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Would you enjoy going on holiday with just your kids without your dh?

60 replies

LovelyYellowLabrador · 22/07/2022 20:45

And do you think that’s normal

I enjoy it when dh comes on holiday with us but it’s more relaxed if he doesn’t

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MrsTerryPratchett · 22/07/2022 21:25

I love all the combinations. All of us, just me and DD, just DH and DD.

We're all excellent company Grin

Jagley · 22/07/2022 21:28

I took my ds on holiday just us numerous times including whole summers while he was growing up and we had an amazing time. I was a lone parent anyway.

Savingpeoplehuntingthings · 22/07/2022 21:30

Yes. I'm on a short break right now with just ds (12).
Next week myself, D's, DD (14), dh plus my adult child and her family are all holidaying together. Then later in the summer holidays I'm taking just dd and ds camping as dh doesn't like camping. I like mixing it up and everyone gets to do what they enjoy.

HotDogKetchup · 22/07/2022 21:30

I’ve done it more than once. Enjoyed my kids company and had a great time.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 22/07/2022 21:31

I love our one week us 4. I am also really looking forward to taking DS to London in the october half term, and dd just said yes to the offer of some ballet which will mean at least one night away.

I think I could do both dc on my own if it was fully catered.

TheCanyon · 22/07/2022 21:32

Ive never been away with just the dc but I think I would enjoy it, when dh is in hospital everything feels really quite calm at home and the kids do what I say. I stand for no shit but am pretty laid back, so it's just nicer, no stress. Dh is a grumpy shit atm and travelling really stresses him out.

I fancy a me and dc hols now.

EspeciallyDeIighted · 22/07/2022 21:34

I've only done it once due to him having a work emergency and missed having someone to share the driving with (it was 6 hours + in a day each way for a long weekend) but it was fine once we were there in fact I really enjoyed it. But there has never been reason to do it any other time. Never been abroad with them and without him but I'm a more confident traveller than he is so it would be fine I think.

christinarossetti39 · 22/07/2022 21:35

Yes. My dh doesn't like camping and after years of camping holidays where he just moaned all the time, we went without him (with friends).

We had a much more relaxed time, and no worries about a cat sitter.

ChateauMargaux · 22/07/2022 21:36

Yup.. and I love it!! Camping in a field tonight in the rain after a day in an amusement park. There hasn't been a single moment when I have felt under pressure.. DH would huff and perform about what we are doing next, about eating, about getting food for dinner, about cooking dinner, washing up, preparing for rain, prepring for bed. I just do it.. kids chip in and no one needs a medal.

PeanutAnarchy · 22/07/2022 21:50

Loved it when the kids were small and I was 'in charge' - if OH had been along too then it would have changed the dynamic.

We did all go away together too, but it was different.

As they've kids got older it was easier for us all to go away together as a 4. Then they could go off and do their own thing (they got on surprisingly well on holidays when no other friends were around)

I miss those days (sigh).

DontKeepTheFaith · 22/07/2022 21:58

I’ve done a short break with both dses which we all did enjoy but was very tiring.

Also did a holiday just with 13 year old Ds2 which was a struggle because he was in the midst of stroppy teens and hated me and everything else.

On balance I prefer to holiday with DH🤣

coffeecupsandfairylights · 22/07/2022 22:07

When I was younger all our holidays were split like this to minimise the amount of time I spent in childcare.

I regularly flew to Australia with mum to see her family, and dad and I did more active holidays to Europe. We'd go away together too but I have some great memories of those holidays and it definitely improved my relationship with my parents to have that chunk of quality alone time.

mindutopia · 22/07/2022 22:33

I enjoy both. We do family holidays but Dh and I both like certain types of time away. Dh is more wild camping and I’m more European city break. So we do periodically split up and he takes one camping and mountain biking and then another time I take one away to do museums, etc. it’s quite nice.

HorseInTheHouse · 22/07/2022 22:54

Hm never tried it or even considered it actually.. Maybe when they're a bit bigger but I like sharing the childcare and doing a bit of divide and conquer if one of them is playing up or they are bickering with one another. I think I'd get quite flustered just me and them.

I can definitely see the appeal of a holiday with just me and one of the children! But you can't very well pick a child to take on holiday when you've got more than one, unless you're taking many different holidays to make it fair and we're not in a position to do that.

Jjacobb · 22/07/2022 22:56

God no, we have six teenagers I need my wingman.
I wouldn't do the annual "big" holiday by myself but dh and I often take a single child away for a weekend of 1 - 1 time.

PrezelwithMarmite · 22/07/2022 23:26

No a very active 2 year old and a 4 year old. Who love to argue! Nope hell on earth.
Dh can though and ill go away on my own haha!

HauntingScream · 22/07/2022 23:31

Yes I would. My best holidays have been with me sister and her dcs and without our dh's.

L1ttledrummergirl · 22/07/2022 23:31

Dd (17) and I did this last year, we pitched a tent and had 4 days on the beach, just swimming, lazing and chatting. Dh hates this and prefers to be active so it's a different type of holiday when he's with us.

This year we are doing it again but with my parents, dsis and her family so I'm looking forward to doing nothing for a few days.

Dh went fishing for a few days which he enjoyed.

I also enjoy holidays with dh as well.

Kite22 · 22/07/2022 23:32

Depends at what ages they were at the time.

3 under 5 on a beach is quite hard to manage.

3 teens - lovely

alanabennett · 22/07/2022 23:34

Yes, I've done it a few times. I prefer DH to be there but we always have a wonderful time without him 😀

DH is Self Employed and Very Important and doesn't have as much vacation time as me (he does, of course, he's the boss, but he thinks his business will implode if he steps away.)

Weenurse · 22/07/2022 23:39

Went to Disney world with DD2.
DH had no wish to go and whinges about crowds and queues, he would have made it miserable for all of us.
We met him in Hawaii on the way home. DD2 flew home earlier than us and we had a few days as a second honeymoon. Advantage of having young adult DD.

MsPincher · 22/07/2022 23:50

I’m a single mum and go lots of holidays with my dds. It can be hard work at times but we have loads of fun. Why do you think it’s weird to take your kids on holiday?

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 22/07/2022 23:52

No because it wouldn't be as good without him. I've taken her away for a night or two but not a whole holiday.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 22/07/2022 23:52

often go away just me and my 16 month old

have done it regularly since she was about 6 months old

was especially lovely when she was really little and just slept on my lap on the plane 🙈 so peaceful - not as relaxing now but still fun all the same

we have little mammy daughter adventures together which I really enjoy

Yoloohno · 23/07/2022 00:06

i regularly go away without DH with various combinations of holidays.

DH loves chilling in an ai resort, I find it boring so I go exploring with the kids while he has a w em away from us to himself.

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