My friend hasn't paid me for her ticket to an event we're going to, I feel awkward about reminding her!

[Wisteriabloom]

She lives a distance away, so we don't see each other day-to-day, just meet up 3 or 4 times a year.

We decided to book, in between our two birthdays for a day-trip to a castle, wine-tasting & dinner. I checked she was happy with the price, (£50 per ticket), she said she yes, but could she pay me by direct transfer the following week when she got paid. This was about a month ago. She's very reliable and quick with payments, we've got each other's details. I said that was fine and booked.

She still hasn't paid me though! 🤔 I'm wondering if she forgotten, or intending to pay me on the day (she hasn't said that though). I'm thinking I should message and remind her, as if she doesn't pay me on the day that will be more awkward! If it was £10 or £20 I might let it go, but this is £50! Interested to know what some of you would do, thank you!

I would just message and say hi, my credit card bill has arrived so can you transfer the money for the ticket please

I'd message and say "I'm looking forward to our trip, please can you put the money in my account today- I've paid £50 for your ticket, thanks!"

You could always say it’s her birthday gift if it’s coming up? That might save any awkwardness as it sounds like she may not have it.

Come on OP, this is not difficult!
'HI [friend's name], really looking forward to our trip to [insert venue name] with you. Do you remember that you still owe me the ticket price? Bank details still the same, cheers.'

‘Hi friend, Was just thinking about us getting together and realised that I haven’t received the money for the wine tasting yet. If you sent it, do you want to check whether it went to the right place? If not, do you have my bank details? Really looking forward to going, should be a good day.’

Would that work?

It isn't difficult OP, you just need to say, my credit card bill needs paying now, can I please have the money for that ticket.

I just had to do this with a friend, it was only overlooked due to me being away then her being away.

I had similar for some concert tickets that I bought for myself and 2 friends. I bought them in October. By New year neither had paid, so I just sent a WhatsApp saying I was doing some admin and here are the bank details for paying for the tickets. I'm pretty sure at least one of them already had my bank details but neither had mentioned it in the intervening period.

'Hi, can you check your bank account as I can't see £x for your ticket, you said you were sending over last week. See you soon!'

Hiya friend,

Yippee! So excited about our b'day treat!

Just checking you have my bank deets still?
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Love Wisteria xxx

Who spends £50 on a friends birthday (especially when it's to celebrate both their birthdays)? Some people either have more money than sense, or no concept of the real world where £50 is a LOT of money to most people. For some families, that's all they have to live on for a whole month to buy food with!

Obviously the OP is unlikely to be in that position or they wouldn't be spending £50 themselves on a day out, but that doesn't mean they can afford to write it off.

I would definitely assume she forgot. Easily done and less embarrassing to say hey just a reminder than to assume she has deliberately not paid.

Thanks everyone, I've messaged her saying I've received my credit card bill and payment is due. (I haven't, I paid by debit card at the time, but it seemed the easiest thing to say)!
I'm sure it's just an oversight, but it's unlike her.

I had this happen. So said to friend - just double checking you've got my bank details correct because it hasn't arrived and worried it's gone astray.

In my case it turned out that she'd forgotten to press the last step of the bank transfer but hadn't so payment hadn't gone.

It's worth checking because if she's normally reliable? she's either done something similar or forgotten.

Good luck 🤞

errrrr...

You: Want to go, its £50
Friend: Yes please

Silence except for crickets.

Why didn't you message back to tell her you booked it, she's not a mind reader. She might have thought you forgot to book it. Just message her to say its booked for this date, at this price. See what she messages back.

Why didn't you message back to tell her you booked it, she's not a mind reader

Are you? Quite an assumption that OP never actually said ok that's booked, especially given that the friend said she would send the money the next week!

I do, I understand not everyone does. It was an opinion on what I’d do, not an obligation.

In a world where you pay £500 for a hen's weekend, 50 is nothing.

In a world where you pay £500 for a hen's weekend, 50 is nothing.
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OP - if she asked to wait until she was paid, then presumably money is tight. Most people will be paid in the middle of this week, so if you’ve just texted her now, maybe prompt her again on the 28th. If she doesn’t pay you then, I think you should look for someone else to go with.

What I said is factual. Look at any wedding/hen do thread on Mumsnet. I am not saying I would spend that amount, but plenty of Mumsnetters do.

Interested to know what some of you would do

Ask her for the money.

Imagine how much easier your life would be it you actually thought to open your mouth and communicate with people around you 🙄

bcc89 - I HAVE communicated! I messaged her at the time to say 'I can book, as long as you're free on that Saturday, and ok with the price, £50'.

She confirmed yes, and asked if she could delay paying me until the following week.

To the poster who said 'People aren't mind readers, she doesn't know you've booked'', I then texted her AGAIN to say I'd booked it, and paying me next week was fine! She replied OK, and this was a month ago.

Has she replied or paid up?

Fair enough if you had told her it was actually booked. I did not see that in your original post. It seemed as though the conversation was " I would love to go, the amount is fine, can I pay it after payday though". None of that says she knows for certain its booked.

I see you have already messaged her about the card bill being due, so has she responded?

I’d just text that I need the money now.