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Is anyone up? Awaiting a 111 call back.

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KevinTheKoala · 27/09/2022 01:06

I rang 111 at 10 for my 6 year old and told I'd be called back within an hour....still waiting and worried sick. My poor child wants to be in her own bed but her sisters sleeping in their bedroom and the clinician will want me to wake her up when they eventually phone back, she's currently napping in between coughing her lungs up, she's had a low grade fever since Saturday evening and her nails and lips now look purplish/bluish (though not constantly, they seem to get better then worse again). She's not wheezing or gasping for breath, although she's had no voice since Sunday so it's a little hard to say whether or not she can talk normally. I feel like I'm torturing myself at the moment because I have no idea what to do here, but if it were an emergency 111 would have sent us straight to hospital and certainly wouldn't be leaving it this long for a 1 hour call back surely?

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SunnySusan83 · 27/09/2022 01:14

So sorry to hear this, you must be really worried. For me personally, with lips and fingers turning blue, even periodically, I would go straight to A&E. however, that's easy for me to say as I live 10 mins from a great children's hospital.
I wouldn't wait too much longer, especially if you child seems to get worse. Really hope you get it sorted.

Namechangenora52 · 27/09/2022 01:18

What a horrible wait for you. Do you have an oximeter at home? Or another adult in the house to leave your other dd with. I would take her to be assessed in person. This happened to me and my dd many moons ago and I waited and waited obediently at home, terrified. Eventually I bundled her up in a car and drove her in to Aand E. We were in for ten days in the hdu with bronchiolitis. Is your dd able to wake up and sip water. Is she lucid?
Thinking of you op

SpringSparrow · 27/09/2022 01:18

I wouldn’t be waiting for a call back, I would go straight to a and E with those symptoms.

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Namechangenora52 · 27/09/2022 01:23

Or even call an ambulance if you are at home by yourself with the dc. Even if she isn't gasping, blue tinged lips indicate respiratory distress and low oxygen. Paramedics would be able to assess on the spot and give oxygen. My dad was a doctor and they always want to see sick kids so please don't listen to any numpty telling you it's a waste of resources. It is exactly what the NHS is for xx

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KevinTheKoala · 27/09/2022 01:33

I've had a call back and she needs an out of hours appointment, her dad is refusing to take us and I feel sick. He's insisting that her nails are a normal colour but they're not - although admittedly they are better than they were. I don't know what to do. I have to get her to the out of hours but I have nobody to watch my youngest and nobody to take us there. The clinician made me sound like I didn't care and I do, I'm just stuck.

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PrimRoseHillfanny · 27/09/2022 01:35

I’m on my break - NHS. They should prioritise children but if her lips are turning blue , even periodically, then I wouldn’t wait, I’d call 999. Also monitor her temperature closely.

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KevinTheKoala · 27/09/2022 01:35

Apparently she will be assessed faster at put of hours than she would in A&E which is why I'm going to try and get that appointment and I'll try and find someone to take us.

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Eddieisadick · 27/09/2022 01:38

Dad watches youngest you get cab / is that possible.?

Namechangenora52 · 27/09/2022 01:39

Will your husband stay at home with the little one if you hop in a taxi?
How far away are you? Really feel for you - goes without saying that he is being a monumental dick.

SunnySusan83 · 27/09/2022 01:39

What about an Uber? Taxi? You may well have to take your other child too. Not ideal, but needs must. I'm afraid you'll have to do anything you can to get her to that appointment. You've called for help and advice, they have given it, now you have to do your bit. If you can't afford a taxi etc then you'll have to call an ambulance, as hard as it is, as they have said she needs to be seen.
I'm sorry OP, being alone with a sick child in the middle of the night is the scariest place to be, but you have to get her seen x

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KevinTheKoala · 27/09/2022 01:43

He is an arsehole, he'll never change but I have bigger things to worry about than him atm, I could probably afford the taxi but the OOH is about 15 miles away and I don't actually know how to get there. I feel cruel because my daughter just wants to sleep and he's made me feel like I'm worrying over nothing again

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BitterAndTwistedChoreDodger · 27/09/2022 01:46

I called an ambulance for my DD in similar circumstances. They really do need to be seen. Best wishes, hope it all works out.

SunnySusan83 · 27/09/2022 01:49

KevinTheKoala · 27/09/2022 01:43

He is an arsehole, he'll never change but I have bigger things to worry about than him atm, I could probably afford the taxi but the OOH is about 15 miles away and I don't actually know how to get there. I feel cruel because my daughter just wants to sleep and he's made me feel like I'm worrying over nothing again

You don't need to second guess yourself because you called for help and they've told you what you need to do, so you can do it. (They've taken the decision making away from you now) You don't need to worry about how to get there, you just need to give the taxi driver the address. She can sleep in the taxi, take a blanket, water & a snack just in case. It may well all be okay (that is the outcome we want!) but you need to get checked. X

Namechangenora52 · 27/09/2022 01:49

Nope, you are definitely not worrying about nothing. If she is lethargic as well, even more reason. An uber will be able to Google maps it surely? What time is your appointment?

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KevinTheKoala · 27/09/2022 01:56

The clinician said she was forwarding us onto OOH who would ring me to make an appointment very soon so I don't even know how long I'll have to get there and I really don't want to drag my youngest along. And yes she's lethargic but it's 2am so I'm hoping it's that rather than anything else?

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lisavanderpumpscloset · 27/09/2022 01:59

Please call for an ambulance. At the very least they'll be able to assess her at home first

SunnySusan83 · 27/09/2022 01:59

No I can imagine not ideal to drag your other child along but what can you do otherwise? If you don't go then it'll be against medical advice really and you were worried enough to call for medical advice so what was the outcome you were hoping for?
The OOH won't book an appointment you haven't got time to get to. If you explain how far away you are etc they'll have to accommodate you. If they can't, then hospital it is. Hopefully they phone soon you can plan either way x

JestersTear · 27/09/2022 02:04

I'm not usually one for chuntering about men but I've been reading a lot recently about guys who won't step up when their partners or children are ill!

Hoping that they can get you that appointment soon OP. If they have taken what you've said and deemed it serious enough to need to see someone, then you've 100% done the right thing here.

angelsinstead · 27/09/2022 02:05

lisavanderpumpscloset · 27/09/2022 01:59

Please call for an ambulance. At the very least they'll be able to assess her at home first

111 would have sent an ambulance if they felt it necessary 🙄

Wilkolampshade · 27/09/2022 02:06

Hope you get your call-back soon OP. But as for the other, well your partner just has to stay with youngest DC and you go with DD. Tbh, it sounds like he'd be no use at the OOH anyway. Use the time now to pack a bag with a snack, a drink, something for her to do and a rug.
Snuggle up on the sofa and try and doze until you get that call.

Aqua20 · 27/09/2022 02:08

I'm so sorry your going through this. 111 can be a pain when we are so worried.
I don't want to alarm you buy like others have said, get to A&E. I have a heart condition and the one thing my consultant always asks is how blue have my nails been? Lips? Palms? My oxygen level is very poor, please get her seen to asap.

Butterfly44 · 27/09/2022 02:08

Mothers instinct is there for a reason.
My DH thought I was fussing over nothing when my daughter was showing unusual symptoms but I turned out to be right.
I'd go in a taxi and get it checked out if he won't take you. Hopefully all ok but you need to know that.

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KevinTheKoala · 27/09/2022 02:10

The thing is now I'm second guessing if she actually is blue - don't get me wrong she's definitely not a dramatic purple that would send me straight to A&E!! It's just a slight blueish/purplish tinge on her nail beds and her lips look dark compared to normal. I knew I was going to be in trouble for this if I'm honest but it's only just hitting me now, coupled with panic over my daughter I just feel really sick now.

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Aqua20 · 27/09/2022 02:14

@KevinTheKoala I can imagine, fx they call back ASAP

CactusBlossom · 27/09/2022 02:20

Don't start doubting yourself, you have done the right thing; she needs to be seen. Get a minicab or taxi if OOH can't schedule and ambulance for you.