Partner won't take his medication...what am I meant to do?

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Been together 18 months
Live together
He has severe asthma
He's meant to take 8 steroids a day plus 2 other tablets for his airways.
He has been given biological injections for 2 months which has made a massive difference.
Before this he was in hospital twice a month.
Peak flow of 150 below
Now he won't take his tablets because he's depressed but won't take his anti depressants either.
A month he hasn't taken them and his breathing has deteriorated.
I got a pillbox and every day sort them out he won't take them.
He says no and I get told I'm the issue and I'm controlling.
I'm trying to keep him heathy.

I think he misses the attention of being in hospital
I think he misses doctors not knowing how tyou treat him
I'm honestly sick of my life with him
We go on holiday in a month and I can't get excited because he will probably be ill and we won't be able to go.

I don't know what to do anymore

Leave him.

My ex had no intention of dealing with his diabetes. After I left, he needed 5 operations and nearly died of an infection in his groin. (When I was with him he had a series of massive abscesses that he ignored).

Leave him to it, he's a grown man. You're not his carer and after only 18 months in the relationship I'd be running for the hills.

L :- Leave
E :- Evacuate
A :- Abandon him
V:- Vamonos. Go!
E :- Evacuate yourself! Go!!!

Run away

Email his surgery and tell them he is not taking medication then leave him to be stupid alone. Go on holiday with a friend.

He's not listening to you, and you don't seem to be listening to the replies. You are not responsible for monitoring his health, and he isn't going to change. Leave.

This ^^ You need to get out of this relationship. You can't fix him and he's being unpleasant to you.

You’ve asked for advice but you aren’t engaging with or responding any of the advice you’ve been given.

Basically he isn’t a child and you aren’t his mother.

He’s ill and he has been given treatment

he is declining to take his treatment

is he so unwell he no longer has capacity ??

if he’s not lost the ability to make an informed decision due to mental incapacity then it’s on him and there is nothing you can do

it sucks

Hills are thataway ===============> Run for them.

I don't think this poster ever engages with their own threads. Just does a mind dump over various posts and then it fizzles out.

Cop yourself on! You are a complete fool to put up with that. You are not special you are just another run of the mill moron

Don;t have children with him.
Do you want to wait around till he dies of becomes disabled? I'd cut my losses now and leave him to mage his own mess.

You can take a horse to water but you cant make it drink.

Stop trying.

Yes this.

Have a holiday and get yourself strong.

✨dump him✨

You are trying to help him and he is declining and getting angry at you after only 18months together?! You are not his carer and if it was you that was poorly it's safe to say he probably would be trying to look after you or help. Walk away now or stay and put up with this for the rest of your life.

Who owns the house? or do your rent - is it in your name?

If you can kick him out, do it. If not, pack your bags and go.

Leave him. This is not going to get better. You cannot help him to want to be well. This will suck all of the good things out of your relationship

I know it sounds heartless to say this, but I would leave him. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. And you deserve better.

Whilst he might care for you, you're not his priority. He is. You can't "save" him. He will ruin your mental health. Leave.

Do you live together, who's house?

'Dp our arguments about your health are making me ill. So I've decided to do what you want. I won't mention doctors, pill, inhalers, coughs etc as you wished. I do care how you are, but you're right-you're a grown up. Please remember our holiday on x date, if you don't feel up to it x has said she'll go instead'

He's a cocklodger, he enjoys you fussing and worrying about him. If he wasn't ill, you'd not fuss, he'd have to do his share around the house and work...

Well, you can't say you haven't tried, he's not interested in helping himself and resents you for wanting to help him.

Leave him to it OP.

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