Wanted a girl… talk to me about a boy?! Please

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I know it’s silly. I’m sad as might be my only dc… I feel awful for being sad! His dad is a bit unpredictable too and is likely not going to be around much, I worry I won’t know what I’m doing. Worry boys need dads more than girls do etc etc. And I just don’t feel excited as I should .

This issue comes up SO much. We should make a sticky for one of the forums.

i don’t know what to tell you about differences as I only have boys. They’re kind. They’re funny. They absolutely adore me and would walk over hot coals to get to me without giving their father a second glance 😂. I talk to them about everything, I can’t think of anything I’ve batted DP’s way. Perhaps shaving when we get to that point.

I have 2 boys and totally relate to your post! x

Girls are only the more wanted sex by women. Certainly the MN demographic, anyway.

Most men would probably - if asked at gun-point - admit they want a boy (it’s not an exact science before you rush to tell me how much your DH only wanted girls).

Outside groups of women and MN, there will still be many cultures around the world where even the women would much, much prefer a son.

So sweet 🥰

And honestly - every time these gender disappointment threads (about boys) appear, they’re all absolutely littered with people saying how much better boys are, now much easier they are, how drama-free they are, how much more they love their mums, yada, yada….

So 🤷🏻‍♀️ nothing has really changed at all, anyway….

Neither sex should be the more preferred i.know in the little mumsnet man hating bubble they would like to do away with men altogether but we need both sex ,s for the human race to continue

Not that strange really as posts tend to be by women so "i don't know what to do with a boy, what to talk about, we'll have nothing in common, he'll grow up to be a man and we all know to hate and fear men" doesn't work in reverse. Most women also grew up with female friends if not siblings so we're socialised to prefer them.

Altho I can't imagine a man getting such love if he posted admitting he dreaded having a girl, didn't think he'd be able to connect with her or share any of her interests (amalgamation of similar threads, not just OP)

Outside of mumsnet ,however mothers love their babies/ children unconditionally regardless of sex ,my boys are 15 and 12 I can't imagine having daughters now ,but if i had two daughters instead I wouldn't havr been able to imagine having boys .

I've got both but my boy is my best friend x
He's always given the best cuddles,he wants to spend time with me (even chopping veg while we chat).
He's the first to pick up on if I'm not on form and will cheer me up.
I love my girls but I can't imagine not having a boy as he's the one that is I suppose less independent and makes me feel needed as a parent x

I agree @x2boys , I have three myself, they're 7 and 2. But this is MN where people can't imagine having a male friend who didn't want to copulate with them, because what else could they possibly have in common, and where the same behaviour from girls and boys is excused and vilified in that order, so I try not to take the dislike of boys to heart

I have two boys and two girls. They are all lovely and their own little people in their own rights. I get so much joy from each of them for their different personalities and none of this is down to sex :) actually both of my sons are much more cuddly and loving then the girls. Sending you lots of love x

I've got 2 boys and they are so easy . Maybe just lucky my eldest is 16 my youngest is 4 and they are both well mannered kind lads . I've very close to both boys we enjoy everything that I would expect you'd do with a girl

I have a little boy and am now 30 weeks pregnant with my second baby. I haven't found out the sex of this one partly because I SO want another boy - based on how wonderful it's been to have my first - and I don't want to spend the pregnancy feeling disappointed if it's a girl. If it's born and they place it on my chest and announce "it's a girl!" I know I'll adore her, same as I did my first, but until I lay eyes on him/her I know I'll feel a bit disappointed if it's a boy. My first boy is almost 3 and he's so affectionate and empathetic. He's always the one checking that other kids are ok if they fall over at the playground, or if I e.g. stub my toe or have a cold he'll come give me hugs and kisses so I feel better. Obviously he's still a child and has the same developmental limitations as any other 2yo (I wanted the blue cup!!! No, I want to pour it myself!!) but in comparison to my friends' girls of a similar age he's so much more chilled and gentle.

I have one of each, and it happens that the girl is much more like me - same energy levels, same interests and both of us are quite introvert.
My son is just like his dad (who died when my son was young). Loud, high energy, up early, gregarious and sociable. We have always clashed a bit. Personality or gender - who knows?

I understand. I was really disappointed too

I have 2 girls and thought the 2nd was going to be a boy. I cried with joy when she was a girl. I think I had memories of being tormented by my brother and me being a girly girl couldn't imagine daily play fighting etc and all the things I thought having a boy would entail.
Fast forward 30 years... I now have 3 stepsons who I love dearly and who love me too - they are my little men friends who make me laugh and cheer me up. They also carried me up and down the stairs when I had an accident last year 😂
I also have a grandson- he is the best thing since sliced bread (together with his sister) I adore him! He is hilarious and loving and generous.
All the above mentioned boys are definitely mummy's boys.
You will be fine. Boys are WAY easier than girls too lol - trust me xx

Also I have so much fun with my boys. I'd always wanted a girl to share things like Little Women with, but both my sons really wanted to see it. They loved it, though the younger one was absolutely gobsmacked at how progressive 1860s society was when he found out that Meg was going to a coming-out party. They are truly delightful company.

Mine is 20 and I still sometimes look at him and think " I have a boy????"

I am super close to him the girls call him a mummies boy(whilst admitting they are all daddies girls - but apparently that's different)

There is something so straightforward and easy about a boy that I didn't find as much with the girls. In the case of my son, he is easygoing and gets along with everyone One of those social butterflies everyone likes.

Not a day has passed where I was not thrilled he was in my life (same with his sisters not saying that) Just they give you such joy (and in the case of mine about 2323252323 tons of laundry a year he is a sports fanatic.

I think I must be the only one who..

Has 2x lovely healthy happy little boys
Never had a preference during pregnancy
Feels absolutely happy and content with having only boys
Does not even feel a ‘pang’ or sadness at no daughter. I adore my family as it is, it is complete and it is mine.

2 boys was meant to be. They make me so happy every day.

Im sure I would feel the same if I’d had 2 girls or one of each.

I'm lucky enough to have a son. He's my absolute world. Nothing is greater than a mother and sons love.

I've got 2 boys and now a girl. I wanted a girl for the boys. However my boys are total mummy boys tell me everyday how im the best mummy in the world and shower me with love and kisses far more than their dad. I did and do have to play a lot of trains and gamer chat is not the most interesting ( they are 8 and 6. ) but I have found boys tend to need a lot of nurturing from mummy - my girl is a baby still so dunno if she'll be different but my boys are awesome and im very happy to be a boy mum 1st

I wanted a girl until the day I found out he was a boy. 5 years on and he is my best friend and my absolute most favourite person. Putting the toilet seat down is still a work in progress but he gives the best cuddles, often when I don’t expect it. When I was pregnant, several people told me boys are so loving to their mums and that’s exactly how it has turned out

Boys are as gorgeous as girls, you get out what you put in.

Have you thought of having some counselling? To talk through your thoughts, it might help?

Theres a reason they say "daddy's girl, mummys boy!" My 2 DS's are definitely all for mummy over daddy

I have a boy who is an only. He is 15 now and is funny, kind, full of empathy and fabulous company. We have had some great adventures together. I split from his dad 4 years ago but started taking him camping or on other trips without his Dad when he was about 6. We are very close and chat all the time. He doesn’t need his dad more, if anything it is the opposite. Regardless of what interests your son has, be that sport, drama, music or whatever, you can be involved and he will want you to be.