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Tell me your horror stories of wrongly sent/forwarded messages to help me cope.

423 replies

ShitlandIslands · 10/10/2022 16:33

I'm dying of cringe here. I feel so tense.I didn't even do the crime but I've got palpitations here.

My mate just sent our Cookery WhatsApp group a photo of her boyfriend proposing to her. Another member of the WhatsApp group forwarded the photo to a different WhatsApp group, let's say a Jigsaw WhatsApp group, with a not-so-complimentary message.

Unbeknownst to the forwarder, the newly engaged mate is also in the Jigsaw WhatsApp group.

The Jigsaw WhatsApp group is very quiet. Eerily quiet.

Oh my god. My actual heart.

[WhatsApp groups aren't actually Cookery and Jigsaws - invented to protect the identities of those involved].

I don't have anything to relate this experience to. The worst it got for me was when I once text my boss a picture intended for DP.

DP was, say, Dave in my contact list and my boss was, say, Davey.
The picture was of a terrible, terrible, non-risen, beige stodge-fest of a cake I'd made on my day off with the accompanying message "I'm a shit head".

After I'd reassured my boss I wasn't having a breakdown (just bad a baking), it was all fine. I changed DP's name in my contact list very soon after.

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Ohyay · 10/10/2022 17:20

Girl from our team went to a meeting on our teams behalf and relayed hardly any info to us. I text someone else saying can you give me an update the girl who went for us is fucking useless. Got a good indepth reply which I screenshot and sent to the team whatsapp... but you could see the end of the comment saying she was fucking useless. Awkward. I know she saw it. Everyone saw it. Wanted to die. But she was useless. I standby that.

BiscuitLover3678 · 10/10/2022 17:23

somebody2lava · 10/10/2022 16:46

I once grounded my teenage daughter for some typical teenage thing and she took great offence. She went into my phone directory and changed about the names of a few of my contacts. Following morning I was slightly hung over. I thought I was texting my boy friend of the time a saucy message in response to his " is everything ok today ?" Message. I thought he was being lovely about me having to cancel the previous night out as my daughter was being a pain. But no. I was actually messaging the woman whose dog I'd just taken into foster after her husband collapsed and had a life changing stroke. She was enquiring about THE DOG and how I was coping with him and I basically replied saying thatI couldn't believe I was lucky to have such an understanding partner and I needed a bloody good shagfest at the earliest possible opportunity.

Thankfully she was very understanding and even laughed about it but even now I want to die just thinking about it.

This made me laugh out loud

RudsyFarmer · 10/10/2022 17:28

I live in constant fear of doing similar. So much so refuse to bitch about anyone in writing.

GiggleWhale · 10/10/2022 17:30

We had a PhD Whatsapp group and at some stage some idiot decided to add the staff to the group but didn't inform the rest of us.

There was some pretty drunken lab banter on a Friday night and a message about who had hooked up with who, how plastered a couple of the guys were, and, the fact that a few of us were quite stoned.

9am supervisory meeting on Monday morning was very, very quiet. Our supervisor was definitely in the position of "should I say something, or should I not say something".

They worked out pretty quickly that the staff were added in spite though to trip us / one of us up.

lovelypidgeon · 10/10/2022 17:30

My DH did a PCGE in his 30s and they had a student group chat. It was a very badly kept secret that some of the students had set up an alternative chat group. There were a few young women on the course who DH always said seemed lovely to his face but he never really felt he could trust them. Towards the end of the course one of them posted on what she clearly thought was the unofficial chat, saying she thought they should organise a big celebration night for when the course ended but they didn't want to invite any of the old bastards. Her mates all replied with increasingly disparaging comments about the 'old bastards' (seemingly anyone over the age of 25), including personal comments about some of them. DH was named, and they concluded that he was the chief boring bastard so probably wouldn't come anyway- he was so fucking rude that he'd not even bothered going to any of the Friday night drinks they took the time to organise. They then went on to suggest that as well as crowning DH chief boring bastard perhaps they should have an mock awards evening and hand out awards for the people they didn't like eg.Fattest student, student most likely to die alone with cats etc etc and maybe include faculty staff eg. Most fucking useless course administrator. DH replied with 'Thanks for thinking of me, but I will be far too busy spending time with my wife and children to come to any end of year parties. I am happy to be called boring and am pleased that you see me as a leader, but can't agree with any of your other award suggestions. Particularly your award for X, our course administrator, she has been a great help to many students and puts a lot of work over and above her job description- including acting as administrator for this group chat'.

coldcaff · 10/10/2022 17:30

I've sent messages to the wrong person but I don't think it's ever been anything too embarrassing.

I was once messaging a friend, and she accidentally sent a voice message back to me- a recording of her reading out my message to other people! It was something quite sensitive and personal, and I thought I could trust her. It was never talked about but we're certainly not as close as we used to be- we see each other through other friends only now- and I will never trust her again.

Wombat27A · 10/10/2022 17:32

Someone I know complained about their secretary but didn't turn his dictaphone off, then gave it to her for typing up...

Plet · 10/10/2022 17:33

As a teenager, on MSN messenger, one of my friends was annoying me. He was being a bit clingy and needy. Being the mature person that I was, I copied and pasted his messages to another friend with along with my own 'hilarilous' nasty, bitchy comments. Except I'd pasted his own comments back to him.

I realised what I'd done immediately and performed an emergency shutdown on the pc, as though that would make it go away.

I called him to apologise an hour or so later and explained that I was finding him a bit much but, somehow, he didn't seem to have realised that I was addressing a third person with my comments. He thought I was having a go at him. I got off quite lightly because having a go at someone is nowhere near as bad as secretly sending their messages to other people so you can laugh at them and slag them off.

I learnt to be much more careful with checking who I am messaging and also not to behave like a horrible cow if I don't want to be seen as one.

OrangePumpkinLobelia · 10/10/2022 17:34

Well, recently a friend sent a very nice message to someone saying she could not meet because she had a doctor's appointment.

That someone then sent a message to another friend slagging original friend off saying she was a nasty bitch anyway and totally up her own arse. But she sent it to a friend using their mutual book club whatsapp which everyone involved (including me) was all on.

There were some pursed lips sipping prosecco the next book club meeting I can tell you.

CongratulationsBeautiful · 10/10/2022 17:35

I once called my boss a wanker in a message to a colleague. Except I sent it directly to him. Did not go down well but we got past it eventually. I felt terrible because he was actually a brilliant boss, I was just trying to make stressed out colleague feel better as she was having a bad day.

OrangePumpkinLobelia · 10/10/2022 17:36

lovelypidgeon · 10/10/2022 17:30

My DH did a PCGE in his 30s and they had a student group chat. It was a very badly kept secret that some of the students had set up an alternative chat group. There were a few young women on the course who DH always said seemed lovely to his face but he never really felt he could trust them. Towards the end of the course one of them posted on what she clearly thought was the unofficial chat, saying she thought they should organise a big celebration night for when the course ended but they didn't want to invite any of the old bastards. Her mates all replied with increasingly disparaging comments about the 'old bastards' (seemingly anyone over the age of 25), including personal comments about some of them. DH was named, and they concluded that he was the chief boring bastard so probably wouldn't come anyway- he was so fucking rude that he'd not even bothered going to any of the Friday night drinks they took the time to organise. They then went on to suggest that as well as crowning DH chief boring bastard perhaps they should have an mock awards evening and hand out awards for the people they didn't like eg.Fattest student, student most likely to die alone with cats etc etc and maybe include faculty staff eg. Most fucking useless course administrator. DH replied with 'Thanks for thinking of me, but I will be far too busy spending time with my wife and children to come to any end of year parties. I am happy to be called boring and am pleased that you see me as a leader, but can't agree with any of your other award suggestions. Particularly your award for X, our course administrator, she has been a great help to many students and puts a lot of work over and above her job description- including acting as administrator for this group chat'.

Oh I LOVE this one. Good on your DH.

TwoWrightFeet · 10/10/2022 17:37

Did she send the picture to the Cookery group by mistake? I’m scared to ask what pose he was doing!!!!

what did the jigsaw woman say?

PinkHeadphones · 10/10/2022 17:39

Sent an email saying “I think my team has taken stupid pills today” …to my team.
Being far back in the mists of time when nobody bothered with things like passwords , you could only access email from your massive PC, and we were all sitting together, I was able to delete it from the machines of two people as they weren’t there at the time and the third team member kindly agreed that I could delete it from his when I told him I had accidentally forwarded him an email that was not for him. He could have checked the deleted folder had he wanted to though.

bettyfretty · 10/10/2022 17:42

I messaged my daughters entire football group a long message saying how my daughters dad needs to grow up and either play a part in her life or bugger off - it was a huge essay of a message that took me a whole afternoon to write. Thankfully I think I managed to delete the message before any of the parents read the full thing but it definitely would of been an interesting ready for the nosey parents on there!

Topgub · 10/10/2022 17:42

Twice I've received accidental inappropriate messages meant for others

One a nude

One a bitchfest about me

🤣

RaRaRaspoutine · 10/10/2022 17:43

I’ve never done this, which, given that I am a massive fucking idiot, is surprising. I accidentally sleep-dialled a pal (no idea how I did this - guess my phone was set to never lock) and she texted me about my snoring :D

Siouxtse1 · 10/10/2022 17:44

I went to visit my sister many years ago, she'd moved away for work. I met her new partner and I didn't think much of him at all. My boyfriend at the time (now my husband) sent a text asking how the trip was going and I thought I'd replied, mentioning how insufferable sister's new partner was...

Sister and my now husband were next to each other in my contacts, I somehow managed to message my sister as well. She was in the shower. I ran around her house looking for her phone. I did find it, but of course, she had a lock on it so I was unable to delete the message. She never mentioned it and they've been unhappily married for years. BIL is still awful...

ghostsandpumpkinsalready · 10/10/2022 17:47

I thought I'd sent my girlfriend a saucy message saying something along the lines of how I couldn't wait to undress her and throw her on the bed 🤣
I sent it to my neighbour who knew nothing of my bi sexual behaviour 😩
In my defence it was very early in the morning,I'd not even had a coffee and they do have the same first name 🤷‍♀️🤣

Preg19 · 10/10/2022 17:47

oh I have one! A friend was arranging a works leaving do for me and was making it an event on fb, when I looked on there I saw she had invited someone I wasn’t really keen on, I then messaged her and told her so, I then went to look at the group again a little while later and saw the cover photo, at the time I had sent that message she had screen shot a photo to use as the cover photo and you could see my message had come through at the top of the screen. Honestly you could make it up!!

HavfrueDenizKisi · 10/10/2022 17:48

AriettyHomily · 10/10/2022 16:37

I texted the school whatsapp group instead of DH to say 'thank goodness xxx didn't get the same school as DD'

That didn't go down well.

Oh dear god that is the stuff of nightmares!

Backmebring · 10/10/2022 17:51

I’ve just had this happen to me by someone I was ‘close’ friends with, in business together, holiday together, each other’s children’s godparents. I felt awful but I’m glad I now know what they really think and how aggressive they can be. Such an eye opener.

I cried when it happened

OrangePumpkinLobelia · 10/10/2022 17:51

Backmebring · 10/10/2022 17:51

I’ve just had this happen to me by someone I was ‘close’ friends with, in business together, holiday together, each other’s children’s godparents. I felt awful but I’m glad I now know what they really think and how aggressive they can be. Such an eye opener.

I cried when it happened

Thanks
Cactuslove · 10/10/2022 17:52

After what felt like many many dates with this lad as a late teen/early twentier with nothing much happening... when something (😉) finally happened I thought I was texting a friend... when I messaged how glad I was that finally something fun had happened and it was worth the wait etc but texted him. Oh god the shame. He just replied 'glad you had fun' 🤣🤣🤣🙈

Radiatorvalves · 10/10/2022 17:53

In a zoom call with senior colleagues, one of whom was screen sharing. A female colleague was enthusiastically talking up a team member and he typed an IM to someone else … “She’s such a fucking pain. She always fucking does this….” And kept on digging.

His error was pointed out and à disciplinary ensued.

PanettoneMoly · 10/10/2022 17:55

Landscaper doing our garden offered for us to pay in cash, less 20% VAT but adding another 5% on for doing us a “favour”. I sent DH a text referring to him as “Tax Dodge Terry” and obviously replied straight to the landscaper.

Also texted “thank god X’s mate can’t come, Y is totally right when she says they’re utter odd-bods” to a WhatsApp group including X, dropping both myself and Y in it. To be fair, the friend in question likes to be quirky and tediously makes everyone call her after various fruit & veg. Think Ras Berry, Avo Cado, blah blah.