Tell me your horror stories of wrongly sent/forwarded messages to help me cope.

[ShitlandIslands]

I'm dying of cringe here. I feel so tense.I didn't even do the crime but I've got palpitations here.

My mate just sent our Cookery WhatsApp group a photo of her boyfriend proposing to her. Another member of the WhatsApp group forwarded the photo to a different WhatsApp group, let's say a Jigsaw WhatsApp group, with a not-so-complimentary message.

Unbeknownst to the forwarder, the newly engaged mate is also in the Jigsaw WhatsApp group.

The Jigsaw WhatsApp group is very quiet. Eerily quiet.

Oh my god. My actual heart.

[WhatsApp groups aren't actually Cookery and Jigsaws - invented to protect the identities of those involved].

I don't have anything to relate this experience to. The worst it got for me was when I once text my boss a picture intended for DP.

DP was, say, Dave in my contact list and my boss was, say, Davey.
The picture was of a terrible, terrible, non-risen, beige stodge-fest of a cake I'd made on my day off with the accompanying message "I'm a shit head".

After I'd reassured my boss I wasn't having a breakdown (just bad a baking), it was all fine. I changed DP's name in my contact list very soon after.

In a government office the well known lazy colleague would check the daily calendar and say things out loud like “Sarah is off again today, I wonder why she’s off again so many days in a row”.
I emailed my boss who was sitting next to me “ffs he is so nosy, she has a doctor’s appointment, he needs to mind his own business” but instead of sending it to my boss I sent it straight to the lazy nosy colleague. I actually ran over and apologized as I saw him open it and styled it out by saying that people take days off for personal reasons so he should stop checking the calendar and talking about it. I still cringe when I think about it.

I sent my friend & I’s very private conversation about vibrators to my daughters brownie leader by mistake. Omg!! Luckily she laughed her head off!

I was training an intern at a magazine, and told him to send a test email of a single word to me. Well, my name begins with "All", so he accidentally emailed all@publishing company. The word he chose? Only the N word... Everyone knew he was my intern so I was forever associated with the incident. Mortifying.

We were organising a surprise party for a friends 30th and we formed a separate group chat to organise it so she wouldn't know. It was all going to plan but on the morning of the party one of our group wrote she had just set up the balloons and was off to get the cake soon. Only, she wrote it in the normal group chat which included our birthday girl. I didn't realise so I wrote back along the lines of 'great! Can't wait now, not long!' I'll never forget how sick I felt when I realised and even though the others all said it was ok I could tell they were annoyed we had ruined the surprise with hours to go!

@whenindoubtgotothelibrary for some reason "come back to Tiger" has made me laugh a lot. I think because I read it as a (weird) endearment too. Like your neighbour probably did.

A new Head of Department had been appointed. I was replying to an email to some colleagues and referred to a senior colleague (who was not on the email) as Swiss Tony. I didn’t spot that the new HoD was cc’d. Feared I had really blotted my copy book with the new boss, and was just crossing my fingers he wouldn’t read the email as he was no doubt very busy and it wasn’t particularly important.

A couple of hours later I was walking down the corridor and saw the HoD coming the other way. He pointed at me and said sternly “YOU”. Then guffawed, and told me he’d just come from a meeting with Swiss Tony and it was all he could think about. “It’s uncanny!”. It was uncanny. He was just like him.

I have ticks on all my groups.
maybe your settings are different.

In a group chat, the second check mark appears when all participants in the group have received your message. Two blue check marks appear when all participants in the group have read your message.
Message info
For any message that you send, you'll be able to see a message info screen, displaying the details of when your message was delivered, read, or played by the recipient.

www.facebook.com/1138190983240010#:~:text=Two%20blue%20check%20marks%20appear,group%20have%20read%20your%20message.&text=For%20any%20message%20that%20you,or%20played%20by%20the%20recipient.

faq.whatsapp.com/1138190983240010/?ref=share

You've just contradicted your post saying there are never any check marks against messages

No one actually cares about the blue tick thing do they?

No.

I haven't.

And nor have all the other people pointing out that you only see ticks on messages YOU HAVE SENT.

not other people's messages. Which is the whole point. Op said she saw blue ticks on a message that someone else sent to the group. Not her

But indeed @Topgub no one cares, but it's really irritating that people keep banging on about it and being wrong.

What?!

Please tell us he was sacked for selecting that word.

Well just to add further confusion on my WhatsApp the ticks are grey and it doesnt matter who posts

Oooohh

I lie!

I just rechecked. They are blue!

🤣🤣🙈

Are you saying that in a group chat, not a one-to-one conversation, you can see ticks on messages that OTHER PEOPLE (not you) have sent to the group?

I really don't think that's right.

No!

I'm completely wrong.

Don't know what I was looking at before. I was sure all boxes had grey ticks.

But I just checked now send they dont. Only my posts have blue ticks

🙈

The most awkward group I’ve been in was a family group chat where one relative announced that she needed help picking her kids up from school for a few days as she was going abroad for plastic surgery.
Another relative who was owed a fair chunk of money by her and who has tried to mediate between her and her elder two kids about how neglected they felt meant to send a rant to her own Mum. Ended up mistakenly being the first reply in the group chat saying along the lines of “Is she for fucking real? Sponging off everyone then swanning off spending £££ on tummy tucks when her kids have holes in their shoes?! Even if she won fucking euromillions she’d still find something to be miserable about”.
The one going abroad replied back saying “Thanks for the support family…” and didn’t speak to any of us again until she next needed money

The worst one I did personally was when my Ex’s then-partner messaged me to say they’d got engaged. They were planning a wedding on x weekend so he wouldn’t be able to have our girls (who were 14 at the time) as there was no one to babysit them in the registry office.
i forwarded to my best mate saying “She needs her head read” but managed to send it to her as well as my friend.

😁👍

Sent a load of photos of duck penises to my work WhatsApp group chat, pissed up at about 3am

I’d had a very bizarre, drunken argument with a friend about whether or not ducks had penises so in the cab on the way home I googled and sent her a load of pictures.

I didn’t get into any shit, but was very embarrassed as to WTF they thought I was Googling

alloalloallo** made me chuckle, sorry!

Not WhatsApp or messenger but Facebook. My late DM sent what she thought was a private email, ranting about all the things that were wrong in her marriage (not a lot - all was good, just all the usual getting annoyed with each other sort of thing). She'd replied to a Facebook email notification from a friend which she didn't realise was going to post directly to her page for all to see. Thought she was privately emailing. I spotted it about 20 minutes after she'd replied to the email, rang her and she, with my help (not tech savvy), was able to delete it. I'm not sure how many people actually saw it though.

Right.

One grey tick when the message has been sent.

Two grey ticks when the message has been delivered.

Two blue ticks when the message has been read.

And when I say ‘the’ message, I mean ‘your’ message, not anyone else’s.

😂

My friend had text me to ask how my newish relationship was going, accidentally replied to newish boyfriend how I felt it was going. I did not feel it was going well or would last too long and gave lots of reasons why 🙈 I so don't miss the days of phones not having conversion threads.. another time I messaged an acquaintance what I really thought of her instead of newish boyfriend who I was chatting with - the problem was if you have to pick the contract you're sending a message to, it's so easy to send it the person you're talking about 😅 Had taught he not to bitch (via phone)

I'm so paranoid about doing this, I check and double check...

...except the one time I didn't.

My child with ADHD was being excluded from a lot of parties and activities. I was getting increasingly hacked off, especially when I realised that a parent who is also a colleague was doing it too.

One day, with about 2 days notice I got a text message from said colleague inviting my son to her child's party. Very obviously last minute. I was aware that other kids had been invited a few weeks before. I forwarded it to my husband, quoting "Check this shit out...yeah very generous". Except I hadn't, I'd replied to her.

Nightmare.

I saw no other option than to completely own it. Sent another message to explain. Something like, "I'm sorry. That wasn't intended for you. Was supposed to be unguarded discussion between husband and wife. We've been struggling with how much X has been excluded recently, hence feeling a bit triggered by a late invitation. Had definitely not intended to send you something so confrontational. Thanks for the invitation; much appreciated, but he won't be able to make it. Hope Y has a lovely birthday."

I think making up stupid stories or shitty excuses in these situations just adds to the insult/offence. Most of what we say has a reason and if we are honest and own it, with a genuine apology, it's much easier for everyone to move on.

Once another colleague got caught telling bare faced lies about me. The lies had a consequence they wouldn't have anticipated that resulted in a manager giving me a gentle warning. I could easily prove the issue was a complete fabrication. The liar was confronted and asked to apologise to me. It was the most genuine apology I've ever received! She came to my office, apologised and her explanation was completely honest, "I knew it wasn't true, I got caught up in creating gossip and drama and didn't think there would be any consequences". There really isn't much more to say after that. She apologised, told the truth and didn't fudge it in any way!