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Did you enjoy your wedding day

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Popsicle72 · 23/09/2022 22:31

Was chatting to friend today and we got chatting about wedding. She admitted she didn’t enjoy her day due to in law stress etc and I said I really didn’t enjoy being the centre of attention and felt I was just going through the motions if that makes sense. In hindsight I wish we had had a tiny wedding instead of 100 guests. Do many of you have regrets about your day and wish you had done it differently?

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bloodywhitecat · 23/09/2022 23:03

Loved it, 15 of us, the local town hall and then went to the pub. It was a brilliant day. It took minimal organising and we had great fun.

DublinDoris2000 · 23/09/2022 23:03

Yes. We eloped to Fiji. We went snorkeling in the morning. Then I went to the spa to get done up. Ceremony on the beach, champagne, and a candlelight meal.

cinnamonbiscuit · 23/09/2022 23:04

I loved mine. I don’t particularly like being looked at/centre of attention, but I’d postponed it by a year because of covid and then caught covid two weeks before the date- we so narrowly avoided it being cancelled that I just cherished every second, I really couldn’t believe we’d finally got there.

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Kenwouldmixitup · 23/09/2022 23:04

Just immediate family. Two friends. With hindsight wished we’d been more brave and had a bigger wedding. So 10 years later renewed our vows. Exactly the same immediate family and two friend. With hindsight realised we had had the perfect wedding for us. Brilliant

IhateJan22 · 23/09/2022 23:07

I enjoyed my own wedding more than any others I’ve been to. I just find them long drawn out days. Guests seemed to enjoy mine but probably feel like I do at other peoples 🤣

hmb255 · 23/09/2022 23:09

Nope, didn't really enjoy it. Hate being the centre of attention and having my photo taken. We had a church wedding and I don't even believe in god so it was pretty meaningless in that sense. Wish we had just done a quiet registry office and meal type thing to be honest.

MrsCarson · 23/09/2022 23:09

I wasn't that thrilled with it all. I was doubting myself on the way to the wedding, but carried on. Then thought what the hell have I done. The reception was quite a fun party.
Now 37 years later it was the best thing I ever did.

tsatr · 23/09/2022 23:10

I really didn’t enjoy mine. Both dh andI hate being the centre of attention, I still cringe at the thought of the day now! It was a complete waste of money and I wish we’d eloped or not even bothered.

Lyricallie · 23/09/2022 23:12

I loved parts of mine. The church was beautiful, gorgeous sunny day, happy memories. However marred by covid and the venue changing their mind on how they were interpreting the rules when the evening team swapped over from the day team. So yea, mixed.

Greeneyegirl · 23/09/2022 23:12

It was perfect. We got married on our 4 wedding date after going into lockdown 4 weeks before our original date. I didnt think i would enjoy it as i don't like being centre of attention / dont like how i look and generally stress about stuff but i felt light and floaty and happy all day. There were a few abroad friends and fam who couldnt make it but it was still fabulous

CongratulationsBeautiful · 23/09/2022 23:13

Yes, had a great time. Not every moment and was very tired and emotional by the end of the day. I wouldn't call it the best day of my life, but yes, we had lots of fun.

Ein · 23/09/2022 23:13

It was ok, I did enjoy the attention and venue and prettiness etc, but I felt a constant background level of stress because I organised everything and people kept asking me questions / bringing me their problems. Made it hard to relax. Plus my family arrived mega late and delayed the service so it got off to a stressy start. Groom v distracted by his family, I can’t say I felt the centre of his world.

The wedding night sex was the worst we’ve ever had, I felt weirdly superstitious about ‘we must do it on our wedding night’ but in retrospect I just needed a cuddle and sleep!

What an odd thing it all is.

Blossomandbee · 23/09/2022 23:13

No it was rubbish in every way and not at all what I wanted.

MajorCarolDanvers · 23/09/2022 23:13

Best party ever!

Only thing I'd change was to get a smaller cake.

grafittiartist · 23/09/2022 23:15

Not particularly. But i didn't enjoy being on show.
Wouldn't change it though- just what it was.

MermaidMummy06 · 23/09/2022 23:23

I did, but only because I refuse to allow the appaling & abusive behaviour of my PIL and SIL (who was bridesmaid) to ruin it. If I'd known this was a taste of DH's immediate family I would have run.

I don't think they have ever even stopped to think, or be accountable for how much hurt they caused me. Regardless of what they thought, their behaviour was the worst I'd ever encountered. Found out years later they'd misinterpreted a private joke between DH & I. Didn't ask though. Just attacked.

Unfortunately this revealed their true selves. I tolerate them when pressed & avoid them otherwise.

Loachworks · 23/09/2022 23:25

No hated it. We planned it just the two of us, the beginning of our marriage, not all about a single incredibly expensive single day. I hate being the centre of attention. My in laws threatened to never speak to DH again if we denied them their only son's wedding (with hindsight this would have been a bonus!) DH adored his parents and I was young (23) and naive so allowed them to bully us into something we didn't want. Plus I saw it as a waste of our money because despite wanting a wedding they didn't offer any contribution.
I think huge weddings are fine if that's what you want but I regret not just nipping off and doing it in private. I've found, amongst my extended circle, those that were obsessed with a huge day tend not to stay married but that's just my experience. We celebrate thirty years shortly.

MolliciousIntent · 23/09/2022 23:27

The only thing I regret about my wedding is that I forgot to dye my hair beforehand so all the pictures show me looking phenomenal except for dark roots. Doh.

weatherheather · 23/09/2022 23:28

Loved it! It felt very relaxed and chilled! Great venue, food, drink, music and all our favourite people there - wish we could do it all again!

FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 23/09/2022 23:30

Aw lordy. We were just kids (23 and 24). Had no money, parents had no money. Registry office followed by a party at my parents house.
Tiny regret that it wasn't bigger but we have had a very happy marriage. And I woke up on my wedding day knowing I was doing the right thing.

madnessitellyou · 23/09/2022 23:32

No. A very long and boring story but it mostly involved the absurd level of control my parents exerted.

Still married 17 years later though!

HeddaGarbled · 23/09/2022 23:36

It was fine: nice in parts, especially seeing some old friends and relations that I hadn’t seen for a while; stressful in parts (vows, speeches, that awful bit waiting at home for the car to arrive).

Best bit was the two of us on our own in the hotel afterwards, kicking off our shoes and ordering room service.

Isthisreasonable · 23/09/2022 23:37

Awful. Started with the florist producing the opposite style of flowers to the ones we'd agreed on. Groom's aunt and uncle arrived at the venue very early, had a meal and booked it to our room we didn't find out until we checked out. MOG wore white (didn't bother me but lots of people were commenting on it) and was rude to everyone she wasn't related to. People kept asking if the groom had sent nice messages/gift on the wedding morning but he hadn't so that was awkward. I made a speech singing the groom's praises which I now can only look back on with embarrassment.

Looking back afterwards it was clear that he wasn't interested in being married to me (he turned out to be a cocklodger and left when I stopped funding him). I have no happy memories of the event but oddly he claims it was the best day of his life.

Isababybel · 23/09/2022 23:39

Yes it was genuinely magical. Perfect venue, gorgeous weather, just simply amazing really. Id relive it again if i could.

Always4Brenner · 23/09/2022 23:42

Loved the day pity it turned sad a few years later.