8 year olds birthday party, £5 In birthday card?

[MsMiaWallace]

Do you think £5 in a card is too tight? DH says not I thought it was.
It's not a close friend just class mate & invited to my DS is invited to a party.

I think its fine, might add in a few sweets or a big bar of chocolate. Much more preferable to some tat.

My 8yo would be delighted.

That's the rule of thumb at my child's school. Love it.

Give what you can afford. Don't stretch yourself for a class party.

£10 is about standard here though. £15 for very close/best friends.

DS had his 8th birthday last week and the value of gifts he was given from his friends were £10-£15. He got two cash gifts of £10, £10 PlayStation voucher, a Nerf gun, Minecraft Lego set, remote control car, science set and a hype bottle.

I think £5 is fine. I’d be happy with that for my DC. My DC aged 5 and 6 have got a few parties coming up and I’m planning on £5 in a card as a gift.

£5 with a big bar of chocolate so they’ve something to unwrap is nicer imo.

Around here, £5 in a card is standard, any more would be seen as unusual.

This.

I think it's too little. I always give ten or a present around ten plus card. However, DD had a party this weekend and she got 20s and a 30. I panicked thinking I was a tight arse. She was 11 so is different.

Ultimately, it doesn't matter. They won't care and your presence is enough. If that's all you can afford, go for it. If you can stretch to £10, do.

My DC are 19 & 21 now. £5 was the norm when they were in primary school, but even then there were some who did £10. Very working class, not affluent area.

Is the tooth fairy still £1? That's seems to have been the rate for decades 😆

I honestly think it's fine! Kids love money 😊

It's standard where we are, anything else would be unusual.

In 1987 that was the going rate, that's far too tight now

I think to imagine it's tight is quite odd. Are you saying you only invite people to parties in order to get the present?

My kids would have been delighted and I know that their friends would be too. It made my life easier as I didn't have to buy the gift, gift wrap etc

£5 is fine, but I would give it along with a big bag of sweets or bar of chocolate.

Just depends on how affluent your school is tbh. That would be seen as tight by parents at my kids’ school - generally gifts are around £10, more like £15 for close friends. But in some areas that would be seen as way over the top. So maybe ask one of the other school mums you’re friendly with, see what they think?

I think you're being tight to be honest. People give what they can.

I'd usually give a tenner, but if it's a shared party with a friend / sibling I'd maybe give a fiver to each child. It depends if it's a friend or just an all class party and how old they are really.
I love it when my dc get a fiver, one less thing to find a home for.

£10 seems standard here, if cash, although someone gave DD £20 a couple of years ago 🧐
That said, I’d much prefer a £5 trend and DD would be over the moon with £5!

I always give £10 for class party but £15 for one of his better mates.

Honestly give what you can. I've gave £5 and a bag of sweets before when money was tight and £10 other times. My daughter wouldn't give too hoots what she was given just her friend being there is enough for her xx

For class parties in younger years I’d do a fiver.

For parties older than that I’d do a tenner, because the number of parties is much lower.

That said, if there’s a “parents agreement” for the class in general I’d stick with that and add sweets etc like others have said.

A fiver in a card is fine. Not tight at all.

Ignore the moneybags posters on here who tell you otherwise.

Depends where you live and the income of parents surely. If you live in a lower income area where most are on minimum wage compared to Richmond where everyone lives in £800000+ homes I'd expect gifts and parties themselves to be vastly different.

Low income area £5 in a card and a bag of sweets is the norm here, £10 at a push for a non bestfriend. DDs best friend I'll spend £20+ on but they've been friends for a decade and DD has largely taken over gift buying for her friends now.

I spend at least £10. Sometimes more. For a close friend's dc about £20/25.
Most places charge per head and are more than a tenner each.

DS has a party soon, I plan on putting £5 in a card. Birthday boy will be 10. I would put £10 if I could afford it.