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How do you do less clubs??!?

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Sleeptightnightlight · 02/10/2022 00:06

Before my daughter started reception I put her on the waiting lists for Rainbows and swimming lessons as both are hugely oversubscribed in my area and I vaguely thought she might want to do them at some point.

Then after she joined reception and I hadn't heard from either I signed her up to a ballet class. She loves this and when we arrive at class she sees the previous group doing gymnastics and has been begging me to go to that too, so I said she could do it in YR 1 (thinking 2 classes in YR 1 sounded reasonable, and they do discounts for doing both classes). Then my DH started volunteering at the local kids football club and takes DD to that too and it's not really her thing but she's made some close friends that also go. Then I got the call for swimming and I said yes because it's an important skill, and DD wanted to do a free after school computer club and it's straight after school on a day the timing for pickup was tight so it just makes everything easier, and now Rainbows have offered her a place starting next week...

And how on earth did I get to this place where my 5 year old does 5 after school activities and wants to do 6? It's complete madness, isn't it? But I can't seem to work out any of it we can drop without feeling really mean. The thought of what we do when her siblings are all old enough to want to do all the things too fills me with fear!!

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bloodyplanes · 02/10/2022 10:44

Imo swimming is the most important one, its a life skill! Let her then choose two out of all the others.

NancyJoan · 02/10/2022 10:46

If she doesn’t like the football, I’d pack that in. Most of it sounds like it’s making life easier, so carry on while that lasts. She’ll naturally decide to stop one of them sooner or later.

MagnaQuestion · 02/10/2022 12:02

Ah yes just saw you said footballs not her thing - definitely drop that then! That will help with the decisions.

It is also worth being mindful if you have other children of all the schlepping around and waiting they have to do - as well as not overburdening yourself when they all want to do activities!

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bumpytrumpy · 02/10/2022 15:44

@MagnaQuestion I've never seen a swimming lesson where the kids are not in the water all the time. Do you really mean they sometimes spend time waiting on the side? That would feel like a waste of money for sure.

Mine do a mix of swimming, sports, scouts. It sometimes feels busy but we can always skip the odd session if needed. It's the getting into bed afterwards that drains me - starting the whole supper/shower routine so much later is annoying

ThreeRingCircus · 02/10/2022 16:55

floorida · 02/10/2022 08:59

I agree.

Swimming is the only non negotiable for me and DDs have to do it but they're at after school club on a Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, swimming on a Thursday so Friday is our only weekday evening when they can come home from school and just chill out.

So yours do 4?

Is after school club counted as an organised activity? I suppose technically yes but I really see it as organised childcare after school on the days I work rather than a hobby club like ballet or Rainbows.

Luckily there's no ferrying about for that as they are just staying at school for longer until I pick them up after work and most of the time seems to be having a snack then playing with friends.

GoldenGorilla · 02/10/2022 17:46

Some kids seem to thrive on lots of organised activities, others need more downtime. So depends if you think she’s enjoying it/if she’s getting tired/if logistically or financially it doesn’t work for you. There’s no one answer.

FWIW my 7 year old wanted to do 6 activities this term, I’m letting him do 2, he likes the idea of everything his friends are doing but actually gets tired.

Leakingroofagain · 02/10/2022 21:51

In terms of playing, my DC are up at 6 every day so get two hours before school, usually back from clubs by 5, so 2-3 hours after school and all weekend to play. We don't allow more than 30 mins screentime at the moment and mon-friday they don't have any tv so I don't feel it's an either they do clubs or they can play situation , they can easily have rich play and socialise/learn new skills in clubs.

BogRollBOGOF · 02/10/2022 22:46

Mine are a bit older now but they've always been busy, but the weekends don't have a routine commitment.

These days I'm out with one/ both each evening, but they do have one or two evenings off each. DS2 could keep going like a Duracel Bunny and bounce from school clubs to the ongoing ones. Over time one activity's swapped for another e.g. gymnastics to judo, but they like doing things that they don't experience at school.

What matters to DS1 is having a buffer of down time between school and an activity.

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