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Drunk neighbour is locked out of her apartment...

56 replies

smooththecat · 09/07/2022 00:42

I need your advice please.
She's locked out of her flat and is in the entryway to our apartments.
Very drunk, not making much sense.
Adamant that she won't allow me to call her dad, or a locksmith. She says dad lives around the corner.
She's sleeping on the stairs, I've put a blanket out there, a bucket, and a cup of tea. Is there anything else I should be doing?
I don't really know her. She showed up with a guy, but he got upset when I asked if she was safe with him, they argued a bit and he's gone. She can't remember that he was here.
I considered calling the police on 101, but probably not the right thing to do.

OP posts:
LadyBrienne · 09/07/2022 00:49

Personally I’d bring her in and put her to bed in my spare room … but that’s just me …. Giving her a blanket and a bucket is a good idea

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SausagePourHomme · 09/07/2022 00:50

Do you have a number for her friends or family?

Original poster
smooththecat · 09/07/2022 00:51

I don't have a spare room or bed unfortunately.

OP posts:
mrsfollowill · 09/07/2022 00:58

Leave her where she is- sounds like she is safe and will probably go to her Dad in the morning! If you have a bottle of water put that there for the morning.

ByeByeBoree · 09/07/2022 01:00

I actually would let the cops know tbh because then the ball's in their court. They probably won't do anything. But there's been an iffy bloke around so just to cover the situation I'd tell them what's up. Then I'd go to bed.

Bellyups · 09/07/2022 01:01

Add a bottle of water and let the police know.

Fingerscrossed22 · 09/07/2022 01:01

ByeByeBoree · 09/07/2022 01:00

I actually would let the cops know tbh because then the ball's in their court. They probably won't do anything. But there's been an iffy bloke around so just to cover the situation I'd tell them what's up. Then I'd go to bed.

Yep I'd call 101, if she is so drunk she cant remember him there, she isnt safe to leave tbh

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/07/2022 01:03

It's borderline for the police honestly. She sounds really confused. The man can't get back in the building, right?

WhackingPhoenix · 09/07/2022 01:06

I’d be worried she’s been spiked if she can’t remember the man being there and is so intoxicated she can’t function. Don’t think I’d just be leaving her in the hallway!

Original poster
smooththecat · 09/07/2022 01:17

The man has been gone quite a while now. He could get in as the main door is open. Instinctively I don’t feel that she’s in danger, but I’m probably going to be up all night listening. I’ve been on hold on 101 for 10 mins, not sure whether to give up. Might log it online.

OP posts:
ThirtyThreeTrees · 09/07/2022 01:19

She doesn't decide who you can call, you do.

Do you think she is a risk to herself or others?

I would call the police, they are qualified to do a assessment. 99% chance she will be fine but I know I would feel horrible if anything happened even though it wouldn't have been my fault.

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/07/2022 01:25

On the stairs passed out with an open door? Definitely police.

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/07/2022 01:26

If something happened you'd never forgive yourself.

TeeBee · 09/07/2022 01:26

Can you close the main door so nobody can get in?

Original poster
smooththecat · 09/07/2022 01:42

I can close the main door. I have filled in a 101 report online, can't get through on the phone. I don't think you can call 999 for a drunk person locked out.

OP posts:
Od130990 · 09/07/2022 01:43

You really do need to ring 101 OP she has probably been spiked; if she can't remember him being there & then goes when you approach, something isn't right.
Obviously it's nothing to do with you but that's someone's daughter, granddaughter, even someone's mum!
If no one looks out for each other than technically we all don't have nobody. ☹️

userxx · 09/07/2022 01:52

Od130990 · 09/07/2022 01:43

You really do need to ring 101 OP she has probably been spiked; if she can't remember him being there & then goes when you approach, something isn't right.
Obviously it's nothing to do with you but that's someone's daughter, granddaughter, even someone's mum!
If no one looks out for each other than technically we all don't have nobody. ☹️

Not necessarily been spiked, some people just get beyond pissed and can't remember anything, I've got a few friends like this.

LemonMuffins · 09/07/2022 02:02

I'd stay on hold with 101. Can't imagine they're super quick to respond to the online reports.

Can you see if her phone is unlockable to try and call her dad?

Original poster
smooththecat · 09/07/2022 02:07

I think she’s asleep. I did try to call her dad on her phone, she gave me the passcode. It rang three times and she took it off me and ended the call. I should have kept hold of it. Not sure there’s much else I can do at this point. I think she’s safe until morning.

OP posts:
MrsTerryPratchett · 09/07/2022 02:51

Thanks for looking out for her.

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2022 02:56

Why on earth would you have the main door open?!

Od130990 · 09/07/2022 03:11

@userxx but is it worth the risk? Quicker OP calls 101 & gets a response the quicker the woman gets attention and the paramedics can take blood & test for spiking. You don't think it's strange the man came back with her but the minute Op interfered the man disappeared? Nah fuck that; Op keep on trying 101 and get the lady help!

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 09/07/2022 03:16

BitOutOfPractice · 09/07/2022 02:56

Why on earth would you have the main door open?!

This.

Thirdsummerofourdiscontent · 09/07/2022 03:37

Are you sure she’s drunk and didn’t have her drink spiked. The man leaving when you asked if she was safe with him is very suss.