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Would you be hurt?

82 replies

poppydood · 27/07/2022 11:41

I was seeing a guy (who I met through mutual friends )
He messed me around,slept around (then said we weren't official ) then he spoke about us getting together...
Anyway last Friday we went out and he stayed over.
Saturday morning we were having breakfast and he smiled as he got a text and said
"That's Kelly I know you don't like her,she's asking me to go for a drive when I'm home"
I asked if he agreed to go and he said yes.
Then when he got home I rang him and we spoke for 2 hours -as he was getting ready for her to pick him up.
I got upset and he said I was being silly as they were only friends (they had slept together )
That night he got back and text me-I asked if they kissed and he said "no she kissed me"
He told me not to get jealous.

Yesterday he sent me a screenshot of Kelly asking to meet up saying "oh look it's your favourite "

Then that night he disappeared
I text asking if he was out with her and he sent me a picture of her
I replied asking why he was doing this to me...he responded
"Hi it's Kelly,sorry he is a bit busy now..can I help"

The day after he was texting me as normal

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 27/07/2022 12:17

Block and delete

Giggorata · 27/07/2022 12:18

Hurt? Maybe at first, but yes, it does sound as though he enjoys hurting you and the power he holds.
So it is time to get fucking livid and get shot of him.

IncompleteSenten · 27/07/2022 12:19

Why are you still having anything to do with him?
He's a twat. Walk away. Don't carry on choosing this shithead.

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Knackeredmommy · 27/07/2022 12:20

You know this man is being deliberately cruel and is no good, so the question is why are you entertaining this BS and when are you going to tell him to fuck off and block him?

IncompleteSenten · 27/07/2022 12:20

Didn't answer your question.
No. I wouldn't be hurt. I'd be furious with myself for being such a mug at this point.

juicylucy34 · 27/07/2022 12:22

Yeah I wouldn't be hurt, I'd be livid and quite disgusted. He's getting kicks (and probably a big ego boost) from seeing you get jealous and upset. Why would you give him the satisfaction? Let Kelly have him.

GoT1904 · 27/07/2022 12:27

He won't change :/ he really won't. You'll end up with a messed up head, heart and self esteem issues. Please get out. This is awful.

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poppydood · 27/07/2022 12:41

I did the stupid thing and told him he's making me feel worthless
Asking him what they have that I don't etc etc
I don't think I can redeem myself from this now can I

OP posts:
User000111 · 27/07/2022 12:46

Why would you let a crappy man treat you like that? chasing after him and begging for his attention while he treats you like absolute dirt. He doesn't respect you at all, he's making a mug of you.

Sunnysideup · 27/07/2022 12:47

Op how old are you all? I’m assuming very young. Look just end it. No one can make yo7 feel worthless unless you let them. He’s seeing someone else and doesn’t want an exclusive relationship, you do so just finish it.

Nothingfallingdowntoday · 27/07/2022 12:50

poppydood · 27/07/2022 11:48

It's like he is getting a kick out of seeing me hurt.

Yes he is and you are choosing to enable him to do so.

He is not your friend or interested in a relationship with you. Stop being used by someone who is not good for you.

HollowTalk · 27/07/2022 12:51

Why are you having anything to do with this immature, nasty man? You can do so much better than him.

Disydoll12 · 27/07/2022 12:57

Take back your power and stop entertaining this dumb ass. Block him and never speak to him again, he is a complete loser. Have some respect for yourself, he has none for you.

AffIt · 27/07/2022 12:58

Jesus Christ - get some self-respect and block this sadistic twat now.

I would also look into getting some counselling for why your bar is so low that it's practically a tavern in Hades.

Eviebeans · 27/07/2022 13:08

People can only ever treat you as badly as you'll allow them to.

TibetanTerrah · 27/07/2022 13:11

Grab what's left of your dignity and block him now. Never ever speak to him again.

Cantbeliveyoufakeit · 27/07/2022 13:19

You need to think through potential outcomes here OP. If you tell him to fuck off and block him now what will happen? You'll be upset for a little while and then you'll move on as we all naturally do when something ends.

And what happens if you carry on allowing him to treat you like this? You get gradually more unhappy, your self esteem shrivels to nothing along with your self respect and, depending on how long it goes on for, you end up with poor MH and potentially life-long unhealthy relationship patterns which only damage you further.

It's time to be both brave and sensible, walk away now while you're relatively unscathed because there is only more hurt to come with this man.

Caminante · 27/07/2022 13:21

He is awful!! Who does that?
Put him in the bin, and do it now. The other girl is welcome to him!!

GoSomewhereThatDoes · 27/07/2022 13:21

poppydood · 27/07/2022 12:41

I did the stupid thing and told him he's making me feel worthless
Asking him what they have that I don't etc etc
I don't think I can redeem myself from this now can I

Yes, you absolutely can redeem yourself. You look yourself in the mirror and you tell yourself that he could have had you completely. But he didn’t want you. He wanted to mess around with half a dozen women at a time and have them all sniping at each other with jealousy. He’s not the prize here, you are! He’s made his choice and the other women can have him.

Then you block and delete. No goodbye texts or explanations. He doesn’t get to tell you that he doesn’t want you, then expect you to still come running when he’s bored or Kelly is busy. Delete every text message, voice mail and photo. Don’t watch anything or listen to anything that reminds you of him. Don’t answer the door if he knocks. You are too good to be treated like this.

ladydimitrescu · 27/07/2022 13:25

Ffs get rid. Honestly in the nicest way, you're allowing him to treat you this way. Set a higher standard for yourself. You aren't tied to him in any way, nothing stopping you from getting away.

Ewwwwhelp · 27/07/2022 13:25

Do you have a vulnerability that makes it more difficult for you to see these things usually like autism?
obviously you delete and block.
Your only other choice is to continue to see and talk to him and be miserable indefinitely

Googlecanthelpme · 27/07/2022 13:28

Jesus, block and delete him immediately.

Hes a nasty little fucktard who gets pleasure out of hurting women.

Why the hell would you want to spend any time or energy on someone like this?
block, delete, buy a book on feminism and set Yourself some new standards.

you are worth more than this, so is Kelly, and all the others

girlmom21 · 27/07/2022 13:31

Block him and get an STI check

GroggyLegs · 27/07/2022 13:31

No I wouldn't be hurt.
I'd be fucking furious.

Mostly with myself for entertaining any of this shit past 'he messed me around' in the second sentence.

I have never said this in my life but... block & delete.

RampantIvy · 27/07/2022 13:38

Great advice from @Cantbeliveyoufakeit and @GoSomewhereThatDoes.

If you allow him to think he can behave like this he will continue to do so.

And get an STI check.