I am XX years old and this week my Mum told me off for ...

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I am late 50s and my Mum (early 90s) ticked me off for not messaging her to say I'd arrived safely at my holiday destination (France). Ffs.

Please add your own. I'm going to put them on a list of things I am never going to nag my DC about.

We all turn into our Mothers

That I could handle!

My mum thinks any disagreement is disrespect. I'm never allowed to have my own perspective. Even if her perspective is that she's perfect and I'm mad. It's very hard to have any kind of relationship.

Not everybody turns in to their mother. Far from it.

My 30 year old son always texts to say he's arrived home safely (200 mile drive) 😀

Just before she died( I was 60) , my mother told me to get my hair cut and stop using “ common” hair dye. Apparently it was totally unacceptable to have longer than ear level hair at my age.
I remind my 40 year old regularly to get his mole check up. I took such great care of his skin when he was growing up and need to know he’s doing the same !
Once a mother always a mother. But hopefully not a critical one like mine was.

67 and my DAUGHTER complains if I forget to let her know that I have got home safely after leaving hers
Also if I am going away anywhere i have to let her know that I have arrived safely

I love all those, but then I get on with my mum and now as the parent of young adults realise that it truly never ends once you have kids.

My mum often tell me how to use facebook even though I showed her how to use it and am in IT. She often checks on us all if any plane/train crashes no matter how far away. I'm currently driving my kids mad with inane parenting stuff, circle of life init?

We all turn into our Mothers
Not true, I'm NC with mine and I alway say my mother twiggy me
how not to be a parent.

wrt hair and length and colouring it, my mother has a lot of opinions too.

I'm 52 and colour it but I remember when I was about 45 and a few greys were showing she was trying to talk me out of colouring them but talk me IN to getting my hair cut short. On both counts I did the opposite. Got the greys coloured and left it long.
I had to say to her eventually, Mum, I'm not looking for the approval of women in their 70s. And sorry if that sounds ageist. I've nothing against women in their 70s obviously but my mum had this belief that I must be trying to please her generation and only getting it wrong out of ignorance. Had to set her straight that if I were looking for anybody's approval and I'm not, not really, it'd be my own generation I think.

She was quite startled to be told that I did not CARE what women her age thought. I'm sure she thought I was very rude. But the number of times she'd given me ''guidance''.

I am 55 and my Mum often asks when I am going to stop bleaching my hair, remove my piercings, stop going to festivals/gigs and still hates the tattoos which I have had for 20 years

I’m 50 and my mum told me off twice today, once for forgetting ham in her online shop. And once because I went for a walk on my own and didn’t tell anyone my route ….

I know what you mean. My mother also twiggied me how not to be a parent! x

I am 44 years old and this week my Mum told me off for not ironing the kids school uniform. It is all non-iron.

Like my mum. She just doesn't get that you're your own person.

I'm quite conventional in my dress but my mother still hasn't grasped that I'm a separate person. It's the root of our estrangement.

It’s perfectly normal to worry.

I'm 55 , today my 27 year old has told me off for gardening Saturday and Sunday- too hot mum fgs same son who declined to come and help me do it in half the time 🙄

Is your mum my mum🤣??

40s - not using a voucher for a free coffee, and then I got another telling off for swearing about the free coffee I would have had to have driven 10 miles to get.

My mum tells me off for not untying my shoe laces properly and for not sitting properly on the sofa. I am 42 years old and have lived away from home since I was 18. I tell her off for doing stupid things like going in to loft to look for an old photo album on the one day of the year that's hit 27c and the loft is like an oven. She's 71 and I absolutely adore her. My sister gets told off for not taking off her make up properly when she stays.

When I was 60 and mother was 80, she reminded me to go to the toilet before heading off 😁

I'm 57 and visiting my mum in my hometown atm. She keeps telling me to call and say hello to all the neighbours .

She will not let me go to the supermarket on my own in case I spend too much money or buy too many goodies.(I do all the cooking when I visit )

Me too. I always text to say I got home after a visit or got to my destination. My sister always texts to say they’ve got home after a visit. You’re never too old to let family know you’re ok.

Not my mother as she’s dead but I was one of 5 people in the cinema and I got told off by an employee for looking at my phone - no idea what she actually said because it was loud. She didn’t tell me off for having my feet on the seat on from though. And she didn’t tell a man off for doing exactly as I did! Sexist or what

I was at the back and there was no one around everyone else were sat in the middle rows and I’m 49

This is a lovely thread ❤️

Both my parents were dead by the time I was 22.

DH's mum always wants to know he got home safely. She wants to know all the details of our lives - I find it really touching.

My dad used to call me at work to check I was ok, to tell me about the frogs in the pond or what he had planted in the garden. It used to infuriate me but I miss it so much now.