Did you enjoy your wedding day

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Was chatting to friend today and we got chatting about wedding. She admitted she didn’t enjoy her day due to in law stress etc and I said I really didn’t enjoy being the centre of attention and felt I was just going through the motions if that makes sense. In hindsight I wish we had had a tiny wedding instead of 100 guests. Do many of you have regrets about your day and wish you had done it differently?

I admire your ongoing optimism. 😁

I wouldn’t do it again. Not even if I thought I was going to get a day that felt special and a lifetime of married bliss. I’d just try for the bliss without the marriage.

Yes, I did. The weather and venue was gorgeous, too. Feeling like a Princess was amazing.

I had a great day! We had ten guests, got married in a beautiful hotel and loved every minute of it. The only thing was that we didn't have all our friends there but for close friends and partners, it would have added at least another 30 people. I kind of have in the back of my head that we'll have a big tenth anniversary party or something (not renew our vows, just have a party) with everyone there.

You are a true survivor! A warrior! And quite possibly a glutton for punishment. 😆
I feel like you need a Victoria Cross. You certainly deserve one.

No regrets about the day at all. I am very shy and socially anxious so it was strange for me, being the centre of attention. But because of what it was I guess, the start of our marriage, I had a really good time. It all went the way I planned and was the day I dreamed it would be!

We eloped in secret. Nobody knew. No regrets, it was the best day of my life.

We both knew we’d hate a ‘traditional wedding’, so we did what we wanted to do.

You are a true survivor! A warrior! And quite possibly a glutton for punishment. 😆

I feel like you need a Victoria Cross. You certainly deserve one.

Perhaps he did make Victoria cross. And Jennifer, Alison, Philippa .....

We had a big wedding (120 guests) and I found the day very stressful. The service from the caterers was terrible (ie. We had arranged for up to 4 drinks per person at the pre dinner drinks and nothing was offered after the first glass, our table didn't get bubbles for the toast or tea and coffee etc. Etc.) So I was pretty panicked and constantly talking to the catering manager. My dad's speech went on for 40 mins (he had 10mins).

I'm pleased we got married and was great to see all our friends and family in one place but I'd definitely have hired a wedding planner for the day and would have been far more relaxed. We also spent a lot of money, although we could afford at the time we didn't know covid was around the corner and my husbands business didn't survive so in hindsight we were probably better off having a close family do.

I love going to other people's big weddings though!

I loved it. We got married in Italy with about 85 guests and it was beautiful

Yes I loved our day. That said, if I were getting married now I would go intimate and upscale.

A colleague remarried her ex husband (after years apart) but they hired a boutique hotel for exclusive use for the weekend. Had caterers in for the two Miami meals and breakfast I think on last morning. The photos and description looked and sounded amazing. I would rather that now that 130 people, many I've hardly or never seen since.

Yes, it's my one year anniversary today and it's brought back what an incredible day it was. I had the time of my life, my husband normally hates attention on him but he shone and it just makes me so incredibly happy looking at the photos of our day.

I'd do it all again but only with him.

I mildly enjoyed mine as I got the day off for it, although I had to go back for a 56 hour continuous shift as a junior doctor the following morning.
I only got married as we needed the tax rebate to replace our written off car - I was a 1970s radfem and didn’t approve of the institution - but we kept it minimalist. DH, me, two witnesses and a registrar. No silly dress, flowers, reception or cake. We stuck the certificate at the back of a drawer and pretended it had never happened!

I eloped. Fast, romantic, no people to please, cheap, intimate, perfect.

Wouldn't change it for the world

I had a tiny, inexpensive wedding abroad. Really wouldn't change a thing about it. Married outdoors, nice champagne lunch, no one there I didn't want to invite, no in-laws, then the rest of the afternoon to ourselves.
We rejoined our guests the next day for the rest of the holiday.

If we'd had a big wedding, I knew I'd hate being the centre of attention, that I wouldn't have much patience for details and would find the planning a chore and we preferred to spend the money on other things.

Hated it!

One bridesmaid was a bitch to me for no reason and we havent spoken since.

Really enjoyed it. However, almost everything that could go wrong, did.

Im not exaggerating when I say that, but we were just so happy that the day actually was going ahead (Covid) that it kind of didn’t matter.

Everything that happened / went wrong actually bothers me more now and I just try not to think of it and just try to remember the elated feeling I had at the end of the night.

Absolute best day of my life except the days my children were born.

We just had parents and siblings and even though it was tiny we still had the most stunning exclusive use venue, amazing entertainment and everything was just completely us and completely perfect. The whole day was about us and our families.

If there is one time in your life to be selfish it’s your wedding day! If we had felt we had to have a big wedding we’d just have ended up not getting married because it really really wasn’t what we wanted.