Did you share your DC exam results (SATs, GCSE, A level, degree, whatever) to everyone on your SM page? If so why?

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Even if you only have a very small amount of followers who genuinely know you (like me) - do you think this is a cool thing to do? Even if you are exceptionally proud? Why would you post up their exact results?

But can't you tell your children themselves that you're proud of them? Isn't that more important than putting it on social media for other people. My parents managed to let me know that they were proud of me long before the days of social media.

I shared ds's Btec results as he was written off by one school but fortunately another school and his college believed in him.

Not on my social media, no.

I did WhatsApp my family group chat and DH’s family group chat though (with her permission). My DD has complex SEN. She had to retake Maths and English. Didn’t quite get her Maths, but did pass English. Everyone had been asking, and all super pleased for her

Well done to your DC @FlemCandango. I wanted to shout DD's degree from the rooftops, not because I wanted to boast, but because I was so proud of her achievement in spite of the hurdles she faced.

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No I didnt share and was quite shocked at how many on FB posted the actual piece of paper with their kids full results on it! Plus don't get me started on the "we passed" NO "we" didn't - your child did the study, your child sat the exam and your child got the result!

To be honest I did feel like I contributed to my DC results. It is disingenuous to say you didn't. With kids needing, spaces to study, support, encouragement etc. etc. For DD she needed support getting an EHCP in place as the school didn't think she needed one so I pushed on regardless and applied while she was in year 10 and the difference between her results in mocks in y10 and y11 pre and post EHCP justified that. DD needed help to organise her study, we created a timetable kept on top of her meds etc. DD did the work no doubt and she deserves the results she got but we as parents facilitated.

Children without SEN need support as well and cheerleading, a home proper nutrition all that stuff is important. Every child is different in what they need but they don't raise themselves.

I am not taking credit for my kids hard work/ acheivments but I do feel they needed our support and still do.

Saying that I didn't post the results in detail/ grades etc. I only saw one post on FB that did but I couldn't read the print on my phone anyway.

I've never posted grade details and never posted anything at all without DC's permission. Just kept it to congratulations and that's it.

Why would I share my child’s news on my social media?

No , neither for gcse or A level results or Uni admission , no-one else cares outside the family .

Shared on a group WhatsApp screenshot of the schools website blurb name checking the top pupils because half the mums on the group chats kids were named and they hadn’t seen it! After I did it I fretted about the kids it didn’t name but figured it’s on the schools website anyway and the mums whose kids were named were thrilled. Never share my own kids results except with extended family (teachers themselves and involved in our lives).

If they have done their best ,then both sets of parents have every right to be proud ,not everyone can be high achievers, if my son manages grade fours next year, I will be proud as punch.

So we're agreed it's pretty naff of Geri Halliwell to put up her DD's exact results for pretty much all the world to see?

...was quite shocked at how many on FB posted the actual piece of paper with their kids full results on it
Yes. My phone was pinging with notifications for this kind of thing before my DS's school was even open for results. I found it a bit distasteful and can't deny that it added to my anxiety as I was waiting for him to reappear with his.
"Well done, we're really happy" is fine in my book, but sharing precise grades and marks is going too far. I didn't even put DS's results sheet in the extended family WhatsApp group even though others have, as I don't think that degree of detail needs to be shared. If DS wanted to share it he would do it himself, and it is after all his data, not mine.

Nope

My DS didn't do as well as he'd hoped, but managed to get into his first choice Uni through clearing. No one needs to know that, or why the change. As far as anyone is concerned he's doing exactly as he wanted (courses very similar anyway).

One of DS's best mates parents put it on theirs, obviously very proud, but I could imagine his son cringing!

No, I wouldn't because I don't post much on social media but it bugs me that people think it's so awful to post about GCSE or A level results but it's completely fine to post about sporting achievements, amazing artwork, acting achievements and so on.

My kids are fairly academic but completely unsporty and uncreative. I wouldn't ask people whose kids are very good in these areas not to post for fear of upsetting me because my kids aren't as good. Why can't we celebrate every child's achievement?

I didn't post to social media, but did tell family and a few friends who don't have children old enough for exams.

I'm really proud of my daughter, she has really struggled. She is waiting for an autism assessment, had around 50% attendance and its been tough.

I also know its nothing to do with me, she did this on her own. I haven't pushed her to attend school and to be honest have encouraged her not to worry about her exams as staying alive is more important.

A few people messaged, as they'd seen her in the top 10 post the school had put up. I want her to be happy, healthy and to not put so much stress on herself.

My Ds has a learning disability which means he didn’t get any GCSES. I dread results day on Facebook as while I get that people have the right to be proud, it’s like a dagger to my heart when I know that he will never achieve this. So I stay off SM on those days, it’s my issue to deal with.
That said, I dislike any boasting on Facebook etc. I rarely post but when I do it’s something funny that’s happened to me or something I found interesting.

Mine and DP’s mums are in their late 40s. My mum isn’t on social media but MIL is. She is an over sharer on FB and DP has gotten into an argument with her on many occasions. I was an A grade student and achieved a 1st class degree but I would’ve been mortified if my mum posted about me on SM. She told family members either in person or over the phone, not on SM or WhatsApp groups.

No, I just put that he'd got the grades needed for college. He has family in different countries, so it saved texting them all individually.

It’s not mums results to share … I’ve got young teens and they really don’t want me sharing their achievements .. 11+ / athletics results etc .. so I know I won’t be sharing Major exam results … they don’t even want pictures of them up now .. I just about get away with a group family shot

No. I didn't tell anyone irl either, not even my parents. It was up to DD who she wanted to share the news with, not me.

Don't get me wrong @FlemCandango of course parents support as much as they are able and play a part. The achievement and the moment in my mind at least does however belong to the child.

This!

Tell your child that you are proud of them. The world doesn’t care, honestly. Okay so Gran and Gramps care of course, but tell them in person.

The posts are smug, and are a kick in the guts for parents of those who haven’t done well.

There is no need to share!

I did ask DD first if I could share her degree success BTW. Among my friends it is not only accepted, but expected that we do so.