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8 year olds birthday party, £5 In birthday card?

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MsMiaWallace · 03/10/2022 18:13

Do you think £5 in a card is too tight? DH says not I thought it was.
It's not a close friend just class mate & invited to my DS is invited to a party.

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Notjusta · 03/10/2022 19:33

A fiver is totally fine for an 8 year old. Agree with PP saying add some sweets or chocolate - or if they are into any particular collecting cards (football stickers/match attacks etc) you could do a pack of them as well.

Callingallskeletons · 03/10/2022 19:35

I think I’d feel too tight just putting £5 in and would probably stick £10 in a card, strangely though I wouldn’t think twice about buying gifts under the £10 figure so it’s obviously just a weird thing in my head about money in cards 😂

Can safely say DC would be thrilled with money in a card and a bag of sweets though

strawberry2017 · 03/10/2022 19:37

I try to buy things in the sale that were originally valued around £10.
I wouldn't think you were tight if you gave that in my kids cards.
Party's are expensive and I'd rather the kids have fun

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MuggleMe · 03/10/2022 19:38

By 8 I'd give £10 as it's usually a smaller number of children being invited to a more expensive activity. I do a gift around £7 for reception-y2.

drpet49 · 03/10/2022 19:40

DinosaurOfFire · 03/10/2022 18:33

Around here, £5 in a card is standard, any more would be seen as unusual.

Same where I am

WorriedandScared93 · 03/10/2022 19:42

I would say £5 is fine and then something small to unwrap.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 03/10/2022 19:43

I think its fine. It's a present off your DS rather than off you. Its all very well some people saying it's tight but not everyone has a magic money tree in their garden.

CuriousCatfish · 03/10/2022 19:44

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 03/10/2022 19:43

I think its fine. It's a present off your DS rather than off you. Its all very well some people saying it's tight but not everyone has a magic money tree in their garden.

A lot of people on MN are on 6 figure salaries, don't you know.

Beginningless · 03/10/2022 19:45

Tight isn’t how I’d describe it but it’s less than normal where I am. What kind of amount do your kids usually receive? I usually spend 10-15, 20 if close friends. DD just had 4th bday and I’d guess most gifts were 10-15, one tenner in a card. I’ve never given cash in a card to a young child though. I think do what feels comfy and don’t give it too much thought.

listsandbudgets · 03/10/2022 19:48

SwordToFlamethrower · 03/10/2022 18:49

I think you're being tight to be honest. People give what they can.

Maybe that's what the OP can give?

DD and DS love getting money in cards, it always gets a smile and they enjoy planning what to spend it on. If you can add some chocolate even better Smile

BatteryPoweredMammy · 03/10/2022 19:49

Certainly not the norm here.
I've never given money in a card to a child when my child has been invited to their birthday party.
It's always been a present to unwrap.

pastypirate · 03/10/2022 19:50

DinosaurOfFire · 03/10/2022 18:33

Around here, £5 in a card is standard, any more would be seen as unusual.

Same

DeathMetalMum · 03/10/2022 19:53

£5 and a box of malteasers is standard here. Unless dd's suggest something specific. Sometimes they'll request different sweets.

listsandbudgets · 03/10/2022 19:54

@Explaintome Yes tooth fairy is NORMALLY £1... except when tooth fairy 1 very drunk, staggering about after night out and tooth fairy 2 who has already gone to bed directs tooth fairy 1 to sort out tooth fairy duties.... DD was absolutely ecstatic with the tenner she found under her pillow next morning!! Sadly it reverted to £1 after that particularly valuable tooth!

WinOutdoors · 03/10/2022 19:55

listsandbudgets · 03/10/2022 19:54

@Explaintome Yes tooth fairy is NORMALLY £1... except when tooth fairy 1 very drunk, staggering about after night out and tooth fairy 2 who has already gone to bed directs tooth fairy 1 to sort out tooth fairy duties.... DD was absolutely ecstatic with the tenner she found under her pillow next morning!! Sadly it reverted to £1 after that particularly valuable tooth!

Oh you tooth fairy team sounds much better than ours. Ours quite often failed to arrive because of inclement weather or some such and tooth had to stay under the pillow for another night.

Zampa · 03/10/2022 19:56

I'd love it if my daughters' friends put £5 in a card instead of buying a present. It would save the friends' parents money (£10-£15 typically price range for gifts here) and prevent the girls from accumulating more stuff.

Wish more people did this.

Boshi · 03/10/2022 19:58

Depends on age and closeness, for my 5y I would give £10-£15 and for my 9yo’s friends £20, but this seems to be standard amongst most of the parents. If giving £5 I would give a chocolate lolly or something with it

RobynNora · 03/10/2022 19:59

Fiver sounds fine to me!

ghostsandpumpkinsalready · 03/10/2022 20:00

My 8 year old would be made up
With
A fiver in her card x

Marmite27 · 03/10/2022 20:02

Mine would be delighted with £5 in a card.

cinnabongene · 03/10/2022 20:05

Around here it’s £10 for all class parties/large parties. As they get older (DD1 is 10 now) it’s risen to £20 for smaller groups of good friends

Letsbefriends · 03/10/2022 20:07

If £5 is all you can afford then yes of course it’s fine.

However, £5 doesn’t get much these days. I generally aim for between £10 and £20 depending on the closeness of friend and type of party they throw!

FirstFallopians · 03/10/2022 20:09

We had DD’s 5th birthday class party last weekend- the smallest denomination she got was £10, and a few had bunged £20 in cash or vouchers. I was amazed.

We shared the party with two other kids in her class, so other parents must’ve been spending £30-60 in presents for all three of them 🫠

jolene90 · 03/10/2022 20:12

£5 and some sweets / chocolate is perfect. And I wouldn't like to think a school friend had spent more than £10.

MajesticElephant · 03/10/2022 20:16

£5, or even a coin or two, seems fine to me. We are having a whole class party and wouldn’t be particularly happy about DC getting £300 in cash! I tend to buy gifts in sales and don’t pay more than £5.