Soon to be first time mom here.
Disturbed by one of Hubbys sister. Anytime me, my hubby, my MIL, or anyone else in family talks about us as soon to be parents to our baby, she interrupts and says its her baby, we are only giving birth and giving her the baby. I am only in my first trimester and this is my first pregnancy after 4 years of marriage. It deeply disturbs me that she eliminates us everytime. I know that she is affectionate but she needs to be respectful to our feelings as soon to be parents too. I am not giving birth to my baby to hand over to her even though i know she doesnt mean that literally but it still annoys me I cannot stand it. She is single in her 30s and lives at home with MIL.
Anyone been in a similar situation?
I feel like telling my MIL to have a word with her because i am very close to all in laws but thats gonna be difficult for MIL as SIL doesnt listen to her anyway.
She also has the type of over sensitive personality that if she doesn't like something that is said to her, she will spoil the atmosphere and throw the biggest bad moods around, also then she will badmouth without delay and cry tears infront of MIL.
Hubby knows her attitudes and hates them too but always tells me to ignore her as we live in another country. He says she is not worth reacting to as she will otherwise try to spoil my relation with my inlaws. Her elder sisters btw also are aware of her negative attributes and even MIL but no one ever says anything to her so she knows she can say anything and get away.
How do I deal with this? I do live abroad but connect daily with MIL as consider her like my mom and she is beyond lovely. If SIL happens to be there, that's when comments are made over the phone. She is far but still needs to be respectful towards our feelings.