you've closed it 💐

OP has posted that they turned down her negotiation and refused to budge.

LikeTearsInRain · 20/10/2022 11:31

Their loss, not yours.

More opportunities will arise in the future. Know your worth and don’t settle for less than you need or want.

Well done OP

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ThatBliddyWoman · 21/10/2022 21:04

Thanks again all :)

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billy1966 · 21/10/2022 21:38

I realise for privacy reasons you may not want to mention your area of work, but have you ever thought of looking for a professional mentor?

Has your career a professional body, or look at a recommendation for a life coach.

Over the years I have had friends say it was money massively well spent, on the right one.

They only went for 2 or 3 sessions but they really propelled them forward and helped them get over mental blocks that were holding them back.

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ThatBliddyWoman · 22/10/2022 20:26

billy1966 · 21/10/2022 21:38

I realise for privacy reasons you may not want to mention your area of work, but have you ever thought of looking for a professional mentor?

Has your career a professional body, or look at a recommendation for a life coach.

Over the years I have had friends say it was money massively well spent, on the right one.

They only went for 2 or 3 sessions but they really propelled them forward and helped them get over mental blocks that were holding them back.

Thank you-that is good to think about.

It does have a professional body but they're pretty useless IME. They charge a lot of money per year to be a member for very little, and are less than helpful if you ask them for anything-colleagues of mine share this view, I've not heard much good said about them!

The mentor thing is a good idea . I have thought about it but wouldn't know how to spot a good one or where to start if I am honest.

OP posts:
billy1966 · 22/10/2022 20:55

ThatBliddyWoman · 22/10/2022 20:26

Thank you-that is good to think about.

It does have a professional body but they're pretty useless IME. They charge a lot of money per year to be a member for very little, and are less than helpful if you ask them for anything-colleagues of mine share this view, I've not heard much good said about them!

The mentor thing is a good idea . I have thought about it but wouldn't know how to spot a good one or where to start if I am honest.

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Pure reading and investigation.

Start googling your sector.

Look at the people who are one are two rungs ahead of you.

Approach them for career , CV advice, life advice.
Do your own work.
Where do you see yourself?
5 years from now?
Look at it seriously and where you want to be.
You have time to do this.

Honestly, you might be surprised at how generous people will be if you show them that you are genuinely asking for career advice.

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ThatBliddyWoman · 22/10/2022 23:06

billy1966 · 22/10/2022 20:55

Pure reading and investigation.

Start googling your sector.

Look at the people who are one are two rungs ahead of you.

Approach them for career , CV advice, life advice.
Do your own work.
Where do you see yourself?
5 years from now?
Look at it seriously and where you want to be.
You have time to do this.

Honestly, you might be surprised at how generous people will be if you show them that you are genuinely asking for career advice.

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Thank you-I do have a 'mentor' as such (as we have to have a meeting with one now and again as part of our professional body membership). I am definitely going to ask her,if she can't help she'll know who can :)

OP posts:
billy1966 · 22/10/2022 23:11

Good for you and the best of luck with it.

Original poster
ThatBliddyWoman · 08/11/2022 22:16

Having a schadenfreude moment as have just been online looking for other jobs and noticed that they haven't found anybody yet.

OP posts:
WeAreTheHeroes · 08/11/2022 22:32

They're fools. Give it a couple of months and a recruitment agency will contact you about the job.

XanaduKira · 08/11/2022 22:40

I agree @WeAreTheHeroes

Scottishskifun · 08/11/2022 22:50

Some areas of work advertise salaries but it's only to entice people rather then the actual pay grade.
Civil service is a prime example they put in the levels because you can't transfer from one dept to another and receive less pay for the same role but different dept pay different scales. So a complete
new start is at the bottom whilst loads of civil servants sideways move about and are near the top of what's advertised. It really annoyed my DH so he left!

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