Tell me your horror stories of wrongly sent/forwarded messages to help me cope.

[ShitlandIslands]

I'm dying of cringe here. I feel so tense.I didn't even do the crime but I've got palpitations here.

My mate just sent our Cookery WhatsApp group a photo of her boyfriend proposing to her. Another member of the WhatsApp group forwarded the photo to a different WhatsApp group, let's say a Jigsaw WhatsApp group, with a not-so-complimentary message.

Unbeknownst to the forwarder, the newly engaged mate is also in the Jigsaw WhatsApp group.

The Jigsaw WhatsApp group is very quiet. Eerily quiet.

Oh my god. My actual heart.

[WhatsApp groups aren't actually Cookery and Jigsaws - invented to protect the identities of those involved].

I don't have anything to relate this experience to. The worst it got for me was when I once text my boss a picture intended for DP.

DP was, say, Dave in my contact list and my boss was, say, Davey.
The picture was of a terrible, terrible, non-risen, beige stodge-fest of a cake I'd made on my day off with the accompanying message "I'm a shit head".

After I'd reassured my boss I wasn't having a breakdown (just bad a baking), it was all fine. I changed DP's name in my contact list very soon after.

I sent an important email to a colleague to check for me before I sent it to a big client. Then I forwarded the checked version to the clients with the sentence at the top “ please check before I send this to those pedantic assholes”

Oh my

What happened?

Noooo

@ZeldaWillTellYourFortune
She was gracious. Said she understood and made some excuse for why his invitation came later than everyone else's (one that didn't really stand up to scrutiny but I wasn't in a position to judge by that point!) and invited me for coffee. I thanked her, made appropriate "that sounds good" sounds and then never made arrangements. Because ultimately, yes, I was still pissed off about my son being excluded by someone who should have known better. But normal polite service was resumed and we continue with polite chat and hellos at the school gates. Interestingly, I don't remember the incident with the usual feeling of shame, which makes me feel like I handled it as well as I could have.

I found out that Horrible Big Boss from a company I used to work at had handed her notice in.
I rushed to call my friend to let her know as it was huge news.
But I accidentally dialled Horrible Big Boss instead.

awkward

I got called into the office to ask if I had been sending messages whilst on shift. I said yes, why and was told to check my sent folder. I’d called a colleague (using her name) a c*^t and sent it to her instead of my other colleague. Couldn’t exactly deny it. She was sent home crying and I got a bollocking… whoops 😬

@StupidSmallFruit

I think that the reason these things feel so cringe and shameful is that we believe that we've revealed something about ourselves, like a dirty secret, that isn't true of other people. Other people aren't as two faced or grumpy or something...

When the truth is, we're all the same really.

If you give a real apology:

-I was enjoying the drama /being the centre of attention/ I was upset about.../I was a bit jealous of.../ I prioritised being funny and impressing X over your feelings or being kind

...not only does the person get an actual real apology (which feels so good compared to "sorry that you felt") but in your own vulnerability you give them a solid reminder that we are all flawed and just doing our best, which is a really positive message. People like other people who make themselves vulnerable; it gives us permission to discard perfection. They also like people they can empathise with, and you give them something to empathise with when you tell the truth.

Not me but after being on mat leave for a year I returned to work to find the whole HR team in a shambles (I worked in that team) and the finance team was also imploding. My first task was to hear a redundancy appeal with a board member. The issue was that the finance director had emailed HR to calculate ‘Jenny’s’ redundancy pay before the meeting he was about to have. Trouble is he sent the email to Jenny not HR 🤦‍♀️ Jenny was indeed made redundant and was appealing the decision. I think her job was still made redundant as it wasn’t needed but it was all very awkward and the fairly new finance director didn’t last much longer after that incident.

@MarshaBradyo the client never mentioned it and neither did I. When I next met them we both pretended it had not happened.

I understood the post as the friend had told OP all the ticks had gone blue?

I had an email from a colleague about me once, speculating as to why I seemed so pissed off with DH. My colleague was mortified but it could have been much worse!

I also remember a meeting in which someone had asked a question, and an IM flashed up on the presenter’s screen from another colleague, complaining about how dense the questioner was.

Pmsl 🤣

I understood the post as the friend had told OP all the ticks had gone blue?

How did you interpret that?

Go back and have a read of the post.

I once text someone I'd had a one night stand with saying I thought I was pregnant - I was meant to send it to my friend!

I can read, thanks.

OP says: ‘Nothing has been said in the Jigsaw group. But the ticks have gone blue.’

They don’t say they saw the blue ticks. Maybe their friend told them all the ticks went blue.

The OP says:

”The forwarder is really bad at social media and communication so I think she's sent the message, put her phone down and moved on which is why she hasn't realised/deleted”

”I think she’s sent…” suggests they’re not in touch.

And if she’s in touch with the sender, surely she’d be posting how much the sender is freaking out and analysing how bad it all is.

Fair enough.

Fair play to you for giving the OP the benefit of the doubt @OrianaBanana - you are obviously much less cynical than me!

😂

I do wonder if OP will come back to explain it all…

I have been tagging her regularly, but no show, so far!!

@ShitlandIslands - any thoughts on your thread?

Not a text message but when i was about 15 me and my friend rang a guy she was seeing which went to voicemail, talking about sexual things, we were just being silly but totally inappropriate for 15 year olds🙈

Anyway I got home the next day, my mum shoved me in her room, pressed play on the answer machine and made me listen to our whole conversation. We had rang my mum instead of the guy, mortified wasnt even the word

I sent a WhatsApp to my new guy asking him to get some intimate gel for us, so we could continue our (incredible) relations next time we met.
I sent it to a (thankfully small) group of town councillors. 😱

Me and my mum are a bit obsessed about our sagging boobs now we're getting older. A lady got on the bus one day with absolutely enormous boobs that were at waist height. I WhatsApped my mum a message saying something a long the lines of " a woman with massive saggy knockers has just got on the bus, they're enormous". I got a message back saying " OK thanks" . I thought it was a bit odd as my mum would of sent something funny back about our boobs but I'd got to my stop so I just left it till I got home. I looked at it when I got in and I'd sent it to my daughters other half who's name was same letter as my mum was under( I c e in case of emergency). Luckily he's got our sense of humour and I rang my daughter and she said he'd been on site and wondered if I was OK with me sending that. He's under a different letter now.

Some of these stories ring true, but others simply don’t.

@Oldbutwiser - yours definitely does
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