Did you share your DC exam results (SATs, GCSE, A level, degree, whatever) to everyone on your SM page? If so why?

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Even if you only have a very small amount of followers who genuinely know you (like me) - do you think this is a cool thing to do? Even if you are exceptionally proud? Why would you post up their exact results?

Absolutely not - it's really vulgar and there are plenty of ways to show you're proud. I haven't seen anyone posting grades this year which is wonderful. Glad most people here feel similarly.

Nope. Did a generic super proud, well done yadda yadda, but it’s not cool to go blabbing their results without their say so. It’s not my news, THEY did the work and it’s THEIR time to shine - not mine.

No I won't be doing it - it's wrong

I don’t think I would but…is it different to parents saying ‘X got selected for the school football team’? Because it does seem to be. I had the kind of grades everyone’s talking about as being boastfully shared but DSis made all the school teams and did amazing art…which nobody seems to object to being shared. Which feels oddly like double standards, after all I would have loved to have been as sporty as DSis.

X got selected for the school football team is more similar to Y did really well in their GCSEs surely?

Whereas X was the star player in the match, they made 50% of the plays, marked the opposition star player so well that they were effectively out of the game, had 7 attempts and scored a goal .... is more similar to the list of actual GCSE results.

I always think lists of results are meaningless without context anyway. On the GCSE results thread there is (rightly) much celebration of children who haven't got strings of 8 and 9s but have triumphed in their own ways.

My dd failed all hers a few years ago so, no. It's horrendous for those that fail to see all that boasting. It's tasteless too. Then I "like" the post with a sour taste in my mouth.

No. I don't reference my kids at all. Stopped all that years ago. Even the proud of and smashed it ones get on my nerves. It still feels like a subtext for 'they got all As/9s' whatever.

No grades. Only that in proud. Only knobs
post the grades.

Fair point. And I cannot imagine sharing the actual breakdown of the grades…I’m shuddering internally.

I'm afraid I'm a real curmudgeon these days, I don't even like the 'proud parent' posts either, even if the results are not listed.

No, I put a "very proud/he's done well" post, mainly because my newsfeed was so busy with similar threads that I didn't want people to think he'd done badly if I said nothing. Plus I do have a lot of friends who genuinely wanted to know how he'd done, but to the "Good thanks, and he can do his chosen A levels" level of detail not "so what mark did he get in physics paper 2" - I've absolutely no interest in those types of conversation and I don't think it's my info to share anyway.

GCSE and A levels, not in detail. Just a general well done, no grades mentioned.

Degree, yes.

BUT, the only people I am friends with on Facebook are actual RL friends who were interested in DD's outcome as she had battled ill health throughout her degree. She overcame a lot, including a bout of covid in the middle of her dissertation. She did well to complete her degree in spite of her issues.

I messaged family and 1 close friend with actual results. On Facebook I just said we were very happy with the results.
I've seen some more boastful ones but none that have put specific grades.

No one apart from family and close friends are even remotely interested in what results other kids got .
This goes for most stuff that people post social media imo.

Only anonymously on the results thread here, just the numbers, not the subjects. I haven't seen much from any parents, only from the school saying how well they did.
I never post anything personal anyway, no holiday pictures, nights out, kids parties, nothing like that.

Absolutely not! I even roll my eyes at "very proud/ well done" comments. I suppose any boasting on SM is crass really. It just serves to make others feel bad.

Boasting just potentially makes others jealous and insecure. Not sure why anyone would want to do that.

I put on a ‘ds did well and I’m very proud post’ (with ds’s permission) but didn’t put his actual grades.

No - one friend has WhatsApped us (those with dcs who have done GCSEs too) to let us all know that her son got all 7-9s) - she has gone right down in my estimation, so crass!!

Nope- its thoughtless.
I have very limited followers, deliberately and still wouldn’t.
I may post something when I drop her off at Uni though. Not results and not about the Uni- just the milestone iyswim .

This is such a British attitude. Mustn't show pride in children's achievements, Mustn't ever let anybody think we are getting above ourselves.

Do you think other nationalities are like this? I bet they're not!

No. It is utterly crass and embarrassing.

Meh - this year I have 2 DC with exam results DS A levels and DD GCSEs - they are both autistic, DD has ADHD as well. They have worked incredibly hard and got brilliant results. I am fucking immensely proud. Yes I did do social media posts saying how proud I was, no I didn't say what grades. I did say ds got into Warwick and DD is onto A levels. I don't care if it is "bad form" or tacky they have overcome so much stress it has been really hard supporting them. I wanted to shout it from the flipping rooftop so I was actually quite restrained.

Two of my friends have, one child had really amazing results, the other was mixed. Both saying they were proud of their kids.

I didn’t last year. Just thanked people for their lovely wishes and confirmed that DS would be going to study specified A Levels. He made phone calls to those who he wanted to tell and I contacted godparents (who I knew DS wouldn’t think to tell, although he gets on well with them!). Very few friends put up results this week or last week.

I don't but quite like it when others do so I can see their pleasure in a child I've known since a baby.