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To think that a lot of talk about 'boundaries '

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Skelligsfeathers · 06/10/2022 20:11

Is just shorthand for being really selfish?

I am staggered on here sometimes when I read about how little people will do for each other, how little they will put others first.
And it's always dressed up as ' having boundaries'.
Well, you know what, your boundaries won't help you when you're n the shit and YOU need some help. Just be prepared.

I think it is really . Sad

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SudocremOnEverything · 09/10/2022 16:18

whumpthereitis · 09/10/2022 14:20

That’s another issue, the idea that if you always say yes to doing things for others that they will naturally be grateful and won’t hesitate to return the favour. Except that’s often not what happens. At all.

instead the ‘giver’ gets a reputation as a soft touch, and gets taken advantage of because people know they’ll allow it. Similarly, if the giver ever needs help themselves, they don’t see the takers for dust.

This has tended to be my experience. In all spheres.

in fact, the takers seem to feel aggrieved at any expectation that they might also help or contribute. Even angry that the person needing help isn’t just doing things for them.

And they tend to be hugely critical of everyone else’s efforts.

minou123 · 09/10/2022 17:34

Skelligsfeathers · 09/10/2022 11:29

This! 🤣

Sorry, I forgot i had posted this thread until now. It was literally a reaction to a thread where someone had refused to do a simple favour and got a " yeah, assert your boundaries hun" response.
Thank you all for your thoughtful replies.

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Oh, is this what the #bekind people are doing? Laughing at women who are in shitty situations and are just trying to find a way to talk about it.

Are you really saying if you are asked to do something and you just don't want to do it, you do it anyway? Really?

FKATondelayo · 09/10/2022 19:30

100% minou - no empathy whatsoever

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