What’s the best age to have your first baby?

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Subjective I know but interested in people’s opinions on this. Know it’s 100% different for everyone and there’s a number of factors. Are you happy with the age you were/are or would you change it to younger or older, had circumstances been different?

I had sooo much fun in my 20’s and I find it confusing why people say you miss out. Just cos u have kids, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a social life and have a life outside of your kids. . I partied, I holidayed, I had great friends etc, I don’t feel I missed out on anything, truly I don’t

now I’m 43, I have so much freedom (and more money!) to live my best life now my kids are pretty much grown up. I honestly don’t think there’s any right or wrong age to have kids, it’s very Personal, but I see friends my age now (40s)with their toddlers and it would honestly be my worst nightmare to be in that position at my age. I most definitely want to now be ‘selfish’ and be all about me now at my age.

I was 30. Would maybe have left it a couple of years longer than that but not much more.

I think ideally 27/28 wld be a great age. Generally late twenties or early thirties.

I was 31. Waited until I was fully qualified in my career and then we married just before my 30th. So then we started trying and I was 31 when she was born. If the 2 things above had already happened then I think 27/28 wld have been the best age for me.

I had my first at 28, second at 34 and 3rd at 35. I found my first pregnancy much easier and it put it down to being younger. It could also be down to the fact that I didn't have other children to look after. My 3rd pregnancy was much easier than my 2nd but baby was smaller so easier I think 😂

I was 25 and honestly it was too young for me. Barely out of uni, never got to travel or anything then bam baby ... but it was unplanned and I'm disabled with multiple illnesses so I kept the baby on the basis of I might (probably) wouldn't ever be able to older.

So - if I was totally healthy I would have wanted to wait so I had a few years to have fun.

I was just 19 when I had my DD (I'm 58 now),and although at the time it felt totally normal to be having a baby at that age,when I look back now,I think wow,I was SO young! But to be honest,I'm glad I DID have her so young. We're very close now,whether that's because of the small age gap,I don't know. And it was nice to become a young grandmother at 43.
I don't think there is an ideal age to have your first baby, whatever feels right for you,I suppose. My DM was 36 when she had me,I was her third. She had my two older brothers at 28 and 30. She married at the age of 22,and kept working for 6 years before having my eldest brother in order to be able to afford it. My parents were living in rented accommodation for the first six years of their marriage,and wouldn't consider having a child until they'd saved enough for a deposit on their own house.

I was 34. Didn't meet DH until I was 29 then married at 31 followed by infertility. I wish we had sought help sooner, just as I wish we had met earlier in life, but that was obviously just how it was meant to be.

There isn’t really an answer for this as it’s different for everyone but I had my 1st at 31, 2nd at 36 and 3rd at 38. I am glad I waited till my 30s as I partied and traveled in my 20s plus built a career.

I had sooo much fun in my 20’s and I find it confusing why people say you miss out. Just cos u have kids, it doesn’t mean you can’t have a social life and have a life outside of your kids. . I partied, I holidayed, I had great friends etc, I don’t feel I missed out on anything, truly I don’t

Agreed. There's no ideal age, and I still did the same as everyone else, albeit with a bit more planning beforehand.

37 and 40- love it but wish I was a bit younger sometimes