Wanted a girl… talk to me about a boy?! Please

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I know it’s silly. I’m sad as might be my only dc… I feel awful for being sad! His dad is a bit unpredictable too and is likely not going to be around much, I worry I won’t know what I’m doing. Worry boys need dads more than girls do etc etc. And I just don’t feel excited as I should .

My youngest is the only boy in the family, my mother having all girls, and my DD being born I never considered a boy as silly as it sounds. Nobody was expecting a boy. But he's so, soooo cute and adorable, I would not change him for a girl. Once you see your boy you won't even think about it.

I was convinced I was having a girl and even asked the midwife if she was sure DS was a boy when he was born.

He is 20 now and has just gone off to university. I bloody miss his mad sense of humour, the endless guitar practice, demonstrations of his kickboxing classes which often resulted in something getting knocked over, the never ending eating and his overwhelming, and occasionally irritating, cheerfulness.

Boys are great in my view.

I had a DD and wanted her to have a sister., as I never had one, only brothers (lots of brothers). Instead I got a DS.

DD is very like me and we enjoy the same things. I always felt I understood her very well. DS is quite unlike me, but honestly, the affection and love from him since he was tiny is off the scale. He was like a human embodiment of the heart eyes emoji where I was concerned. He just adored me. Still does, but is a teen now so obviously more his own person.

Both are lovely, sweet people and I love them both!

This thread it littered with the usual demeaning stereotypes - girls are hard work, full of drama and boys love their mums more.

It’s all a load of complete nonsense.Well, it’s not nonsense in as much as it’s clearly true for those individuals, but it’s not true across the board.

OP - you will love your son because of who he is. And who he is remains to be seen.

Sons and daughters are both completely, overwhelmingly amazing. Many of us are ‘lucky’ enough to have daughters, and sons, who adore us.

You’re lucky to be having a son. And he’s lucky to have you as his Mum.

All will become clear. Enjoy it

Mum of 2 boys here. I really wanted a girl second time around and was a bit sad at first but my goodness that little boy has my heart. My 2 are very much all about mummy, they are wonderful, funny, frustrating at times but completely lovable and so affectionate and kind. Plus when they're newborns there's not much difference, boys and girls act the same, they all cry, feed and poop. I also love shopping for my boys, now they're older they're my little skater boys. Having a boy is the best, I promise you.

Boys are fabulous (well mine is) he's never been an ounce of bother. He's always been closer to me than his dad. His sister is also wonderful but was much harder work growing up!

I wanted a girl and had a boy. Found out at 20 week scan, I wanted to know so if it was a boy I could come round to the idea.

When they're here you won't care, you'll just love them more than you've ever loved anything. To the point that if I were to have another now I wouldn't hope for a certain gender in pregnancy or maybe even bother finding out because I know how little it matters once they've arrived. Honestly it just doesn't matter.

That's how I've felt anyway.

I had a boy and a girl and was a single parent for many years. My son is now a brilliant husband; and dad to his 2 sons and said I taught him how to be a good parent, and that he hadn't particularly needed a male role model.

I have an 8 week old son. He is the brightest, smiliest little human going. He brings so much joy to my world. He enjoys bkth mine and his Dads company. Don't be disheartened, just enjoy him. Some people don't get that chance.

I have two boys and then a girl and truthfully I desperately wanted a third boy although was delighted once she arrived as she was healthy.
She’s obviously amazing but I find the relationship much harder work. My boys seem so easy and so loving and the sense of having a gorgeous big teen boy give you a hug and pat the top of your head 😂is wonderful and makes me grin every time. They also keep in touch better when they are out of away and are more domesticated!
DD battles us much more and I actually find it much harder to find any common ground with her as does her dad. We get there but anyone who suggests you get a mini me and have an automatic friendship with a DD is wrong I’m afraid. They are all individual and you build a different relationship with them all.
All my kids have completely different hobbies and interests regardless of their sex and there is not a football in sight.

I was lucky enough to have one of each and oh my goodness my son is the light of my life (as is my daughter)

He has always been funny, loving and kind. I love our relationship now he is an adult with his own DW and children.

You will adore your little boy. I promise.

Ah I'm sorry you are worried! You honestly will love your boy to bits when he comes! I have two boys and they are so so loving , kind and caring! My little three year old has just come out of bed with a book wrapped up in one of his little teddies as a present for me.

They are both so funny and genuinely such good company. You are going to be so blessed!!

Single mum to two amazing boys here. Life is fun, action packed and I wouldn't change it for anything. I get cuddles every day and they are funny, kind and incredibly loving.

We also have a lot of gaming talk and constant cut knees and elbows, but that could be any child 🤷‍♀️

Have an elder DS, and also toddler boy/girl twins.

Older DS is loud, dramatic, hates football, big into science and computers. We are currently about as close as you can be with a teenager, who I generally annoy just by existing or having the audacity to ask him if he wants a fry up.

Was pleased to hear DTwins included a girl. She is no different to her brothers whatsoever. I mean, I can stick her in a dress, and buy twee stuff for her hair, but she's forever bringing bugs into the house, yells at the aeroplanes from the nearby airfield, and is mainly covered in mud, just like the others.

I have to say, affection wise, loving wise, hands down is boy twin. He adores his mummy. He's the one who will sit and watch a film cuddled up with me. He'll have ten seats to choose from but will always try to sit on my lap. He's the one who rushes to me with his little face lit up in the mornings, and is my little shadow. Elder DS was quite like this. DD is not in the slightest.

I think if I didn't have DD I'd be always wondering about the mother/daughter thing that I never had. Now I have it, it's really nothing like society hypes it up to be. Knowing what I know now, it's not about boys or girls and I would have missed nothing by only having three boys, or indeed three girls.

I have one of each and so far the only differences are to do with personality not their sex. May change as they get older I guess but just enjoy your son, you'll have a special bond regardless and probably won't be bothered once he's here. Good luck for the pregnancy!

My boy is only 7 months so can't say much but I fell in love with him as soon as I saw him. He's your child. You will love him. Boys are often very sweet and sensitive. My 2 nephews have very soft sides to them. I remember when my 2 Nieces were being boisterous with me and my eldest nephew was telling them to be gentle with me - he's a little gentleman! My brother was always close to my mum as well. Not all boys are daddy's boys. Lots love to snuggle with mama (I can see my boy staying like this too!)

Oh and for what it's worth both of my boys are definitely mummy's boys! X

I have two boys and was initially sad as I am a girly girl and close to my mum.
But my boys are wonderful - so loving , cuddly , interesting, clever etc. compared to friends with daughters I think my sons are less trouble too.

I’ve had to learn about cars and football but that’s fine.

I mean look at the MN opinion of men - that they’re mainly self centred, egotistical rapists. I’m not surprised it’s put fear into some women about expecting boys.

I thought I wanted a girl and struggled with gender disappointment when I found out I was expecting a boy. I know that will rile some people but you can’t help how you feel. I still felt a bit jealous of people who had girls for a little while after he was born, but by the time he was 2 I couldn’t understand why I’d ever wanted a girl. I adore my boy with everything that’s in me. He’s a teenager now and is still so loving and cuddly and just FUNNY. You will adore yours too, I promise.

I felt the same when I found out I was having my son but I wouldn't swap him now. He is just brilliant, a fiercely independent and clever little toddler :) We're trying for number two now and I'm quite scared I'll have another son as this is my last chance to have a daughter.

I think, for me at least, it felt like others in the pregnancy groups I was in got so many well wishes and excited messages when they announced a girl pregnancy but if the baby was a boy the messages were... more apologetic and far less enthusiastic.

I am so ashamed to say I always wanted girls. All girl siblings. Couldn't imagine a boy. In a nutshell, had to have IVF, by which point I would have been happy just to have a healthy baby of any sex, and had a boy. Then a naturally conceived a girl. Outcome: daughter may have well have been another boy as in never wanted to wear anything girlie, always wanted to be like her brother so no skirts or pretty dresses after age two; personality wise, she's nothing like me, she's totally unemotional. I'm really emotional. However my son is more connected emotionally. Love them both but you just can't predict how they'll be or broadbrush one sex or another. Each child is a complete individual. Just be grateful for a healthy baby.

I have one of each, DS is certainly hard work in his own way, but he's also a lot more loving than DD was and is. Either way you will love them as they're your child.

Great post 👏🏼

Nothing beats the feeling when your adult son sweeps in and picks you up for a hug
Honestly I have 4 kids (now adults) two of each... and it's their personalities that make them who they are, and how our relationships have developed..nothing at all to do with their sex.
One of each gave me an easier time as babies, one of each gave me a tougher time as teens...
I always thought I wanted girls (first born is) but within minutes of no 2..boy..being born I was feeling sorry for those on the ward with girls ... hormones are amazing things.
I can absolutely guarantee that you will adore your baby boy. One of mine is on the other side of the world now and I miss him every damn day!