Something awful happened to me..

[Hurtingneedssoothing]

2 nights ago something pretty bad happened, I don't want to explain or go into it.

Apart from the feelings associated and feel thoroughly depressed, I just don't know what to do.

Im trying to find a film or a book, preferably a book just to take my mind of things. I cant go out anywhere but I need to do something as distraction.

Can you recommend any books I can read? I like a lot of true life stuff and I also like crime and action books. I'll also read young adult and some romance.

I have the kindle app.

Any help would be great! Thanks

I'm glad you've eaten something, and had some sleep. That's really important self care.

Do you like to cook? I've just worked out what to have for dinner, that doesn't involve getting my kitchen hot! My family are a bit sick of cold food, but I'm not prepared to use heated appliances right now!

Try reading these if you can www.countryliving.com/life/g32347959/bible-verses-about-stress/

OP, do you know the Charlie Mackesy sketches? Google them as they are very lovely and gentle and thought provoking

Shout was OK, I would have preferred a woman but its not their fault.

Im thinking about having a bath, will it help things heal quicker if I put some salt in? I've heard about it many times but I have no idea if it's just an old wives tale.

I think ill look through the book recommendations and find something to read in the bath.

A little salt in the bath can be helpful. Before you do that, would you like to get checked out somewhere, just in case? I believe it can be helpful to keep your clothes in a bag, too.

I'll try some salt.

I dont want to get checked out. Or keep my clothes or anything. I just want to try and get through the next few days. I just want this sadness to get better.

My life has turned upside down in the matter of days and I don't know how to cope. I cant stand this feeling I'm feeling.

I dont know what to do. I cant tell anyone in real life.

Was it someone you thought you could trust who hurt you OP? Don't feel like you have to answer, I know you might not want or feel able to.

I read you should play a numbing game like tetris after a bad experience

Ok.
So, to help with aches and pains Dr Pickle prescribes the correct does of ibuprofen and paracetamol. It's worth counting out the day's allowance and putting it out. It really helps.

A warm bath, lots of water to drink.

Lavender, arnica, aloe vera are good on grazes and bruises.

Hot water bottle/cold packs on any particularly sore areas, alternating.

Comfort food. Ice cream. Custard. Chocolate.

Looking after yourself will help you feel better.

Are you somewhere safe now?

Yes, someone I trusted. My thoughts are all totally jumbled.

Yeah im safe, chocolate cake and custard is sounding pretty nice about now!

Are those things ok to use anywhere?

Im so embarrassed, and so ashamed.

They are ok to use on childbirth injuries.

They promote healing.

Can you get everything you need? I can Amazon prime you some stuff, if you'd like?

All the little things you do to look after yourself- the soothing music, the comforting foods, the baths and creams- they will all help you heal emotionally as well as physically.

I've got a link to a website with information about various helplines.
Would you like me to pm you, or post it here?

OP I'm really very sorry that you are going through this. You have absolutely nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed about.

The Morbid Podcast is great for true crime.

I hope you're ok.

I can get those things, I'll amazon prime them.

I dont think im ready for helplines, but maybe you could pm the details and I'll have them there if I do want to look through them? Thank you.

I dont actually know what a pod cast is, I always thought they were for people with ipods which I've never had haha

Thanks everyone, it helps knowing that a bunch of strangers are being this caring

A podcast just means a programme that's available anytime, not just broadcast at a specific time. So you can go to the BBC page, look up podcasts, and play something.

I like the Archers omnibus! There's audiobooks, and programmes about science, literature, economics... all sorts of distractions.

I've pm'd you that link, for if you decide you want a look.

Feeling really low tonight, i just dont know how i can stop hurting

I like crime things so maybe I'll try to find one of those podcasts

I was going to suggest older child/ya books as they are easier when you are recovering from a shit thing.

It's early days. You'll need time. There will be more hard days, but there will be some better days too.
You'll find your anger, too, one day.

I'm off to sleep now, OP. I hope you find some good distractions. If in doubt, have more ice cream!

@picklemewalnuts thank you for everything

don't ever feel ashamed @Hurtingneedssoothing . Fuck that emotion into a pit.