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Anyone else feel Kate was born to be a royal?

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Brightstar12 · 15/09/2022 11:22

Watching the Queen's coverage all week & Kate looks like she was born for the role. (Also please don't turn this into a Meghan bashing thread, Meghan is equally beautiful & elegant but has chosen to be a non working royal which is why this thread is about Kate).
Even looking back at old school photos she looked so poised & elegant. She had an idyllic childhood, supportive parents & is doing a wonderful job in her new role.

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Lalalolol · 15/09/2022 13:51

RJnomore1 · 15/09/2022 12:52

Waity Katie? Terribly tedious, never had a proper job and all the dignity of Colleen Rooney, but she’s tall and middle class so we aren’t supposed to say that are we.

So it's ok to bash Kate but criticising Megan is hateful.
Another poster called her parasite. If grown up women ( presuming mother's) are using this language for another human being, I worry what their children might be learning.

Same posters can't tolerate even a civilized criticism of Megan and on this thread name calling is ok. Is it not hypocritical?

Puzzledandpissedoff · 15/09/2022 13:51

it’s these kind of things that make her look so one-dimensional and boring

I agree, Shirley, and as said it wouldn't do for me

However it's what the institution clearly wants from the wife of an heir, and since it's one she freely chose to join I can't criticise her for doing what's expected

ReneBumsWombats · 15/09/2022 13:52

Brightstar12 · 15/09/2022 13:50

In a way I get this. Chelsea & Harry for me were a fab match, gorgeous, carefree, sporty, fun, loved travelling & going out on the town... However Chelsea didn't want all the baggage that came with being a royal wife...

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And she made a decision, in a way DreadingWinter thinks the future King is incapable of doing.

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Meili04 · 15/09/2022 13:42

Why are women in the RF expected to be really thin bordering on underweight?

I know people just say she's naturally athletic and lean and we're used to seeing overweight people - however I do feel she's a little underweight.

Leypt1 · 15/09/2022 13:53

Brightstar12 · 15/09/2022 11:47

@Pinkpeony2 i think that's a very important point that you mentioned above. They were a very middle class family with generations of wealth. When they got engaged she was called a commoner which made her seem like a normal joe bloggs when the reality was anything but!

Agree, and tbh her family is probably most people's definition of upper class. From her Wikipedia:
-ancestors in early 20th century married into aristocracy and regularly hobnobbed with royals
-went to Marlborough, a v established prep school
-had the time and connections to host loads of successful fundraisers after uni in lieu of Getting a graduate job
-lived in £1.5m flat in most expensive bit of London belonging to her parents before she got married

This isn't to undermine her but to emphasise your point that the word "commoner" just doesn't really apply here!! Her family were probs listed in debretts fgs

7eleven · 15/09/2022 13:53

I completely agree, OP. I remember on their wedding day thinking that if you had to guess which one was the born royalty, I’d have guessed her.

GreenManalishi · 15/09/2022 13:53

doing us all proud as are the rest of the royal family (obviously barring Andrew..

...who funnily enough was born to be a royal.

Laiste · 15/09/2022 13:54

PPs wondering why she's thin ...

I'd be as thin as i bloody could if i was in her role as well.

Look at the flak Fergie got. Duchess of Pork anybody remember?

It's not a good look to look as if you're enjoying your wealth and privilege.

gnilliwdog · 15/09/2022 13:55

Another one who thinks Kate looks worryingly thin, especially around the face and wrists. There's something really wrong with this institution.

YourLipsMyLipsApocalypse · 15/09/2022 13:56

Meili04 · 15/09/2022 13:42

Why are women in the RF expected to be really thin bordering on underweight?

Maybe we should ask the men who run the media companies why they have deemed it so, then ask every fool who reads it, swallows it, and adopts it as one of their beliefs too.

mistermagpie · 15/09/2022 13:57

She is incredibly good at the job I think. She's been doing it for a long time but is really in her groove and I think she excels at the whole British dignified 'stiff upper lip' thing, at least in public. I like her.

She's thin but so would I be if I was under public scrutiny all the time. She's never been big anyway, but she obviously exercises a lot.

Laiste · 15/09/2022 13:57

YourLipsMyLipsApocalypse · 15/09/2022 13:56

Maybe we should ask the men who run the media companies why they have deemed it so, then ask every fool who reads it, swallows it, and adopts it as one of their beliefs too.

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Exactly.

Helgadaley · 15/09/2022 13:58

She came from the right background, had the best education that money could buy, and she knew what she was getting into when she married William. I once heard the Middleton sisters compared to wisteria - beautiful, fragrant and determined to climb.
However, of course I'm not jealous that she's tall, thin and beautiful, she does a great job.

rocketfromthecrypt · 15/09/2022 13:58

I don't dislike Kate as such but I'm extremely unimpressed by how little she's actually done since she married in. I'm sure she's very pleasant, but I can't shake the feeling she's very lazy. The numbers of engagements she does annually have always been dwarfed by how many Anne etc do.

Agree with PP about how depressing it is that someone who is thin, pretty, and lacking opinions is held up as an epitome of womanhood. Like that's the best we can be. She could do a decent job of being royal and still have a bit more substance about her.

justasking111 · 15/09/2022 13:58

@DreadingWinter care to link your Debretts page on here for us to envy?

ILoveAllRainbowsx · 15/09/2022 13:59

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Pipsquiggle · 15/09/2022 14:00

@Brightstar12 I think you are a bit over the top TBH.

There are probably loads of women who are equally suited to this role:

  • Bear heir & spares
  • Appear interested
  • Say nothing
  • Know your place
  • Appear to be a supportive wife and doting mother
  • Look good in all weathers and occasions
  • Be educated
Kate's USP is that she took the conscious decision not to give anything away early on, which has served her well.

No one really knows what she's like, she could smoke &/or do coke every night. We don't know anything about her really.

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 15/09/2022 14:03

Brightstar12 · 15/09/2022 11:47

@Pinkpeony2 i think that's a very important point that you mentioned above. They were a very middle class family with generations of wealth. When they got engaged she was called a commoner which made her seem like a normal joe bloggs when the reality was anything but!

Not on both sides, there are ancestors from council houses, who've worked down the pit and been in prison. And that just proves you don't need to be defined by your ancestry.

Kate's just a person from a good family who've worked hard for what they have, invested in their kids and brought them up well.

I think Kate's great. No more special than you or I, no more deserving of respect, but just a really super person.

SleeplessInEngland · 15/09/2022 14:04

I don't dislike Kate as such but I'm extremely unimpressed by how little she's actually done since she married in

She's been a baby factory. That's all that's needed.

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Brightstar12 · 15/09/2022 14:06

Pipsquiggle · 15/09/2022 14:00

@Brightstar12 I think you are a bit over the top TBH.

There are probably loads of women who are equally suited to this role:

  • Bear heir & spares
  • Appear interested
  • Say nothing
  • Know your place
  • Appear to be a supportive wife and doting mother
  • Look good in all weathers and occasions
  • Be educated
Kate's USP is that she took the conscious decision not to give anything away early on, which has served her well.

No one really knows what she's like, she could smoke &/or do coke every night. We don't know anything about her really.

I agree, she's kept her nose clean. Noone has come out of the woodwork with stories about her in school, from extracurriculars, college etc... The Middletons obviously brought them up to steer clear of trouble & drama.

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RobertaFirmino · 15/09/2022 14:08

The question implies that William had no agency in deciding who to marry. I'm not sure this is true - Charles was prevented from marrying the right woman for him and pushed into marrying Diana instead. Princess Margaret was also prevented (by her sister and BIL...) from marrying the man she loved (Peter Townsend). I think Charles would have encouraged William to make his own mind up (and Queenie & Phil would have realised it's best to butt out) and the same with Harry.

Brefugee · 15/09/2022 14:08

tbh i am all admiration for Mama Middleton who has handled having daughters far far better than poor Mrs Bennet did.

susan12345678 · 15/09/2022 14:08

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moisttoilettissue · 15/09/2022 14:09

She has great poise and is very refined. I think she was probably being coached behind closed doors for a good while before she met William.

I have read that she tried to get on the same gap year as him but it didn't happen and she ended up in the next cohort. I think she was originally supposed to go to Edinburgh and then ended up at St A's - also doing the same degree at him coincidence? Who knows....

I'd love to see more of her personality but I suspect this is discouraged in the royal family. Megan talks too much, Katherine too little - somewhere in the middle would be great!

Rapidtango · 15/09/2022 14:09

Agree, OP, I like her in the role. She behaves with dignity and decorum in public, her children seem great, she has an excellent close, loving relationship with her own family, and appears to get on well with members of the royal family. I get the feeling her role is about to get a whole lot bigger, and I think she will move into it admirably.

But then I'm an old gimmer and prefer stiff upper lip, least said, soonest mended and better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt. I can't bear all the mopping and mowing, weeping and wailing and emoting all over the place that now seems to be what is expected of everyone.