3rd child age gap (1 & 2 less than 2 years apart, then 4 year gap) is it good?

[Mum2HC]

Hello

I have a 3 and 5 year old, we have been going around in circles for a year about having a 3rd.
i am just 33, husband just 35. We have a great life, v v lucky financially, have space both self employed and v flexible jobs. We all get on great, obviously with the usually family life arguments and stresses thrown in.

why can we not commit to having a 3rd? We are worried it will mess everything we have up, but both imagine the larger family in the future. We are both 1 of 3.

i love the idea of having 1 to 1 baby time while both the others are at school/pre school. I had them both at home full time for the first year of second child’s life so this feels different!
Is a 4 year and 6 year age gap hard work as they get older? 18, 16 & 12 seems v different to 6, 4 and baby!

Would love to hear your views.

Can’t decide if we regret not going for it more than making everything harder!!

Sorry I meant I’m going to try and be happy and move on. I will update if anything changes as still v confused!

@Mum2HC did you go on to have a third child? X

Yes I did!!

@Mum2HC congratulations! :)
How are you finding it and what were your age gaps? Xx
Just found out expecting planned 3rd but freaking out. Anxiety getting the better of me unfortunately.

Thank you! Kids were 3 & 5 when I got pregnant and 4 & 6 when baby arrived.
it’s obviously more work and back to broken sleep but so far we’re still happy with the decision! It’s so good not having the constant debate of should we/shouldn’t we anymore and I definitely feel completely done now!! Xx

@Mum2HC have your other two adapted well? Has it had a positive impact on them?

I would say that obviously some of my attention has been taken from them and we have had a bit more ‘interesting’ behaviour at times but they absolutely LOVE baby and she gives more than she has taken away from them.
i definitely feel we made the right choice for our family xx