Did you share your DC exam results (SATs, GCSE, A level, degree, whatever) to everyone on your SM page? If so why?

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Even if you only have a very small amount of followers who genuinely know you (like me) - do you think this is a cool thing to do? Even if you are exceptionally proud? Why would you post up their exact results?

Of course I am very proud of my children but I never did this. Their news to share however and with whomever they wish. Not mine.

No, I've only shared with friends whose children have similar grades.

No, but MIL did (and got it wrong), I was a bit annoyed w her but she’s only got about 5. fB friends!

Same here, I home educated my boy from year 7 as school was so awful for him for sensory and other reasons.

Everyone thought I was failing him by making this decision.

I am beyond proud that he has done well in his GCSEs and now has overcome some of his issues and is hoping to go to college for A Levels.

Well done to your family too, amazing achievements!

Yes because they passed. Both only got 5/6’s . Didn’t state grades.
Plus posted one going to university. They put on their own Instagram.
I posted because it’s my page and if people don’t like it they can fuckin unfollow or unfriend. I don’t care.
The school only posted the high achiever’s. Sixth form did the same.

I haven't seen any results on my FB feed.

Back in the day they were printed in the local gazette, horrifying when you think back really.

No it's so cringeworthy, same as posting their school reports and parents evening feedback, no one is interested in it except the child and parent. I massively judge people who, it'll be the same parents who post their kids drowning in huge piles of presents at Christmas/birthdays. Some people might be impressed by it but most will be rolling their eyes.

Omg! They were weren't they?! I had totally forgotten about that! So weird when you think of that now isn't it!

no one is interested in it except the child and parent

In my circle we are interested in each other's DC's achievements. You need better friends.

Two of my workmates had to dip out of work yesterday to go with their DC to collect their GCSE results. We all waited with baited breath until they came back and told us.

Absolutely fucking did. Not for GCSE results though.
I only have actual friends and family on FB though and they were as happy as I was.

My DH killed himself the 2nd day of DSs GCSEs (which was just a couple of days after my Fathers funeral). He got A* across the board. That is worth shouting about.

He has a First Class Honours and Masters in a STEM subject. He is fucking amazing and I will never stop being so proud of him, his strength and resilience. You don't like it ......tough!

Exactly this. How is it ‘vile’ being proud of your children and wanting to tell the world? If other peoples achievements make you feel bad then I think that says more about you.

@erikbloodaxe

This!!!

I'm intrigued as to what MN (with fb or instagram) think is OK to post on it...?
I didn't post DDs grades (they were very good) but I said we were all pleased with them. I saw lots of proud parent posts but none specicifying grades.

Sometimes people post stuff that I think is a bit braggy but then I remember that I can scroll past or unfriend if I don't want to see stuff.

I find people doing stuff with their mum on mother's day (afternoon tea etc) quite tough as my mum died years ago(she was in her early 60s) but that's my own issue and I don't think others shouldn't post!

Some people prefer not to use SM (although obvs MN is a sm of sorts) but I'm intrigued at what sort of things people think you should post, since holidays, weddings, pics of babies/kids, kids achievements, exam and uni results are all off limits.....

I do post a fair bit on social media, often sporting stuff like if they do particularly well in something but I feel that GCSE results are very personal to the DCs so didn't feel it was right. My friend posted about her DD who got the highest results in her school and I was really pleased for her but it was an exceptional achievement so maybe a bit different. I can kind of see why Geri may have posted as it is an insane achievement (if I have read it correctly as all 9s?) but even so it feels quite distasteful as there are so many who wouldn't have passed any let alone all 9s.

MNers make no sense Fizzboss.
MN IS SOCIAL MEDIA. Forums are social media.
I'll go one step further & say MN is the only "toxic" SM place I go to. My Facebook & Twitter are great because they are customised how I like. MN isn't customisable enough.

Anyway, Sharing happy news Should be the Point of Social Media.

Our whole situation got skewed because DC1 was a determined under-achiever, so the starting & staying place about exam results has been "I'd rather not talk about it." However, on balance, I don't care at all if others are specific.

I actually thought the nicest posts were the ones that were those posted before the results saying they were proud regardless. Some posts just come across more boastful than others depending on the wording. Then there were some that were outright lies, someone posting about amazing passes when their DC hadn't actually passed. That upset me more than the posting of results as it made me feel sad that the person had to lie about it rather than not just feeling proud of their DC for trying so hard (which they had). There was no need to post at all.

Sharing happy news is what FB etc is for IMO but I wouldn't post actual grades as its not my news to share that's all. My DS has a job which is in the public eye and I'm always posting stuff he's done, I feel that me posting how much he got paid for it is a step too far as its personal, as is their actual grades.

God someone on my FB has put grades along with old school letters in brackets! Presumably so that all the old relies know what 7, 8 and 9s are. That is beyond cringe.

It's pretty crass to do this. Both DCs did exams this yr, their results are theirs to share, not mine.