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Does anyone else get pushed down the food chain at home or am I just a mug?

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Rockbird · 06/08/2022 20:25

Just about sick of it now. Bought ingredients for pizzas tonight including a massive bag of mozzarella. Two daughters and one husband have made theirs, went to make mine, no cheese left. It happens with EVERYTHING. I buy yogurts I like, make sure everyone else has what they want, guess what? Books I've had since I was a child are wrecked and lost, everyone dumps their toys/clothes/crap in my bedroom. Kids are 14 and 10 and husband is 50 FFS. Totally the last straw tonight. Am thoroughly pissed off with it all. I just don't matter at all.

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MrsLargeEmbodied · 06/08/2022 20:27

oh dear,
couldnt one person have made all the meals?
how mean

ElegantlyTouched · 06/08/2022 20:27

What did they say when you pointed out there was none left for you? If I were you I'd be having first dibs on everything and let them fight over the rest.

dreamingbohemian · 06/08/2022 20:30

I'm sorry that's awful. I don't think that's normal at all.

What did you say tonight when it happened?

Its not your fault but it's not going to change unless you give them hell

everylittlehelp5 · 06/08/2022 20:30

I feel your pain. I hide things for me in the salad drawer of the fridge I have done for a long time. They have never found my stash, because they never look in there.

easyday · 06/08/2022 20:31

Why didn't you make them all together?
And what did they say when you pointed out they left nothing for you?
Next time you get to choose first, make your pizza first etc.

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Rockbird · 06/08/2022 20:31

Everyone made their own, they like doing that with pizza and I wasn't hungry at the same time. That bit was fine. They just shrugged. That was it. It know it's only cheese but it was just the last straw.

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PuttingDownRoots · 06/08/2022 20:32

Husband can go to shop for more cheese.

Baldieheid · 06/08/2022 20:35

That's truly selfish. Even a 10 year old is capable of working out they only get a quarter of the pack if there are 4 people. I'd be really hurt, and I'd tell them how hurt I was, along with how selfish and inconsiderate it was of them. Repeatedly.

Goodskin46 · 06/08/2022 20:36

I sympathise I bought a huge bag of bombay mix a week ago. Went to get some tonight- gone.

LizzieSiddal · 06/08/2022 20:36

They just shrugged. That was it. It know it's only cheese but it was just the last straw.

But it isn’t about the cheese is it? It’s about the fact your H and children don’t think about leaving enough food for you. The fact they “just shrugged”, is dreadful. At the very least they should apologise.

Are they unkind and selfish to their friends at school etc or just with you?

NoSquirrels · 06/08/2022 20:37

They just shrugged. That was it.

And you… lost your shit at them? Told them in no uncertain terms they’re all selfish? Sent DC with DH to the shop to replace? Or just sadly got on with your no-cheese pizza?

I make sure I matter in my house. I am vocal about selfish behaviour. It doesn’t eliminate it entirely but it does mean it’s properly addressed and rectified if needed and everyone thinks twice…

TeapotTitties · 06/08/2022 20:38

But what was the consequence?

Cognacsoft · 06/08/2022 20:39

Yes OP they’re selfish.
But as long as they get away with it nothing will change.
Tomorrow go out and buy yourself a nice lunch and when they ask what’s for dinner just shrug and say, I don’t know, I’ve eaten.

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Rockbird · 06/08/2022 20:42

I told them exactly what I thought and abandoned the bloody pizza. I'm pretty vocal when I'm pissed off too but it doesn't seem to have much effect. I'm just done with it all tonight.

They're pretty good kids but seen to have a blind spot where I'm concerned.

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Original poster
Rockbird · 06/08/2022 20:42

I know, I sound pathetic and that really isn't usually me.

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SleepingStandingUp · 06/08/2022 20:43

Two daughters and one husband have made theirs, went to make mine, no cheese left who had it last? What happened when you asked?

I buy yogurts I like, make sure everyone else has what they want, guess what? how long are they in the fridge before you don't get one? If they're eating three a day just to use them up that's different to you buying four to last a month. Or you label one in each name.

Books I've had since I was a child are wrecked and lost not sure what the story is there but what were the consequences for whomever destroyed them?

everyone dumps their toys/clothes/crap in my bedroom dump it back into their room, what consequences are in place?

Skyeheather · 06/08/2022 20:44

If I'm putting food out for a buffet or help yourself tea I always secretly make mine in the kitchen as I'm getting everything ready otherwise all the good stuff will be gone when I sit down last/everyone is already stuffing their faces before I've got anything on my plate!

Order yourself a takeaway pizza and sit and eat the whole thing in front of them, offering them none, they'll remember it next time.

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 06/08/2022 20:45

everylittlehelp5 · 06/08/2022 20:30

I feel your pain. I hide things for me in the salad drawer of the fridge I have done for a long time. They have never found my stash, because they never look in there.

Me too!! Can't believe no-one has clocked this but l hide nice stuff under all the salad!

TeapotTitties · 06/08/2022 20:46

I told them exactly what I thought and abandoned the bloody pizza. I'm pretty vocal when I'm pissed off too but it doesn't seem to have much effect. I'm just done with it all tonight.

It doesn't have any effect because there are no consequences by the sound of it.

TeapotTitties · 06/08/2022 20:47

And hell would freeze over before I resorted to hiding food in my own house.

That's glossing over the problem of living with people being selfish, not dealing with it.

thefishgame · 06/08/2022 20:49

You don't sound pathetic, OP. I'd be hurt by it all too.

Explain division in equal parts and then send them to the shop to replace!

Maireas · 06/08/2022 20:50

TeapotTitties · 06/08/2022 20:47

And hell would freeze over before I resorted to hiding food in my own house.

That's glossing over the problem of living with people being selfish, not dealing with it.

Quite! Imagine living with people so selfish.

Maireas · 06/08/2022 20:51

Why are they treating you with so little respect? Why isn't your husband intervening?

bingotime · 06/08/2022 20:52

Rockbird · 06/08/2022 20:42

I told them exactly what I thought and abandoned the bloody pizza. I'm pretty vocal when I'm pissed off too but it doesn't seem to have much effect. I'm just done with it all tonight.

They're pretty good kids but seen to have a blind spot where I'm concerned.

So do mine. But I realise now I allowed this to happen.

Yours are younger so you might be able to turn things around.

BronwenFrideswide · 06/08/2022 20:59

TeapotTitties · 06/08/2022 20:47

And hell would freeze over before I resorted to hiding food in my own house.

That's glossing over the problem of living with people being selfish, not dealing with it.

Likewise.

Quite! Imagine living with people so selfish.

It's unbelievable isn't it?

How have you managed to not only marry/have a partner so selfish and inconsiderate and raise two children who behave the same?

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