How do you people respond to demands that are said rudely?

[curiousitygotthebetterofme]

Just the other day, I was sitting at my desk in work and one of my bosses was also sitting at hers. She wanted to me to come over and sign a bit of paperwork, so she turned round to face my direction and said “come here, Susan”

I would have preferred her to say “Susan, would you mind coming over here please” rather than just demanding I come over.

I really felt like saying “oh, were you talking to me? You didn’t say please” but then there were others in the room and id actually feel like the rude one when really she should be the one feeling rude.

I also have a colleague who would say stuff like “put that in the bin for me” with no please or thanks and I just do it like I’m some sort of lapdog there at their beck and call.

Is there a more appropriate way to respond to such rudeness? Or should I just put up with it? Really don’t want to have to do that though. I wouldn’t dream of being so rude and if I was unintentionally rude, I’d correct myself .

I hate rudeness and bad manners. The only advantage of being in my sixties is that I no longer shrink from confronting rude people.
I work with a chap who can be quite nasty and very grumpy and I used to ignore him but now I just ask if he's going to be a dick all day or will he sort himself out. He is retiring soon and I'm glad. Saying that he is a nice bloke when he's not at wor, we have nice nights out but he has had enough of working and it shows.

The phrase “you people” is widely considered rude btw, I noticed it as an oddity in your title as well. Eg see here - ell.stackexchange.com/questions/295966/explain-you-people-please

I thought the same - feels dismissive

No not the way I meant my title - I worded it like that as I talking to everyone and not specific people and given there are so many people using this site!

You could always have a private word with people on how they could reword so as to not come off as rude.

It would be more polite to say “how do all of you…”, for example. A great many people find the phrase “you people” to be rude however it is intended, so something to be aware of if you care about good manners.