Reasonable to ask a guest not to do this when staying over?

[Celia24]

Ok so the caveat is the guest is my mother - but still a guest!

We were often at odds during my childhood as she loved a noisy house. TV or radio always on in in the background. I hated it and had a lot of sleepless nights because of it.

Anyway when she comes to visit she follows the same routine as at home. She loudly plays a radio show she always listens to, taking it into each room as she goes. Last time on Sunday morning she stayed over and played it loudly in the shower while I slept next door - it woke me up significantly earlier and annoyed me.

When I came into my living room she kept playing it. I think it's rude tbh - although I'd like her to feel at home but it isn't the same as being home. Am I being a bad host to say can you please keep it off when you stay?

Wow

I feel so sorry for a lot of these mums, seems to me like they are just trying to enjoy the company of their families and treating the place like home ( maybe it’s just me but I always want friends and family to do that) I didn’t realise people were so judgmental of their own DM’s and don’t just have a polite conversation and explain what problems are happening?
my mum can do things that annoy me or are just not convenient but I would never ever want to upset her or even put her off. If it was a big deal then I’d just tell her, she’s not a mind reader. My mum (and dd) gave me life so the way I see it is that I owe her, everything x

But it was a big deal so op told her. Nothing rude about that on op's side.

Going to someone's home and creating as much noise as possible is rude though.

Not all parents respond politely to a polite request. Not everyone has had a good relationship with their parents. The OP stated her mum was very controlling growing up and she moved out as soon as she could. Sometimes it’s the DC you need to save your sympathy for as some people are unlucky enough to have difficult or even toxic parents.

Buy her some headphones & an iPod, that you’ve downloaded a tuner onto, so she can listen to her show & not bother everyone with it.
I think it is rude to wake anyone with unnecessary noise.

My mums the same with constantly watching those stupid viral videos on her phone at full volume when she comes round, she even does it when we’re out to eat in public! So cringe!

I would have preferred to be aborted if you're supposed to 'owe them everything ' just because they gave you life. When my mother was still in my life, she repeatedly tried to smoke in my house around my kids. With your reasoning, I should have let her because she give birth to me?

Even with headphones you will have singing....

Tell to go home simple😊

YANBU

I read this exact OP about two weeks ago! I remember that it was your mum with her radio before I opened the thread and then recognised the phrasing "taking it into each room as she goes".

It's not a problem posting it again. I was just wondering if you'd tried any of the advice from last time because I'm curious if she stopped listening to it!

Exactly what @gamerchick said.