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How long was your teenager an arse hole for?

114 replies

Stripeystrip201 · 14/09/2022 16:25

DS is 13 and a half. He's had a complete personality transplant in the last few months. Full Kevin and Perry. I miss my lovely boy so much! I've no idea how to parent this imposter. How long does it tend to last?

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Reggiebo · 14/09/2022 20:32

Mine was 21.....

Teenprobs · 14/09/2022 20:32

Mummysharkargggggggg · 14/09/2022 20:30

Mine was still an ahole until she became a parent herself 🤷‍♀️

I definitely was. I was a teenage pregnancy and move out at a young age I adore my mother x

icanbewhatiwant · 14/09/2022 20:35

My oldest is 21 and worse than a teen (youngest is 13) teen days were easy compared to the bad tempered person I have now. He's literally angry at everything. But thinks it's us that just hate him, he doesn't realise that he's rude, angry, tuts and huffs at everything, makes a mess everywhere etc. which is making everyone dislike him.

ThatsRoughBuddy · 14/09/2022 20:36

My eldest is 17 and his arsehole years were 13-15
My youngest is coming up to 15 and we had a couple of stroppy months when he was 13 but so far he's a cherub

It’s going to be smooth sailing from here on in. (Dont laugh at me!)

Stopsnowing · 14/09/2022 20:37

m.youtube.com/watch?v=eaWwFirnDO8

what makes me sad is that they generally don’t get nice again until they have left home

BigSandyBalls2015 · 14/09/2022 20:38

14-17 ish … hang in there.

EssexCat · 14/09/2022 20:39

I was a HORRENDOUS teen so mine have all seemed easy in comparison. I personally improved at about age 16.

Eldest was quite cross on and off until he was about 15 and we did lots of shouting at each other, but now at 18 he’s an absolute joy. Just in time to leave home for uni!!

Shortandfurry301 · 14/09/2022 20:41

icanbewhatiwant · 14/09/2022 20:35

My oldest is 21 and worse than a teen (youngest is 13) teen days were easy compared to the bad tempered person I have now. He's literally angry at everything. But thinks it's us that just hate him, he doesn't realise that he's rude, angry, tuts and huffs at everything, makes a mess everywhere etc. which is making everyone dislike him.

I very much sympathise IcanbewantIwant
Can he be "encouraged" in to a living situation where his flatmates tell him these things?

SummerSazz · 14/09/2022 20:43

I have 2 DD's who are 15 and 14. Whilst they have their moments, they are mostly lovely and are great company. I may rue these words in years to come....

Bobbins36 · 14/09/2022 20:43

19 with occasional glimpses of civil human behaviour here….twat mode a lot of the time

Bottomofthepileasusual · 14/09/2022 20:43

DS is 17.8 and still a dick

PotatoFamily · 14/09/2022 20:58

They are all arseholes in their own special way! My eldest has just grown up at age 24, and he was so awful towards me that it’s ruined me forever, as soon as he hit 13 I just despised being a parent and have never recovered. The younger 5 have all just added to it now with their own signature moves. 🤣

SwedishDeathCleaner · 14/09/2022 21:04

So glad I found this thread!

DS has been an obnoxious arsehole since he turned 13 - he is nearly 17 now and no change. It gives me hope to read that even though it can take a long time there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I swear, DS has aged me - I genuinely grieve for the cuddly little boy he was.

I just need to hold on and pray he doesn't get arrested.

autienotnaughty · 14/09/2022 21:05

I'd say 13-17 is worst. By about 20 they are lovely again .

Mojoj · 14/09/2022 21:08

Hang in there. 13-16/17 are the arsehole years. It gets better🤣🤣

ThrallsWife · 14/09/2022 21:11

Mr first teen skipped the arsehole phase bar the odd slammed door. The second one will be a challenge, even under 10 they're already far more explosive when angry than the first one ever was.

From experience of teaching them, girls get better at just under 16, boys a little after that at around 17-18.

onmywayamarillo · 14/09/2022 21:14

Mine improved when his GCSEs were over, and every week since

19 now and wow what a difference even his younger brother commented that he never thought he'd ever see the day

Kindofcrunchy · 14/09/2022 21:15

Good god what a horrible thread. It's as if none of you have ever been teenagers yourselves.

diamondpony80 · 14/09/2022 21:19

DS is 18 and has been a joy all the way through. He’s moved out for uni and I’m heartbroken. Upcoming DD is already showing signs that her teenage years will be a whole different ballgame!

RubyJack · 14/09/2022 21:21

17 years and counting

Shortandfurry301 · 14/09/2022 21:23

Kindofcrunchy · 14/09/2022 21:15

Good god what a horrible thread. It's as if none of you have ever been teenagers yourselves.

It really isn't a horrible thread. It's a humorous and realistic thread. And it's very supportive. We all love the very bones of them; that goes without saying. But life with teens can be challenging sometimes. It really can.

KensingtonStation · 14/09/2022 21:24

17 and foul 95% of the time he is at home, while being witty and charming at school. I have been excusing it all year because of other stuff going on at home, but he really needs to get over himself soon.

Hopeandlove · 14/09/2022 21:24

About a year or less - coming out of it now at 15 1/2

GreenLeavesRustling · 14/09/2022 21:27

I don’t want to hear it all goes to pot at 13! My DS turns 13 this weekend but has been a joy up to now. I don’t want him to become a stroppy teenager 😭

momtoboys · 14/09/2022 21:30

Three of my sons turned into surly monsters around 14 and came back to the light after they went to Uni. Two of them didn't turn evil until 17 and are beginning to come out of it and they just turned 21. You will see flashes of your beloved boy now and again. That is what keeps us from running away! LOL

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